What would you do?

No, telling him would achieve nothing and the friend would have probably told about the affair in confidence.

When you tell someone a secret it is no longer a secret it is gossip.

This is listed on mumsnet this evening??

Ofcourse I’m prejudiced. Having been cheated on, I know the damage an affair can cause. So I will try to dissuade her from continuing the relationship…
But, that’s not what you asked me. So, to answer your question, I would tell my husband. I am not a good keeper-of-secrets😂

no, I wouldn't either

Nope, wouldn't share that one.

I can keep a confidence, if asked to.
If the friend didn’t ask for me to do so, I’d tell my husband.
Then we’d keep it between us and watch from the sidelines.
But then he’d feel bad for the husband of the friend. So it’s messy.
Oh heck. Not sure really what I’d do ...
Probably sleep on it and say nowt.
Then watch and wait.
Ask the friend what part of her disclosure was just dumping her shit on me?
Then again, maybe I wouldn’t know her husband?
Would I care if I didn’t know him?
Would I still want her as my friend?
I think I’d have a few sleepless nights.

Don’t tell a soul. She is your friend and may very soon be in need of a compassionate one.

No. If a friend tells me something in confidence I respect it, and I'm not joined at the hip to my husband.

Why would you ? I can’t think of any reason that you would share.

No, it would be breaking her confidence, she wouldn’t forgive you if you did that.

No, no, no! If you tell him it becomes gossip.

Iam64

Is the affair with your husband 😵‍💫

Noooooo not with my husband.

Not with mine!

I used to tell my husband most things, but by doing that his opinion of your friend will alter. Do hope your friends husband finds out though.

Certainly not! What if he talked to his best friend - and on it would go.

Is the affair with your husband 😵‍💫