Overnight sleeps

Embrace it. I love having my granddaughter overnight and have done on occasion since she was 4 months old. It’s exhausting but worth it and you can rest up the next day.
Ignore your partner it’s your family. Nothing to do with him especially as he sleeps through any disturbance. Maybe he is jealous.

If someone offered to have my son overnight after two and a half years of never sleeping for more than two hours at a time - I’d most certainly take them up on it.

How wonderful to know they trust you with their precious child. It's a lovely thing to be able to do and if it helps them out then why not.
I was lucky enough to do the very same and treasure the memories.

Looked after my grandson when he was seven months when his parents went away for a few days, he was fine. When DGD1 arrived I used to look after them in their own home as we only have a small house. My exes mother loved having my children to stay. I think it's good for children ti experience different people looking after them.

It’s lovely to be involved with your grandchild. I noticed the comment about DIL’s mother being there all the time, is your son and maybe DIL trying to not let her dominate and allow you some time with your grandchild without her being around. Embrace it and enjoy your time with the baby. I first babysat my grandson when he was ten days old. By three months babies are quite robust and can be away from parents.

I can’t believe some of the comments on here, including someone saying it is dangerous! My late husband and I had my first GD from very early and remember once rushing to their house at midnight to collect her as she was sleepless and the parents had work in the morning. It’s been a pleasure and privilege to care for my GC (neither stays often now sadly due to being very bad sleepers, mum won’t inflict it on me anymore). We had no help at all when mine were young, I’m so glad I can help my own children. Grandchildren are wonderful, tiring of course, but they and their parents live in a very different world to the one mine grew up in. I didn’t work until they were 8 & 11 and that was quite normal.

I too have had my grandchildren sleepover every friday nights and holiday times since toddlers.....varied ages so not all at once thankfully!
........still think 3 month would be too young for me.....

two things in my life ...my sister's baby girl died of acute leukemia at 3 months old back in the 1950s........

A friend had her daughter and beby to stay for a weekend and the baby died of cot death.....

these things may well colour my thoughts. for no other reason

sleeping in the same bed, or on a sofa/chair with a baby is considered dangerous or at least risky by many experts.
there are deaths and injuries caused by this practice. as you all know, i'm sure.
cafemom.com/parenting/221714-mom-warns-parents-co-sleep/313393-i_thought_i_was_doing_the_right_thing_for_my_baby_i_was_reassured_by_multiple_moms_in_mom_groups_that_it_was_safe

Thank you all for your comments.. I'm 47 so, I still have the energy so far.. the parents are still children themselves and I believe that is the reason behind their parenting choices. Love having him when he's cute and cuddly but, don't want to do the hard work.. only today the DIL has no issue sleeping in until 10:30am as her Mum was there to watch my GS.

Holy cow! Dr Sears has a lot to answer for as he advised millions of young mothers that co-sleeping was a good thing. When our oldest grandchild was born, we started keeping her overnight at 6 weeks. We absolutely loved it and continued it for many years. Baby should be with whomever in the family can handle their bedtime, and doesn't get up in the morning exhausted and a nervous wreck. My granddaughter was very colicky and we felt like our daughter and sil really needed a break once in awhile.

A mother cosleeping with her baby is very different than any other person

Indeed, it is different. It's a bad idea for all concerned.

I agree totally, I would never of dreamt of my 3mth old staying overnight with Grandparents, its the parents responsibility, the generation bringing up children now seem to think they are still entitled to nights out like when they were childless, duh! you have a child and your responsible for it.

Please do not generalize that parents now do

We have had plenty of grandparents here asking why parents do not allow sleep overs when their gc are that young

There are entitled people in all generations

Hithere

A mother cosleeping with her baby is very different than any other person

Hithere...
Not sure if you read it correctly, or I may have but, I don't co-sleep with my GS. I successfully get him into his bassinet when I have him.
He sleeps between his parents... that makes me nervous..

Hi, I am a 63 year old grandma of 3. Two boy's and a girl. My granddaughter lives in another state.
I have been watching my grandsons once a week for about 8 years. Always driving to them. Thirteen miles each way. About six hours or more.
I've raised 3 son's. I started at 19. My children's father became an addict. He has since passed away from his addictions.. Living with 17 years of his drug addiction and raising my boy's, I think I've got a bit of trauma from those day's.
Now that both grandsons are starting school in the fall, I am no longer obligated to watch them once a week. This was a perfect way for me to see them and bond with them. I adore them.
I'm realizing I'm happy with spending a day with them or a few hours. I'm not however into having them spend the night. They're maternal grandmother and grandfather have them over often. Which leaves me with a lot of guilt. Am I supposed to do that too? It's awkward for me. Also I lost my mother at age 13. So I missed out on being raised by a loving mother.
Now the only time I will see them is if I go there or ask for them. My husband is disabled and has chronic pain. He doesn't have a lot of patience with them.
How do I stop this guilt and jealousy I feel for the other grandparents? Being the mother of son's is different. My son doesn't bring the kids over to just visit.
Anyway, I don't know what I'm looking for. It's like I don't know how to be a grandparent. It's odd. I don't know how to explain it. And when I do see them they want to spend the night. What am I so fearful of? They have spent the night..it always goes well. But it wipes me out physically and emotionally. They're 5 and 8. The parents limit screen time. I feel like I have to keep them busy all the time. I get anxious.
I just don't want to feel guilty over the way I want to grandparent. At the same time when I see how close they are to the other grandparents it bothers me. But what do I expect?! Help!

NotThatG, it sounds like you are doing all you can, and have looked after them once a week for years. I'm sure they already have a bond with you. Carry on visiting and maybe call or video call during the week to see how school is going.

Don't fret about other grandparents seeing more of them. It happens in just about every family, and children form bonds because they love you, not because you see them the most.

Thank you, thank you! Just what I needed! That really helped!!