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Millie22 Thu 04-Jun-26 13:56:05

I wasn't coming back to this thread but ho here I am.

Years ago I remember a lovely Russian cake that had pink icing. There was some alcohol in it probably rum. No idea what it was called but it tasted lovely.

I haven't seen VS on here for some time. She was always on the Estrangement threads mostly I think.

Lathyrus3 Thu 04-Jun-26 13:53:52

I jst posted wrongly on the old horses thread.

Saying how you can recognise Violet Sky.

I haven’t got the energy to post it again.

Galaxy Thu 04-Jun-26 13:50:09

So I was on the threads that doodledog so eloquently describes, they were a nightmare, and I don't mind a 'battle'.
But i honestly feel I would recognise the poster involved so I am a little unsure.

Lathyrus3 Thu 04-Jun-26 13:33:31

MawsRosie

No connection between * VioletSky* and Allira if that’s what you mean. And apologies if I’ve misunderstood.
The only change I remember *Callistemon” making was adding a number to her name after she and another respected poster had been targeted and subsequently left. The added digits were because you can’t re register your old name so when she rejoined she added a number. That’s all I remember.

No connection at all except Allira was her target.

This time.

AGAA4 Thu 04-Jun-26 13:33:13

I have never reported anyone but was reported twice by the same poster. This is over eight years since I joined. I am wary of her now and from PMs I know others were too.

ViceVersa Thu 04-Jun-26 13:31:55

I'd like to think that if anyone had a problem with anything I had posted, they would say so 'to my face', as it were - rather than going behind my back, but it's clear that's very often not the case on here. I genuinely do think people will think twice about posting now in case they become the next Allira.

SueDonim Thu 04-Jun-26 13:28:43

Today’s latest posts have certainly put a different spin on things. I’m not good at remembering posting names or what ppl have posted but I am astonished if anyone has been able to get away with such behaviour.

Petra I’m selling a nice pram - it would be perfect for you to throw toys from. grin

MartavTaurus Thu 04-Jun-26 13:18:16

I don’t think I've come across a VS? Maybe vaguely?

I've narrowed my current list down to two I am very wary of. Do I need to add in this VS poster too?

This isn't the poster Allira suspects.

Wheniwasyourage Thu 04-Jun-26 13:16:25

Nothing new to add, but I'm just dropping in to say that, like many others, I think it's totally ridiculous (not to say a bit sinister) that Allira can have been banned without being told why.

Looking out my mittens for Siberia and I'll bring some fruit cake, which always seems to go down well in cold weather.

MartavTaurus Thu 04-Jun-26 13:13:25

Well, in fairness to GNHQ ...........
I reported several posts to admin yesterday that made me worried/scared to start further threads in case I was met with the same barrage of personal attacks by a certain poster.

GNHQ asked for more info, then deleted the lot of the poster's snide remarks. She'll probably not be notified, but at least I feel she's toast if I encounter any more of her put downs. Maybe the moral IS to report the minute you feel uncomfortable, because then you'll feel safe going forward?

Ironically it was a thread where Allira was out in force challenging this poster, but got nowhere at the time other than a load of grief herself.

Mollygo Thu 04-Jun-26 13:09:13

Thank you, MawsRosie but if the rumours are true, that deletions or suspensions are totalled up and used to decide your removal it’s worrying.
I wonder how much attention is paid to the number of times a poster reports and the reason that poster gives for reporting.

MawsRosie Thu 04-Jun-26 13:08:59

No connection between * VioletSky* and Allira if that’s what you mean. And apologies if I’ve misunderstood.
The only change I remember *Callistemon” making was adding a number to her name after she and another respected poster had been targeted and subsequently left. The added digits were because you can’t re register your old name so when she rejoined she added a number. That’s all I remember.

Doodledog Thu 04-Jun-26 13:04:23

Is there another incarnation? Really? If that had been said at the start of all this it would have put a completely different light on things.

I never understood how she got away with so much. My only post deletions were on threads on which she reported everyone who disagreed with her (or pointed out that her posts didn’t make sense) and were littered with deletions not just mine - literally any that disagreed.

I do speak my mind, and will challenge weasel words, but I don’t think I make personal comments (I try hard not to), but threads she posted on became impossible to read as there were so many deletions of perfectly reasonable posts.

I don’t know who was banned because of her, but I do know that several posters left of their own volition, and that she targeted people by bringing in supposed ‘lurkers’ who claimed to have been watching from afar and who simultaneously ‘felt the need to act’. They would swarm in, target those who had crossed swords with her, be vile to them then their shiny new names would disappear. They wouldn’t care if they were banned, as they weren’t real members - more of a search and destroy squad. She once had such a campaign that started on MN, so posters from there joined in too. Unhinged behaviour.

A few of us emailed HQ about it, with full details of where it was happening, but nothing was done. I never knew why she vanished - It was some time later, and I didn’t see a big bang, but one day she was gone. Odd.

As nobody would name names or even hint, I thought Person X was a regular (current) poster, not a reincarnation of that one. As such, I did feel that there could be two sides to the story, whoever she was, and that she would be feeling terrible about all the support for Allira. If, OTOH, this is indeed a return, I take that all back. When she was causing mayhem she had already had a life ban but came back with HQ’s support - how was that allowed if a ban means a ban?

MawsRosie Thu 04-Jun-26 12:54:17

Mollygo

Yes indeed Lathyrus3 but I’m posting that in fear and trembling about my continued presence in case she has returned and looks at this thread.

Come on * Mollygo* nobody would report you as you never say an unkind word!
I seriously think we need to “Gran up” and not be afraid to be direct and honest. Of course that doesn’t mean snippy or mean, but there’s no way we should use the words “fear and trembling” in the context of a site such as ours.

Cabbie21 Thu 04-Jun-26 12:46:54

On another thread I have justified a remark I made about curry just in case somebody reports me for a racist slur. What is this site coming to? I don’t want to be scared of posting.

SporeRB01 Thu 04-Jun-26 12:32:25

I did not know that Allira was formerly known as Callistemon.

Whilst looking at old Callistemon threads, I stumbled across an old post where someone casually suspected me of reporting her post.

Her exact words were ‘I do wonder if the poster who said English wasn’t her first language got the wrong end of the stick and reported it’.

I am loss for words. I got no idea what post she was referring to since I have never reported anyone on Gransnet.

What upsets me most is her ‘hitting below the belt’; using information I mentioned on Gransnet to insult me.

It is time like this that I feel quitting and going into exile like Allira is not a bad idea after all. Siberia sounds nice.

eazybee Thu 04-Jun-26 12:10:52

It is inhibiting, and not, I think, in the spirit of Gransnet, that people are scared to post because of the fear of being suspended or banned.
The rules need be crystal clear if they are to be understood and implemented.

ViceVersa Thu 04-Jun-26 11:54:25

Mollygo

Yes indeed Lathyrus3 but I’m posting that in fear and trembling about my continued presence in case she has returned and looks at this thread.

That's the fear for many of us, I think. People are going to be wary about posting many things now lest they suffer the same fate as Allira.

Galaxy Thu 04-Jun-26 11:47:58

So i must be a little stupid, and I pride myself on being an expert internetergrin but I don't recognise current incarnation. I would rather not know, I think.

Mollygo Thu 04-Jun-26 11:40:05

Yes indeed Lathyrus3 but I’m posting that in fear and trembling about my continued presence in case she has returned and looks at this thread.

ViceVersa Thu 04-Jun-26 11:14:05

Lathyrus3

petra

Has anyone any ideas how you get to be a chosen one.
That would someone who is allowed to control threads, be very rude to members, etc, etc.

You have to be Violetsky in yet another incarnation.

They couldn’t or wouldn’t deal with her past many personnas and many posters were sanctioned or banned under her previous rule of the site- until it became impossible and she was sent away - but allowed back, just like now.

I think she must have shares in GN.

Indeed.

Lathyrus3 Thu 04-Jun-26 11:03:03

petra

Has anyone any ideas how you get to be a chosen one.
That would someone who is allowed to control threads, be very rude to members, etc, etc.

You have to be Violetsky in yet another incarnation.

They couldn’t or wouldn’t deal with her past many personnas and many posters were sanctioned or banned under her previous rule of the site- until it became impossible and she was sent away - but allowed back, just like now.

I think she must have shares in GN.

Galaxy Thu 04-Jun-26 10:59:21

Yes that does sound lovely, enjoy Allira.

merlotgran Thu 04-Jun-26 10:56:17

Good morning, Allira. I hope you have a fab time with your daughters.

Mollygo Thu 04-Jun-26 09:49:47

petra

Has anyone any ideas how you get to be a chosen one.
That would someone who is allowed to control threads, be very rude to members, etc, etc.

Not really Petra, apart from always being the reporter and not the reported. If I did know, and posted them, they would undoubtedly result in my
excommunication too.

This sickening business over Allira has made me into my own police, worried that any comment on certain threads may result in a report, suspension or ban. So it’s achieved its purpose for the reporter.

Glad to hear, from those in touch that Allira has visitors to look forward to seeing. Please pass on my good wishes, though they’re not much help.

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