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Biscuitmuncher Wed 17-Jun-26 18:09:28

I was quite a clumsy child and I wasn't the most careful with my mums things. I always used to feel awful when she told me off and swore I'd never be like that with my children. Today my daughter went to work in an office on a building site, took one of my pretty expensive mugs and smashed it. I am absolutely livid but hiding it well

MT62 Wed 17-Jun-26 18:12:25

Can she not just replace it?

MT62 Wed 17-Jun-26 18:12:47

Buy her a tin mug 🤣

Aldom Wed 17-Jun-26 18:13:33

How does your daughter feel about breaking your mug?

Biscuitmuncher Wed 17-Jun-26 18:22:06

I bought it on holiday so wouldn't know where to get another one. She says shes sorry but why she took that mug baffles me

Fallingstar Wed 17-Jun-26 18:52:46

Am afraid I am a clutz, so was my mother and so is one of my DDs. I know that isn’t much consolation but then neither will knowing why your DD took that mug. When I break or spill something the first thing someone might ask is ‘why did you do that?’
Believe me, there is never an answer.

Plevey08 Wed 17-Jun-26 19:24:02

There isn't really an answer unless you can say I did it on purpose. It's rarely that so I'm afraid it's putting it down to an accident. Maybe remind her it was a favourite mug and she can choose a new one for your birthday. Then let her know that's your new favourite one. Remind her to take only one's that you wouldn't be upset about losing. My nephew,
when younger, would have knocked a a glass of water over in a large field.

AGAA4 Wed 17-Jun-26 19:24:27

I think my daughter would have taken the nicest mug too. Shame it was smashed.

Jaxjacky Wed 17-Jun-26 19:59:48

Shame it’s upset you, perhaps ask her to check with you which mug next time.

MollyNew Wed 17-Jun-26 20:24:49

Did she know it was of sentimental value? You say it's one of your expensive mugs, so I'm guessing it was part of a set, which is a shame. Allow yourself to be upset, but don't dwell on it, accidents are part of life.

We had a family thing about buying mugs as gifts or souvenirs so I bought my DS a new mug for his first job. Maybe you could do the same for your daughter?

Hilda123 Wed 17-Jun-26 20:35:35

Thoughts and prayers with you at this difficult time 🙄

FriedGreenTomatoes2 Wed 17-Jun-26 20:35:48

People’s feelings are more important than ‘things’ so you did well to rein in your response Biscuitmuncher.

Nightsky2 Wed 17-Jun-26 20:38:18

Maybe you could ask her if she can find you one exactly the same on eBay. Do you know the makers name and what to look for. At the end of the day it’s only a mug. I’m sure she’s very sorry she broke it but you could suggest that she buys her own mug to take to work.

SpinDriftCoastal Wed 17-Jun-26 20:57:49

I would buy two mugs, one that was cheap say from £1 world and say to your daughter, that is the mug you can use for the building site. Then I would treat myself to a new mug which I would make clear is totally mine. Even keep it in a place away from the others.

TillyTrotter Wed 17-Jun-26 21:13:21

Relationships with daughters can be much more fragile than china mugs (sadly I speak from experience).
I would buy myself a new mug Biscuitmuncher.
I can appreciate it has made you upset and I’m sorry for that.

Grammaretto Wed 17-Jun-26 21:44:23

I had a favourite mug. I broke it so there was noone to blame
My friend mended it with gold glue as the Japanese do kinsugi. After that it sat on the dresser for decoration then one day it fell off! This time it broke into a hundred pieces. It must have had a death wish 😄

Maremia Wed 17-Jun-26 21:48:31

A good way to deal with it, by coming on here, and letting off steam
👏

Cossy Wed 17-Jun-26 22:41:31

It’s only “stuff”, you’ll still have your memories.

Our dear children of all ages are all clumsy klutzes and blame each other as they have since very little.

The funniest (not at the time) was when elder son managed to break a toilet seat, which he used blue tack to try and mend it, DH didn’t notice and slipped off mud poo!

My kids have tried to do this “fixing thing” with a fridge handle, an oven handle and half a dozen over things. Other things simply disappeared!

Be cross, and then let it go flowers