Would you allow a neighbour to use your shower?

If it was for a fortnight, every other day, then they'd have to fit in with my plans.
It's still doable, though.

I've had the same neighbours on both sides for nearly 30 years. They were utterly vile to us for years although they are polite enough now. I wouldn't want to do them a favour but the question wouldn't arise as they don't like the colour of my husband's skin and for goodness sake it could be catching. Imagine them waking up black the next day!!!!

We have had neighbours use our house and likewise we have used neighbours facilities. We look after one another and i have three different neighbours keys and they have ours. Our street is a lovely place to live. No one oversteps the mark.

I don't think the neighbour could expect to choose the time of day, other than for it not to be when she is at work. It's one of those situations where you take it or leave it when you are offered a time that is convenient to the host.

I don’t think anyone would ask as we are the oldies in our road.
Years ago I saw a skin specialist who said he wished ladies wouldn’t shower everyday and then slap on expensive creams as the skin left to itself would mean he saw fewer people!! At the time I was a bit taken aback but now I can see his point.

I would not dream of asking, lovely as my neighbours are and I don't think any of them would ask either.

Jaxjacky

mumofmadboys

I'm shocked that the simple favour of letting a neighbour have a shower is such a big deal to some people.

Me too momb I’m sure anyone would be grateful and slot in with a convenient time.

Convenient to whom?
The neighbour who has a train to catch to work?

Your own family who have to get to school and work?

Most family school/work mornings are fraught enough without a neighbour hogging the bathroom.

MissAdventure

Ah, so not just a one off thing, then?

No, broken shower, not able to be fixed for at least two weeks.

mumofmadboys

I'm shocked that the simple favour of letting a neighbour have a shower is such a big deal to some people.

Me too momb I’m sure anyone would be grateful and slot in with a convenient time.

Ah, so not just a one off thing, then?

mumofmadboys

I'm shocked that the simple favour of letting a neighbour have a shower is such a big deal to some people.

Every other day for weeks?

Possibly at 7 or 7.30am?

If you had one bathroom and a houseful of people trying to get ready for school and work I can't see how that would work, having a neighbour coming through the house, upstairs and possibly taking over the bathroom.

biglouis

Its not just a question of someone having access to an intimate space in your house. Rather that of feeling that you have to tidy up, and present yourself "properly" dressed (rather than relaxing in your jimjams for those who like to when indoors) just becase some random cant manage with a washcloth and kettle for a couple of weeks.

For me, with limited mobility, the imposition would be having to get up from what I was doing, let them in, and then let them out again. It would be an infringement on my time and space. Ive never given my phone number to any neighbour and dont intend to. The harder you make it for people to ask for favours, the less likely they are to ask.

Spot on! The bathroom IS the most intimate space in your domain - and I'd be apprehensive that allowing a neighbour to use this room just once might give them the idea that you were, silently, throwing them an open invitation.
No, sorry to say.

I'm shocked that the simple favour of letting a neighbour have a shower is such a big deal to some people.

I do know what you mean where that is concerned, biglouis. I am a firm believer in one's home being one's refuge, and that we should be able to do as we like within our own walls without feeling answerable to others. I wouldn't encourage anyone to turn up with shampoo and a towel at random times.

I would offer a 'slot', probably early evening, which was convenient for both us and them, and would expect them to keep to that time. I am one who sometimes loafs about in PJs, and wouldn't want a random neighbour knowing that information . If I knew they were coming at 6.30pm, however, I would make sure I was presentable (I usually am by lunchtime anyway).

biglouis

Its not just a question of someone having access to an intimate space in your house. Rather that of feeling that you have to tidy up, and present yourself "properly" dressed (rather than relaxing in your jimjams for those who like to when indoors) just becase some random cant manage with a washcloth and kettle for a couple of weeks.

For me, with limited mobility, the imposition would be having to get up from what I was doing, let them in, and then let them out again. It would be an infringement on my time and space. Ive never given my phone number to any neighbour and dont intend to. The harder you make it for people to ask for favours, the less likely they are to ask.

Must admit to laughing at the thought of making sure I was "properly dressed" if anyone turned up. Visitors are used to the fact that, if they're unexpected, they take me as they find me. There's one particular friend of mine that always calls unexpectedly - and by now I'm used to him teasing me about still being in my nightwear and/or the washing-up hasn't been done yet (as it's usually mornings he turns up). I don't draw much of a line between the style I wear as nightdresses and the style I wear as dresses sometimes. All visitors have got on their mind is "how fast am I going to get the kettle on" to make them a drink....ie that will be within 5 minutes...

In Canada, during the power outages, my parents told me that every family (1950s) had to take in another family across town that was in an area with no power. I always thought that was sweet. Oh how times have changed?

Its not just a question of someone having access to an intimate space in your house. Rather that of feeling that you have to tidy up, and present yourself "properly" dressed (rather than relaxing in your jimjams for those who like to when indoors) just becase some random cant manage with a washcloth and kettle for a couple of weeks.

For me, with limited mobility, the imposition would be having to get up from what I was doing, let them in, and then let them out again. It would be an infringement on my time and space. Ive never given my phone number to any neighbour and dont intend to. The harder you make it for people to ask for favours, the less likely they are to ask.

I give up!!!

Don't why I can't type why not use bed bath wipes!

Why not buy beneath wipes

At uni in the early 1970s I was in an all female hall of residence. Two girls had to share a wash cubicle that only had a sink, there were 6 lavatories and two bath rooms per 10 rooms.
We all survived and my wash cubicle buddy is my oldest friend!

When we used to live on a boat for 6 months of the year we carried a hundred litres of water we could make it last 2 weeks both of us having a shower everyday. I'm sure the neighbour could find away to shower, there lots of products on line that can be used to avoid intruding on a neighbour. Problem solved!

Farzanah

Thank god we’re not at war………yet, and having to share shelters and food!

That would be quite a different ballgame for sure.

As part of the "Net Zero (or otherwise)" conversation a European politician (German I think?) was stating a reasonable amount of space in one's own home (ie as a single person) would be 50 square metres!!!! Basically it felt like she was saying "If you've got more than that = budge up and share" ! Was wondering if she's one of Klaus Schwab's acolytes...."You vill own nozzing.......".

Cue for me checking out Rightmove and that only amounted to a small one bedroom flat. Errrrm......as it is I'm there thinking "Well I had less space than that in those years in grotty Bedsitland back in the 1970s" - but very aware compromises on my existing house are I'm missing the 3rd bedroom, utility room, garage and more bathroom space that I want as it is. So any question of imposed lodgers billeted on me = not a chance Hosea.

Thank god we’re not at war………yet, and having to share shelters and food!