My husband and I went through a horrid phase some fifteen years ago, when I found out about his affair with a girl some 25 years his junior. He didn´t want a divorce, claimed it was nothing at all, as they all do. We did, subsequently, work on our relationship, resurrected old hobbies and a boring sex life. And, yes, I did get a vibrator. It was a fun sex toy, but not a match for the real thing. I got rid of it shortly thereafter, for fear of the children (or grandchildren!) finding it in a drawer. I would be surprised if I were the only one here to admit to such a thing, come on girls!