Maternal vs Paternal Granny

I think some of this is down to circumstances, how much grandparents can help, and distance.
I'm not competitive, I just help where I can, but in the past I have been pushed down the list a bit.
Now I'm the nearest nana to the littlest gd and she's mine

It depends on the personality of the 'child'. My son is very conscientious about visiting us, keeping in touch, including us, but that's the way he is - very family orientated. He wouldn't allow any estrangement of our grandchildren, ever.

We see a lot of my daughter's children too, but because she needs us, for child minding, school runs, etc. as her husband works shifts and she teaches full time.

My daughter's children I see 5 times a week or more; my son's I see once a month for a couple of hours. They both live within 10 miles of us. y DiL sees her mother every day. My SiL sees his about 3 times a year and she only lives about50 miles away. There's absolutely no rivalry between grandparents. it just how things are.

Did this happen in your family when your children were small, Mrs Mopp?

I would have thought that rivalry between grandmothers does not set a good example to their children or grandchildren.