Do I send a card, or not?

I would send a card, but perhaps buy a blank one - that looks seasonal maybe? You could write your own greeting inside and also include the words "I am thinking of you" (again) or ones to that effect.

It is very difficult to send jolly festive greetings when you know someone is suffering.

I'm sorry to hear about your friend.

If they are religious then I'd have thought a card with a nativity scene would still be appropriate. Look for a single card, not one in a set or box of cards. Single ones tend to be a bit different from run of the mill cards, maybe look in an independent gift shop?

On Googling, I've found 'thinking of you' Christmas cards on Amazon. If you scroll down the page, there are more choices. Amazon card

Sorry to hear about your friend of course you must send a card she s still alive I would think it’s important to keep everything flowing as normal and not treat her differently
You can certainly get blank Christmas cards and as she’s religious th at sounds ideal

I had the same kind of dilemma very recently, but i found a card in CardFactory which was perfect, it just said thinking of you at Christmas.

Maybe "Wishing you joy and peace at Christmas" and send a nativity scene

I am in this situation, have sent a snowy scene, blank inside, I wrote wishing you a peaceful Christmas and New Year.

My friends husband died a week ago, having moved house a week before. The funeral probably won’t be until after Xmas. I’ve sent flowers, but have decided not to send a new house card nor a Xmas card this year.

Yes please send your friend a card so she knows she is in your thoughts. A card with no printed message and you can add your own message such as ' with love at Christmas ' or whatever you think is suitable.

Definitely send a card- as others have said, buy a single card and write your own short message

Of course send a card. Just choose an appropriate one.

Definitely send a card, if you don't it will appear they have gone already. I'm in a similar position, supporting a couple where the husband is at the end of his life and I'm picking up that his wife wants everything to be as sensitively as normal as possible.

There's a card in T*e C*rd F*ct*ry which is so suitable for an occasion like this. (I've just sent one to someone who was recently bereaved. It's along the lines of 'thinking of you at this time').

Definitely send a card... I have a relative who is terminal who wants life as normal as possible, as he said "I'm not dead yet"!

Send a card. A fabulous card with a nativity scene .....

Definitely send a card.
Surely you would have heard had your friend have died.
I would just send a card as you would have had you known they were both well.
If you can get a Christmas card without any writing on at all or just Christmas Greetings I would just write To A and B with love from C and leave it at that.

You have sent a "Thinking of you "card so they know that you are thinking about them

You may of course not receive a card from them as it is often the woman who writes the cards .

Buy a blank card and write an appropriate message, but nothing jolly.

Moonlit would make you a religious Christmas card with no message or a Thinking of You both message

could you not get a card ,like a helen steiner card that has words of encouragement on them. or even look on the internet for the right words .i often make cards that have a verse from the internet on..nice thoughts.

Thank you for your ideas. I will have a look in the Card Factory for something suitable. I just worry that she may slip away while the card is in the post.
She is an amazing woman. Having been in remission for some years, the cancer returned when she was 85. The best option, she decided, was ‘no treatment, and a prognosis of 3 years’.
She was 90 last August. She has never, ever, complained about her lot, or of feeling ill or in pain, but smiles and chats to visitors. Her husband says that she is on the highest dose of painkillers now, and can’t keep much food down, yet she is still cheerfully hanging on.
I wonder if she is determined to see one last Christmas? It is very difficult for her family. One lives abroad, and two live many miles away. They keep coming to see her as often as they can, each time wondering if it will be the last visit. Her husband, who is also 90, cares for her devotedly, and is an amazing man.
Their situation certainly puts into perspective any little niggles and twinges that I may feel like complaining about!

I Agree with others,send a card with a Christmas picture but blank inside where you can write your own words.

If possible find a card with a prayer that befits their religion.
Your message should be simple such as 'with love and for ever in our thoughts.'

Send a card with a simple message and include your phone number under your signature. then if your friend dies it will be so much easier for a relative to ring you and tell you the sad news.

I think you must send a card. They would hate to think that you didn’t care. There are many suitable cards available, so choose one that is blank and you can put your own message in - something like we shall be thinking of you at Christmas.