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Would you allow a neighbour to use your shower?

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biglouis Fri 08-Nov-24 01:11:55

Interesting discussion on Mumsnet where a neighbour has a broken shower that cant be fixed for 2 weeks and asks OP if she can use hers “every other day”. Op is taken aback and wants to refuse as she does not like visitors. However most posters tell her she is mean to refuse.

My nephew was recently in this position as the housing association could not fix it for 2 weeks. He showered here twice a week (40 minute walk) and the rest of the time made do with an old fashioned wash at the sink. Ive also had to do that for several days when my bathroom was being re-fitted. I would not have dreamed of asking a neighbour. I think its a dreadful imposition.

I was brought up in a house with an outside loo and no bathroom so all we had was a flannel wash at the sink or a tin bath once a week. We managed.

I would not allow a neighbour past my door. I don’t know them and they don’t know me.

What would you do?

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Allira Thu 14-Nov-24 12:11:01

MissAdventure

Ah, so not just a one off thing, then?

No, broken shower, not able to be fixed for at least two weeks.

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Allira Thu 14-Nov-24 12:12:49

Jaxjacky

mumofmadboys

I'm shocked that the simple favour of letting a neighbour have a shower is such a big deal to some people.

Me too momb I’m sure anyone would be grateful and slot in with a convenient time.

Convenient to whom?
The neighbour who has a train to catch to work?

Your own family who have to get to school and work?

Most family school/work mornings are fraught enough without a neighbour hogging the bathroom.

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Allira Thu 14-Nov-24 12:14:24

I would not dream of asking, lovely as my neighbours are and I don't think any of them would ask either.

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luluaugust Thu 14-Nov-24 12:26:44

I don’t think anyone would ask as we are the oldies in our road.
Years ago I saw a skin specialist who said he wished ladies wouldn’t shower everyday and then slap on expensive creams as the skin left to itself would mean he saw fewer people!! At the time I was a bit taken aback but now I can see his point.

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Doodledog Thu 14-Nov-24 13:16:54

I don't think the neighbour could expect to choose the time of day, other than for it not to be when she is at work. It's one of those situations where you take it or leave it when you are offered a time that is convenient to the host.

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Oldbat1 Thu 14-Nov-24 13:22:27

We have had neighbours use our house and likewise we have used neighbours facilities. We look after one another and i have three different neighbours keys and they have ours. Our street is a lovely place to live. No one oversteps the mark.

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theworriedwell Thu 14-Nov-24 16:25:44

I've had the same neighbours on both sides for nearly 30 years. They were utterly vile to us for years although they are polite enough now. I wouldn't want to do them a favour but the question wouldn't arise as they don't like the colour of my husband's skin and for goodness sake it could be catching. Imagine them waking up black the next day!!!!

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MissAdventure Thu 14-Nov-24 18:48:10

If it was for a fortnight, every other day, then they'd have to fit in with my plans.
It's still doable, though.

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