New grandchild & feeling guilty

It is your choice. Not your husband’s. I’m sure he can manage a bit longer. Sound like he might be a bit jelly.

I can only agree with everyone else. Time to support your family and enjoy your grandchildren as very precious. Husband can wait.
Just a thought, DH went off on the train leaving the car with you. He must have realised he'd have to manage without it for a while.

If it were me, I'd ask what my husband was missing about me not being there and take my stand from there. To be fair to the husband, we don't know his circumstances. Being stuck without a car in an urban area is doable. Living in the back of beyond, not so much. If he made me feel guilty and I thought he was being unfair, I would tell him that. After many years together, you should be able to have that conversation without angst. If you can't, maybe there's a bigger problem.
I can't imagine my husband making a fuss about me being away for the sake of my children. He would leave that decision to me. He might say he missed me, even moan about being stranded without the car but he would support my decision. I would accept his need to express his niggles but because I know he is actually very caring at heart, I would not feel guilty. If he made me feel like that, I would tell him and I can guarantee he would apologise, tell me that wasn't his intention before reiterating I should do what I felt was for the best.

No need to feel guilty, it’s only another few days and if you are happy then stay.

Definitely stay. Precious time with the newborn and your other grandchild. The new parents need support at this changing time in their lives, your husband will cope!

Stay! A bit late for him to be complaining about the short space between the little ones. A precious time. And they are trusting you with it, a privilege as well as a burden surely? He chose to leave he could still be with you?

No your husband is being selfish and interfering with your peace of mind. You could encourage him to think about people who have lost everything and everyonr in natural disasters or war but probably best to pretend you wish you were with him then forget all about him for the rest of the week.

Op

What do you want to do?

Your post is all about what you do for others.

Definitely stay and try not to let anything spoil this lovely time with the new baby and family. Instead of letting your husband put his guilt trip on you, you might use any spare time you have to think of how your life has evolved with him. Things change, sometimes hardly noticed, but can creep into patterns that you really dont want. We can all have our off days and need a little extra support but having this space may help you to look at how your "normal" days go now and then you might look back and see that several less than helpful or pleasant things have crept in. If your daughter at home is not still in junior school then it will do them both good to be responsible for themselves and realize how much you do for them, and that they should be responsible for themselves. If they dont know how to cook a meal, find their own clothes and do a bit of washing or cleaning up then it is about time they started!!

Then bide your time, when you get home and just watch how life unfolds and how things go with your new grandchild. When you see how the land lies, then you might look at what you feel would suit you and fit in to the general pattern, and then make arrangements accordingly. So you might find out the train or coach times to visit them, look into the cost of a railcard etc, if you plan to visit them regularly. If the lack of the car really is an obstacle for your husband say due to work, but he could also look into other ways of travelling. You are meant to be a partnership giving and taking. Not that he takes priority in all things.

Is it easy and convenient to stay with them, or could you look into finding a reasonable b/b close by, where you could spend time with the family but also have a bit of peace and quiet for yourself. Check up on the chinese, and cafes and fish and chip shops in the locality, to give you an easy quick meal. Get the menus from the ones near your home and put them in the drawer for your husband to use if he wants!

You could use this as a good moment to reflect on your life, see if there are some things that you always wanted to do, but with family life never got round to doing. Maybe it will lead to you and your husband finding new interests to share, or at least appreciating time with each other, from choice not just doing the same old routine ad nauseum. This lovely new chapter in your life should be enjoyed and remember to take lots of photos for you to look back on in the future. The rest of the family will be grateful for your help and sharing in this special time. Dont allow your husband to spoil it and you have no need to feel guilty in the least. Come back to us here to remind you of this if he persists in his toddler behaviour, saying Me Me Me Enjoy yourself and make the most of every special day

Definitely stay. You only get one chance at something like this.

Your husband will just have to cope as will your daughter and parents.

And when you get home if your decision is queried etc or guilt tripped dont join in. You can just say "It felt like the right decision for both me and them. I don't regret it" If you hear about any impact on others like the difficulty without the car or whatever just say. "Oh well thanks for coping!" Then change the subject or remove yourself.

I dont know if your husband is a sulker? If he is say above and then ignore it!

Has your husband always been selfish and petulant?

I'd stay .
But please don't wear yourself out trying to please the family.
That's what happened to me.

Congratulations on your new granddaughter. 🥳
Stay and enjoy the privilege of being asked to help at this very important time. 💐

Congratulations on your new GD 🎉

I would stay and help, your DH is old enough to look after himself.

A small inconvenience for DH in the great scheme of things…….stay and offer as much help as they need. As a pp has stated, DH is being childish, selfish and acting like a spoiled brat not invited to a party.

Stay; your husband is being childish and rather selfish.

Stay and enjoy precious time with your DS and his young family.
My Mum was a godsend when my children were being born and it strengthened our bond.
You don't say why your husband wanted to go home but to me he sounds like a lot of men of a certain age who think the world revolves around them and act like small children when it doesn't.
Being me, I would add another week on my stay and let him get on with it.

Tell your husband to act his age and not his shoe size.

What blessedart said

I support the train idea from grannybags too

Stay, your help will be appreciated, and congratulations,you must be over the moon.

Stay and enjoy your time with the DGC.
I am a paternal GM and did the same for my DS and DIL but DH stayed with me because he loved his GDs and wanted to be just as supportive.
A DH that walks away at a critical time is lacking in care.

It looks like every one so far is in agreement. You're clearly held in high regard by you DS and DIL to be asked to help out and they'll never forget your valued help. Stay and enjoy the little one for the few days you have left because you don't know how long it will be before you get to see him again. Honestly - why can't some men cope on their own for a while?!

Your DH can survive a few more days, as will your daughter and parents. Congrats on your new GD, enjoy your time with her, you live 250 miles away so frequent visits will not be possible, this will be ‘your’ time time with her that you can look back on when you are distance away. Tbh your DH doesn’t sound very supportive.

Its only a few more days. Id stay.
What age is your daughter at home.

Stay