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A funeral question…

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kircubbin2000 Sat 30-May-26 08:56:26

I think it's intrusive to go to funerals of strangers. 2 people came to my dads funeral and sat chatting through his special hymn. I had to shush them!
Then they had the cheek to come to the hotel afterwards.They were friends of another attendee but no connection to our family.

jusnoneed Sat 30-May-26 08:55:09

No. I rarely go to funerals but my partner will go off to ones for people he hasn't seen or had contact with for years. I always think that's odd, if you don't see someone while they are alive why go to their funeral?

honeyrose Sat 30-May-26 08:44:23

No I wouldn’t go and my husband wouldn’t ask me to go. I’d feel very awkward about going, as I don’t see the point, although I would go if my DH asked me to.

Sago Sat 30-May-26 07:14:21

I would never go to the funeral of someone I didn’t know well.

BlueBelle Sat 30-May-26 07:14:09

I don’t understand why you question it in your head, ask about it on here, and then say well I expect I ll go anyway
What’s the point in asking ?

Cabbie21 Sat 30-May-26 07:13:36

No, I wouldn’t go unless he specifically wanted me to.

Calendargirl Sat 30-May-26 07:13:27

Ladyleftfieldlover

OH has been to several funerals of people I do not know. I have not gone with him and he hasn’t expected me to. Likewise, I have attended funerals of people he hasn’t known and I haven’t expected him to go with me.

Ditto.

Ladyleftfieldlover Sat 30-May-26 07:05:53

OH has been to several funerals of people I do not know. I have not gone with him and he hasn’t expected me to. Likewise, I have attended funerals of people he hasn’t known and I haven’t expected him to go with me.

Astitchintime Sat 30-May-26 06:41:28

No, I wouldn’t and he wouldn’t attend a funeral of any of my friends that he didn’t know either. Very odd to attend the funeral of a stranger…….rather like those busybodies who go to be nosy and elbow their way into the wake for a free meal.

NotAGran55 Sat 30-May-26 06:37:26

I would only go if my partner needed me for emotional support. I would feel very odd going to a funeral of a stranger otherwise.

David49 Sat 30-May-26 06:27:08

My wife would never miss any gathering, not knowing anyone is an opportunity for her to chat and find out, if others at the gathering know me that would be her ice breaker.

BlueBelle Sat 30-May-26 05:33:43

I just have to put my social face on but why Canadiangran ?

If you know he would be quite happy on his own and you know nobody there why in earth put yourself through it unless he has asked you specifically to accompany him ???

CanadianGran Sat 30-May-26 05:19:35

Thank you. I most likely will go. It’s in town, but a classmate he didn’t really associate much with as adult. DH is outgoing and will be fine on his own, he will know a lot of people there, and I’m sure be busy chatting. I just have to put my social face on…..

Wyllow3 Sat 30-May-26 00:23:03

Franski

Would he like you to go with him? That would be my measure of what to do.

Yes.

MT62 Sat 30-May-26 00:15:58

No I think I would let him go on his own & catch up with people from the past.
Unless he’s nervous, or shy & wants you to go with him.

Scribbles Fri 29-May-26 22:57:53

I would only go if my partner specifically asked me to - because it was a close friend and he felt he needed my support.

Franski Fri 29-May-26 22:55:41

Would he like you to go with him? That would be my measure of what to do.

CanadianGran Fri 29-May-26 22:46:55

If your partner is going to a funeral/celebration of life for an old school friend that you don’t know, do you accompany him?

I most likely will, but will most probably be left making awkward small talk to people I don’t know.