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Timeshare with the other grandparents

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Norah Sun 12-Feb-17 23:57:57

It seems so unfair. Your GD doesn't know the difference. At 18 months they gravitate to familiar. When GC are older they know GP love them. The 4 GPs went on the trip, what a lovely weekend. Treasure what you have and don't worry about what the other GPs have.

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Hellsbella Sun 12-Feb-17 23:45:53

Oh dear. So much love going out you only reasonably expect the same amount coming in. I don't know for sure but I'm in the position of the Other GP - kids spend a whole week with me every five weeks because of DS's work pattern, but see their other (much richer spoilier) GPs once a week or fortnight. They do share a lot of time on Skype, and DGs talk about them and what they did together to me, but when they're poorly or parents aren't available, it's me they want.
Sorry if that sounds smug. It's not meant to, but it's coarse proximity, what they're used to. They're only little and prob don't understand quality/quantity. I'm sure that when yours get older they will cherish the relationship they have with you and appreciate it with maturity. It does seem unfair!

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aquafish Sun 12-Feb-17 23:06:24

We've just spent a lovely weekend with all four grandparents looking after 18 month old GD while my DD and SIL have a weekend away. Perfect in all but one thing, I am left feeling very envious of the close relationship the other grandparents have with my DGD. To put it into context, the others GPs are European living abroad yet get regular quality contact as SIL chooses to visit very frequently for at least 1 week at a time. Our visits are less frequent and only brief. Everyone gets on very well, my relationship with DD is very close but she seems to have to spend most of her free time in Europe. DGD was very clingy to the other GP and left me wondering how I can develop that sort of bond as we love her dearly. It isn't jealousy exactly,perhaps envy that they have had chance to become so close despite living abroad. How can I develop a close bond with my DGD in these early years of her life?

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