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Cid24 Thu 14-May-26 12:02:18

Lately I’ve found that if I’m due to do something in the afternoon or even , I can’t settle to anything, am like a cat on hit bricks counting down until the time I have to get ready and go. Is anyone else like this? I never used to be like it.

Samsara1 Thu 14-May-26 12:26:01

Yes I am a bit. Hospital appointment this afternoon and I am doing all kinds of things that don't need doing.

FindingNemo15 Thu 14-May-26 12:42:21

Same here. Prefer to do things in the morning as I find hanging around waiting to go in the afternoon means I just waste time. I am always ready far too early.

Magenta8 Thu 14-May-26 13:06:24

I find this too. I also find that I wake up very early and can't get back to sleep if I have to go anywhere before lunch. All the years I had to get up every morning, including the years I had to get the DCs off to school and then get in to work, I never had this problem.

teabagwoman Thu 14-May-26 13:17:20

Yes, I suffer from this too and I end up exhausted by the end of the day. Never used to be a problem.

Cossy Thu 14-May-26 13:37:52

Yes! It didn’t used to bother me so much, but I always hated being late, now I’m ready and set to leave hours in advance, it’s driving me nuts!

Grammaretto Thu 14-May-26 13:41:38

Yes I'm the same and am what my DMiL called being previous
It's probably due to having too much time to worry.

fancythat Thu 14-May-26 19:29:24

I have always been like this.
Part of the reason I am a bit loathe to go out in the evenings. I just wouldnt get anything done!

Cid24 Thu 14-May-26 22:01:34

I’m sure it’s since retirement there’s more time to fret

Nannee49 Thu 14-May-26 22:11:04

Absolutely. I was never like this but with less to fill my time now - as you say since retirement Cid24 - I find I get agitated even when it's something pleasurable like going out to lunch. Too much empty head space I think.

Fallingstar Thu 14-May-26 23:12:44

I also faff about when I know I have to go somewhere. If it’s in the morning I don’t sleep very well the night before, if it’s in the afternoon I do a lot of unnecessary housework that I can’t complete satisfactorily, and if it is in the evening the whole day is wasted.
I thought it was just me 🙄

Macaydia Fri 15-May-26 04:10:26

I am the same ! I thought it was just me.

I think we are on to something here. Late-age anxiety?

Erica23 Fri 15-May-26 06:25:40

Oh yes I’m like this too and DH even worse than me. We’ve been up since 5am just because we have to pick the DGC up from school at 3pm 😂

Bellasnana Fri 15-May-26 07:11:19

Story of my life! When I look back I don’t know how my late DH put up with me for thirty-five years!🤦‍♀️

Calendargirl Fri 15-May-26 07:33:19

Cid24

I’m sure it’s since retirement there’s more time to fret

When I was about to retire, I said to a colleague that once I left work, 90% of my worries would disappear.

Her reply?

“You’ll still find something to worry about, Calendar”.

How right she was!

Cid24 Fri 15-May-26 08:24:25

Isn’t it odd! And VERY annoying!

fancythat Fri 15-May-26 08:31:26

fancythat

I have always been like this.
Part of the reason I am a bit loathe to go out in the evenings. I just wouldnt get anything done!

For me, it is energy.
I dont have a whole heap of it.
So if I am out in the evening, I need to "save" some energy during the day, to cope.

Sickofweddingcake Fri 15-May-26 08:40:59

I had to be at an important appointment, one hour's drive away, yesterday.
I was an hour early!
I hate being late...

petra Fri 15-May-26 08:41:33

Grammaretto

Yes I'm the same and am what my DMiL called being previous
It's probably due to having too much time to worry.

Exactly. We had busy lives. Our brains were working on what we were doing that day.
If you were working and had a dental appointment in the afternoon you would still get on with your work. You wouldn’t be fidgeting and fretting.

ClicketyClick Fri 15-May-26 09:01:31

I'm the same. Like today I am seeing a solicitor after lunch and know I won't get a thing done this morning for fretting over the appointment and if the bus arrives late for getting me there on time. So I'll be catching an early bus and killing time by still continually fretting in a cafe in town .

Essexgirl145 Fri 15-May-26 13:35:37

Now you mention it, I've been like that for a while, perhaps it's about living in the moment and no looking t far ahead. It's probably normal so don't worry.

4allweknow Fri 15-May-26 13:39:00

I have a 81 year old sister-in-law like that. Thursday morning is her usual shopping day, driven by my brother. Yesterday, Thursday, she was having her usual home hairdresser visit at 4
pm so shopping had to be cancelled. My brotger tried on Wednesday to convince her they could still go to the supermarket as per usual but no, had to be changed to Friday a.m. Drives him mad!

Babsbada Fri 15-May-26 13:40:18

Yep that's me too!

knspol Fri 15-May-26 13:51:22

Thought it was just me, so glad it's not!
If I have to go anywhere on an afternoon or evening I spend all day deciding what to wear, what time to get ready and basically fretting about whatever/wherever. Never ever used to be like this and wonder like others if it's just because of too many empty hours with nothing else to think about. Feel better for knowing I'm not on my own.

Rocketstop2 Fri 15-May-26 13:51:52

Yes, me too, exactly the same. Annoying isn't it ? !