Torn over Granddaughter

I m with others on this My grandchildren are all in their 20 s I either send them a present, if I know what they want, or put money in their currant account for them to spend as they wish.
I always get a thank you although the eldest one is the tardiest at messaging me, the others do it instantly.
They won’t get a lot when I die there are seven of them but they are all personally named in my will for a small amount each so they ll know I loved them and remembered each one of them

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I have no relationship with my three older granddaughters,the eldest one listened to gossip and had a rant at me by text ,she was 21 at the time and called me the c word...I did try with the presents but nothing so now I don't bother, I know what she was told isn't true and I'm refusing to chase after them, sometimes you have to think of yourself

I buy my DGC actual gifts. They don't need money and it's impersonal.
I enjoy shopping for them. I don't always see them so I post the parcels. They thank me.
It doesn't go through the parents now they are older. (20, 19, 17, 16, 14, 11 and very nearly 9.)
I haven't fallen out with the parents and sometimes ask the parents for ideas for presents, or sizes etc.

Well buying presents is fine while they are younger but over 20 and it’s rare that you ll be able to, especially if it’s clothes, shoes, make up stuff, etc etc that they want, and even more if they live away and you don’t know their tastes

She can't thank you for a ' gift' she has yet to receive!!! However when you told her she would eventually receive the cash she should have acknowledged your communication.