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Do you feel guilty if you have a lie in??

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travelsafar Mon 15-Jun-26 08:35:03

I have no where to be today and nothing major to do so could have a lie in and listen to my audio book but I feel guilty if i do. What time do you normally get up each day or do you feel guilty lying in bed.šŸ¤”

MawsRosie Tue 16-Jun-26 19:34:45

I could so easily feel guilty. When I let Rosie out around 6 the world is peaceful and silent, on a sunny day it’s probably still comfortably cool and I WISH I had the urge to do more than dead head a rose or two before going back to bed with a mug of tea!
When I read the Good Morning thread, many of whose stalwarts seem to be up, round the supermarket, bottomed their spare bedroom, changed their bed, washed the sheets and hung them out and it’s STILL only 6.30.
My question is, what on earth is there to do for the rest of their day?
Guilt has no place in our lives now we are retired.

Donnaree Tue 16-Jun-26 21:11:28

I'm a night bird. Since being retired due to ill health, thank you long covid, I can't get to sleep until at least 1.30am then I usually wake up around 10ish & can quite happily stay there until I feel like getting up.
I always feel guilty! I dread the doorbell ringing or having to go out in the mornings.
I was a Nurse, always on shift by 8am no problem. I feel like an alien in my body & can't believe that my whole body clock has changed.

suelld Tue 16-Jun-26 21:45:09

I feel guilty all the time, but can’t do anything about it, because of all these ā€˜larks’ and all these people who get up at times I was always told when young ā€˜old people’ get up ā€œbecause they don’t need as much sleepā€!
Always been a Night Owl, but a few times a month in my working life had to get up at 5 to drive to work. Hated it !
I have always worked at night after the children were asleep. When young I could get away with getting up at 7/8 and going to sleep at any time from 1 to 4 am. Now at 80 in a few months I have for years been unable to sleep well at night and though I go to bed at 1/2 am I can never sleep until c 5 am ( when a lot of you are getting up) I have tried every sleep remedy under the sun, but have now given up and as I live alone I can flexi-time my work (still self-employed) or appointments. So I sleep anytime from 3 to 5am on average and get up any time from midday to 4 pm on average! But I know I’m out of step with ā€˜normal’ people and I feel guilty ish!

M0nica Tue 16-Jun-26 22:28:12

suelld, Why feel guilty about it. No one is the same, Its nt something you have done, it is something you are.

You sound exactly like DD. When her time is her own, she will be busy doing things around the house, she does needlecraaft and DIY until her bedtime around 3,00am and she will get up at midday.

She cannot wait for retirement when she will be aable to live by her timetable not other peoples. The last thing she feels is any guilt.

Bukkie Tue 16-Jun-26 22:38:28

I am a night owl. Very rarely go to bed before midnight. When I retire I won't get up before 10am.

jeanie99 Tue 16-Jun-26 22:49:33

I don’t feel any guilt whatsoever, why would I feel guilt, life is for living the life you want to not some other personā€˜s idea of living but your idea. If this means laying in bed late in the morning that’s fine it’s no problem.

Bukkie Tue 16-Jun-26 23:10:48

Suelld - Your timetable sounds bliss to me and perfectly normal. I hate getting up at the wrong time for my body. The best sleep I have had in recent years was during lockdown when I was going to bed between 2am and 3am and getting up at 10am. I slept through with no get ups in the night.

Kartush Tue 16-Jun-26 23:16:42

Woke up at 8am today but didnt actually go to sleep til around 2.30 now I am curled up in my recliner keeping warm, is that classed as a lie in?

friendlygingercat Tue 16-Jun-26 23:54:12

When I was employed I used to vow that when I retired I would lie in. However that hasn't happened because I no longer have a set sleep routine. Unless I have an appointment I go to bed and get up when I feel like it. I rarely sleep more than 5 hours at a stretch no matter how tired I am when I get down. Ive always been a night owl and I am often up til 3-4 am.

arum Wed 17-Jun-26 06:16:38

No, never. I enjoy playing various games on my tablet. Plus I have so many subscribed newsletters to read on the tablet. I do not watch any television. However, I do wish I still had a dog, when I was up as soon as I awake to go out for the morning walk, or cycle 5 kilometres because the dog needed it. Then I was up and ready for the day. If the weather was good, I could potter around in the garden, until hubby wakes up.

Margiknot Wed 17-Jun-26 09:44:39

I hate having to get up early! I avoid it at all costs. I often have difficulty getting to sleep so will sleep in as needed. I usually get up slowly if circumstances allow. DH is the opposite- falls asleep instantly and wakes early- so I know he can take charge as needed ( disabled adult child). I don’t feel guilty but am a bit embarrassed if caught in my pyjamas!

Norah Wed 17-Jun-26 13:49:46

I feel no guilr. But if I'm awake I'm up and dressed.

Norah Wed 17-Jun-26 13:50:01

guilt

Granny42 Fri 26-Jun-26 20:19:35

I can’t believe there are so many Early risers On here!

I’d feel cheated if I am getting up at 6 am you enjoy your lie ins.

I Occasionally oversleep and wake up at 9 am if I’ve had a bad night really does it matter? But I understand why you feel guilty. X

fancyflowers Sat 27-Jun-26 10:50:22

I have restless legs which keep me awake every few hours. I rarely get to sleep before 2.00 am and when I do sleep, I wake up naturally. It is usually about 9 o'clock but it can be later. No guilt at all, I need to get enough sleep.

Redhead56 Sat 27-Jun-26 10:59:18

Don't know what a lie in is my DH is still in work mode 8 yrs after retirement.