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When you are so incensed and find your inner bravery!

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Sago Fri 10-Jul-26 09:22:40

A thread on charity shop brought to mind an incident where I actually retrieved my donations because staff were so rude, I did give them a dressing down.

Another incident the wind had blown over a neighbours recycling bin and debris was flying everywhere, I started chasing around picking it all up and then dragged the bin to a more sheltered spot, when I had finished I saw him standing at the door watching me, I asked him why he hadn’t helped, he said sarcastically I seemed to be managing just fine.
I ate the face off him!
He avoided me for over 10 years!

Another was at a public meeting of 100’s of people, an organisation whose concern was causing many problems in our neighbourhood had held the meeting to try and appease us.

The people that spoke were just employees, they were young and on a low pay grade but represented the organisation well.

At the end of the presentation I was so incensed that I stood up and announced that it was appalling that the staff had had to represent the organisation, I demanded we had another meeting to include the better paid directors ( I named them) and a representative of the council.

I got a standing ovation and another meeting!

When have you become incensed and brave?

Ginnytonic5 Fri 10-Jul-26 22:21:22

Cossy you sound very angry with everyone..and writing ‘there you are then’ in s reply is simply rude .. (spell out the initials for anyone who does not know )

Elegran Fri 10-Jul-26 22:49:34

I'd have spelt it with a W, Ginnytonic but maybe you were thinking of a different word.

Which story from Cossy made you feel she is angry at everybody? I didn't get that impression - to me she seemed to be speaking back at bullies and inconsiderate people.

Sago Fri 10-Jul-26 22:59:06

Ginnytonic5

Cossy you sound very angry with everyone..and writing ‘there you are then’ in s reply is simply rude .. (spell out the initials for anyone who does not know )

It was me that responded to DaisyAnneReturns with there we are then.
Not Cossy

bridie54 Fri 10-Jul-26 23:24:04

My bravery surprised me one night in the cinema.
Sitting at the end of the row the chatter of some women half way along the row from me was annoying. I thought it would stop when the film began but no, they chatted on.
I got up and went along to where they sat and simply said’ I paid to come in here to watch and hear this movie so if you lot don’t want to do that why don’t you go and talk outside’
Before they got a chance to respond I went back to my seat. They were quiet after that and my friend was gobsmacked.
Am not one for any confrontation so I surprised myself that night.
Maybe the cost of the cinema ticket was enough to unleash my anger.

DaisyAnneReturns Sat 11-Jul-26 08:42:16

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DaisyAnneReturns

I'm not sure becoming "incensed" is something to get proud of.

If there is a genuine reason for it, then sometimes that's exactly what is needed!

My difficulty isn't with 'becoming incensed' specifically. I don't think 'getting angry' is much of an improvement. If the aim is to persuade or resolve a disagreement, becoming angry, however it's described, rarely helps. It's usually more productive to remain calm enough to listen as well as to state one's own position. If the only object is to make someone more sympathetic to your point of view then this won't work in most cases.

Magenta8 Sat 11-Jul-26 08:51:38

I am not sure it is "inner bravery" with me, more like simmering anger ready to erupt if I see bullying or cruelty going on. I know this sounds as though I think I'm Batman but I just can't stand by and watch gangs picking on one man or people hitting their children or dogs, for example.