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Apparently I am a dinosaur!

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Sadgrandma Thu 13-Aug-26 07:58:10

DGD is going on a Brownie weekend from Friday to Sunday so will have to ask to leave school early on the Friday. I innocently asked if mummy or the guider was going to send a letter to the school. “Letter!” Was the reply, “this isn’t the olden days Grandma , we use emails these days!” Of course I’m too ancient to know that. Sigh!

Astitchintime Thu 13-Aug-26 08:05:31

Yes, apparently that is so. Parents/guardians can also see an online record of percentage attendances……..are parents saw none of that until the year-end report sent home in a sealed envelope shortly before school broke up in July.

Aveline Thu 13-Aug-26 08:17:14

DD says she is inundated by emails from her boys' school. So much information sent or searchable. The school has a whole IT dept running it all.

Shel1951 Thu 13-Aug-26 08:22:08

Yes its amazing, I now order my grandsons school dinners online choosing a week before from the menu

PaperMonster2 Thu 13-Aug-26 09:09:55

I’ve found that you get overloaded with emails when they’re in primary. Very little communication from school when they’re in secondary! In secondary it’s all about using the apps though. I need to remember to top up dinner money - that’s the thing I forget. Then there’s another app with timetable/house points/ attendance/ reports on. That one annoys me as there’s a big attendance percentage always on display - which is of more importance to school than to parents!

Cabowich Thu 13-Aug-26 09:20:54

I'm told even emails are old hat these days. There's no hope grin.

eazybee Thu 13-Aug-26 09:23:54

Schools get blamed for poor attendance, which is actually the responsibility of parents.

Sadgrandma Thu 13-Aug-26 11:06:17

Of course I am well aware that schools use email and I use it, text and WhatsApp regularly but despite that and the fact I actually used to teach IT, DGD still thinks I know nothing! Oh dear what hope is there for poor old Grandma!

Dylis Thu 13-Aug-26 11:22:00

Carrier pigeon here!

Ziplok Thu 13-Aug-26 11:37:25

PaperMonster2

I’ve found that you get overloaded with emails when they’re in primary. Very little communication from school when they’re in secondary! In secondary it’s all about using the apps though. I need to remember to top up dinner money - that’s the thing I forget. Then there’s another app with timetable/house points/ attendance/ reports on. That one annoys me as there’s a big attendance percentage always on display - which is of more importance to school than to parents!

Actually, parents/carers need to see the attendance figures.

However, I suppose the few that aren’t interested how well their child attends won’t bother looking at these figures anyway. The more conscientious parents/carers probably do and are probably the ones who make sure their children attend regularly.

It’s all well and good saying the schools are responsible for attendance, when actually the parents/carers have a huge responsibility to ensure their children attend, too. It’s a two way thing, surely?

Fartooold Thu 13-Aug-26 11:40:58

I think our DCs should remember who taught them to eat and pot trained them!!

Gmax3 Thu 13-Aug-26 13:16:37

Sadgrandma

Of course I am well aware that schools use email and I use it, text and WhatsApp regularly but despite that and the fact I actually used to teach IT, DGD still thinks I know nothing! Oh dear what hope is there for poor old Grandma!

My gut told me that DGD's reply was a bit rude. Your second post, quoted here, confirms it. Wouldn't it have been kinder for DGD to say, "Yes, they'll notify the school." and leave it at that? It seems to come down to respectful comms. Next time, your reply could be along the lines of: "Yes DGD, I'm aware that folks use email, and whether I say letter or note or email, they all mean the same generally."
Let's ask for respect from our DGC!

Gmax3 Thu 13-Aug-26 13:17:36

Fartooold

I think our DCs should remember who taught them to eat and pot trained them!!

Amen