Wearing a wedding ring when widowed

We've been married for 57 years and if DH died first, I would still think of myself as married, therefore my rings would never be taken off. He has a signet ring and I know he would never take it off if I wasn't around. The rings are a sign of our love for each other and bought together when we were 23. I know everyone is different but it's something that has never occurred to me

kircubbin2000

I took mine off when expecting my second child. I never wore it again as my husband led his own life and gave me no support.

Ahh well that’s different. Has he noticed?

I still wear my wedding ring with pride after being a widow for twelve years. A couple of people have said to me it is about time I took it off. I loved my husband and still do miss him,he was 34yrs older than me and past away at the age of 95.

grandMattie

Three years widowed, it hasn’t occurred to me to remove it!

Likewise for me. Just over 3yrs a widow but married for almost 52 years, would not dream of not wearing my wedding ring. I worry that arthritis in my hands may one day prevent me from wearing something that means so much to me.

I had a hand injury about a year ago and I had to have my ring cut from my finger because my finger was swollen. I am in not hurry to have it repaired. My husband still wears his and neither of us are bothered one way or another about my ring. We are a married couple and it does not matter to me one way other if outsiders think we are not.

It would never occur to me to take it off. I would still be addressed as Mrs, and in my heart I’d still be married. My children are still around and they came with my marriage. But I am 80 in a couple of months or so. If I was much younger I may feel different I suppose?

My husband died in 2004 aged 47. I always wore my wedding ring because as far as I am concerned I am still married . I lost 7st so my ring got loose so wore a ring tightener . As I didn't want my ring altered.

Winter 2023 when out shopping and went into my favourite cafe . When I got home no wedding ring . I had forgotten to put my ring tightener on. After a frantic search no ring remember screaming and had my first panic attack .I phoned the cafe thankfully they found it on the floor and had it safe in a box for me . I got a taxi and got it .

My daughter had been telling me to wear it on a chain for a year. So have worn it on a chain ever since but I want it on my finger but the fear of losing it is to great .

We are atheists but we believed in our marriage vows . My wedding ring is very important to me . My husband didn't want a ring which was fine. He said he didn't need a ring as I always knew he was mine . I still keep touching my ring finger like I did when I wore my ring .

I am not a materialist person but my ring means everything to me .

I've not come across any widows that were married for a long time who've taken their rings off. And I've never heard anyone suggest that they should. If you're looking for a new relationship then I can understand (or maybe if your marriage was unhappy), but otherwise why would you take your ring off. I haven't after nine years of widowhood and it never crossed my mind.

It's 7 years since my dh died and I still wear my ring. In the early days I joined bereavement support group, on my first visit I was told I should remove my ring by several members. I didn't and I never went back.

I wear mine, my husband died 17 years ago.

I also still consider myself married to my DH. I will continue to wear my ring. DH wore a ring too

Whiff

My husband died in 2004 aged 47. I always wore my wedding ring because as far as I am concerned I am still married . I lost 7st so my ring got loose so wore a ring tightener . As I didn't want my ring altered.

Winter 2023 when out shopping and went into my favourite cafe . When I got home no wedding ring . I had forgotten to put my ring tightener on. After a frantic search no ring remember screaming and had my first panic attack .I phoned the cafe thankfully they found it on the floor and had it safe in a box for me . I got a taxi and got it .

My daughter had been telling me to wear it on a chain for a year. So have worn it on a chain ever since but I want it on my finger but the fear of losing it is to great .

We are atheists but we believed in our marriage vows . My wedding ring is very important to me . My husband didn't want a ring which was fine. He said he didn't need a ring as I always knew he was mine . I still keep touching my ring finger like I did when I wore my ring .

I am not a materialist person but my ring means everything to me .

I had a ring many years ago that became too big for me. I took it to a jewellers with the idea of getting it altered but instead had a permanent piece inserted into the back of the ring that made it smaller. Wore it for many years after this and the 'piece' remained in place and the ring was safe. perhaps you could try this?

I have been a widow for 33 years and it wouldn't occur to me to stop wearing my wedding ring. My Husband always wore his.

My parents were married 68yrs when Dad died, Mum is now 100yrs and has been a widow for 12yrs but still wears her ring. I doubt she has ever thought about removing it, her weddingring and eternity ring are part of who sbe is. I am divored and my ring plus engsgment ring are boxed up in a draw and rarely looked at.

I was married for 54 years and have been widowed for 9 long months. I would never think to take my wedding and eternity rings off as they mean such a lot to me and I’m sure my husband would want me to keep them on my ring finger

I would continue to wear my wedding ring. We have been together since I was 20 and married for a very long time. I know the marriage vows say ‘Until death do us part’ but I hope our love will endure beyond that. I remember a brownie leader saying ‘A wedding ring is a symbol of forever with no beginning and no end’ and that’s how I feel.

Yes, I still wear my wedding ring. I have been widowed twice. I still have the wedding ring from my first late husband, although it’s too small to wear now. It’s also patterned, which makes it difficult to re-size.
I cannot imagine getting married again (I’m now 78). I have never considered not wearing my wedding ring. My last late husband wore a wedding ring, and I had that re-sized to fit a finger on my right hand.