Just for a laugh

There are many rude, unkind things my MiL has said to me over the years. It started with her inviting my H's ex girlfriend over at the same time as me! I cannot think of one nice thing she has said to me. I gave up making an effort and being nice and polite and just have minimal contact with her now. It's made me very mindful as a MiL myself now, I may still annoy but they won't go through what I have.

My M-I-L was a difficult women (had to be the centre of attention all the time and much more!!) BUT her saving grace was that my S-I-L and I could grumble about our husbands and she would say "Oh they are just as bad as their dad!"

My MIL terrified me when I first met her, she was a SAHM and had am immaculate house, baked, sewed, played hostess. She kept recipes and had loads of cookbooks. She was actually quite nice once I got to know her, but she did always buy me cookbooks or things like Le Crueset casseroles for presents. I tried but I'm not a cook!
Most inappropriate thing she said to me was when I took the children to see her after the divorce when my ex had cleared off with someone else "But how will he manage?" she asked!!!

My inlaws were lovely. I was very lucky. We got on well and shared a similar sense of humour. My sister in law is very forthright - and a bit bossy - but we got around that and enjoy our phone calls and visits. Again I'm very lucky

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Sorry not very lighthearted but reading some other posts I see I was not alone

My Mil called me a Jezebel when courting her son as I was a few years older. They never came to our engagement party. When my DH died suddenly she came to the house and scrubbed the floor telling me she’d done the dirty floor. She didn’t like the cat paw marks. On rare occasions I visited alone she would go upstairs leaving me alone but if DH and add we’re waiting th me she was perfect host. So many horrid memories stirred up by this post

crazyH .Thank you so much for your kind words and lovely flowers! ..Sadly my Mum and Dad were made to always feel second best by her and even by my aunty. I know they weren't of course and grew up in a loving environment by extremely hard working parents who never showed any of their own grandchildren any hint of favoritism despite their very different personalities. There was never any obvious reason for my Grans attitude other than her obvious love of her daughter being valued as more than for my kind, generous natured and very hardworking Dad. You are right of course about circumstances sometimes dictating gifts and obviously thats fine. It wasn't the pocket money that was so much of an issue in my case it was the comments of loving my cousin more than me. Strange how sommeones simple question on this forum can evoke such strong memories. I thought I was over it now at my age. Clearly not 😂🤣😂

Oh hilz - that’s so hurtful. I can’t imagine how you felt. Did you ever tell your Dad? It would have hurt him too. I hope you are having a happy life now. I have 6 GC - 20, 18, 7, 7, 4, 4 . Yes, I practically brought up the older two, because daughter and husband were working. There is a bond, but the love I feel for all, is the same. I do give them more pocket money because they are older. And besides, their parents are divorced and my daughter is now a single parent. Circumstances dictate the distribution of gifts etc, I guess.

You have to laugh sometimes when chatting to those with out a 'filter' don't you.
Sometimes though some comments can be incredibly hurtful and stay with you forever. I was once told by my gran that I wasn't having pocket money or any treats off her like my cousin did because my cousin was her daughters child and it was natural to love her more than me because I was only her sons. . Never forgot that in her eyes I was valued less. It hurt.

My DM adored all her S & DiLs. She made a point of saying how much nicer they were than her own DC!
Apparently, she had once asked her cousin, mother of sons, how she seemed to get on so well with their wives and loved her back.
"Oh" she replied" I am just so grateful to them for loving my sons"

What I would fear was having my sons back home with me if their wives threw them out.

My in-laws are great and my DC are all very lucky.

After my D was born my MIL told me I should wear thicker knickers because I would be more open. I still have not thought of a suitable reply.

My first MIL staying at her-house I heard tell her neighbour she wasn’t going to let any more of her sons join the army as they all married bloody foreigner I was from Newcastle he was from Bognor Regis and other DIL was from Northern Ireland and this was in the 70’s

My mother in law was awful …..so….I am a perfectly wonderful mother in law …..and my son in law says so.

When we were planning on getting married, second time round for both of us, and I was yet to meet his mum, he said " don't expect a better class of MIL this time round"! He knew my ex and his family well.
Sure enough, before I'd even met her, she phoned to tell me that his ex " hadn't got a bad word to say about you"! I'd never met his ex, and they had been split up 8 years when we met. And then phoned 3 days before our wedding day to say they wouldn't be able to come as they were in Blackpool, on February, and we wouldn't mind, eh !??. They came for the service, ate, drank and off.
But then my ex's mum, in meeting his new wife to be and her kids, called me specifically to tell me how lovely she was, and how she was thrilled to have 2 new grandchildren. She never bothered with the ones she already had! And it meant they wouldn't be able to give my kids pocket money any more, ( 50p when we did see them), as they couldn't afford to give them all the same. If I ever marry again, I'll vet the in laws first!

I once bought some useful 'things' from an Oxfam catalogue. The rest of the family were happy to know that I'd bought goats or hens for poor people in Africa in their names. I bought my mother a row of toilets. I thought she'd find it funny but sensible. No such luck. She was most disparaging about 'charities' and 'do gooders'. Back to soap the next Christmas.

My own Mother was far worse!
One memorable Christmas I bought her a red jumper as she had asked for something bright and “Christmassy” to cheer her up. After lunch she obviously got confused over who gave it to her as when my sister left the room she said “why on earth did she buy me such an awful jumper, where does she think I’ll wear that? Bet she got it from the jumble or somewhere!”
I told her I’d bought it new from M&S and she said “oh good at least you can take it back!!”
I did and got something for myself instead.
It’s become a bit of a family joke now when giving a present - you can always take it back!

My mil told me on my wedding day that the photographer thought she was the bride.
Even though she had a bright blue dress on.😂. Took about 30 years before she got better to me.

Oh crikey! I am a three times MiL,and I sometimes say things that I wish I hadn’t. Brain and mouth don’t always act together.
I love them all though and have told them so.

TillyWhiz

Oh Yammy, you made me laugh out loud.

I could go on for hours. She would not let me hang the baby's nappies on her line because they were pink DH her son had thrown a sports top in with them and not told.
She gave chocolate eggs to our little DDs and then said not to let them eat them as they might choke, I lost my rag and threw them up her street and they bounced off all the neighbour's cars.
We once travelled 200 miles to stay with her and she told us on arrival we couldn't as the bed was in pieces, she had decorators in and never told us.
Unfortunately, I was expecting a kind generous woman like my paternal gran was to my mum and at first too young to do or say anything.
I'm sorry in a way to see other people have suffered the same.
I have had a good laugh at all the other MIL antics.

Why are MIL’s so thoughtless I wonder?
I do think there may be some element of ‘you have stolen my boy’ about it.I also think there is nothing funny about a great deal of these remembered sayings, sadly.
My own MIL a very long time deceased, didn’t say much but was the master of the ‘sniff’ !

Not a MiL but my Granny. I paraded in front of her in my new outfit. She thought for a bit then said, '
Well at least you've got one good leg'.
She wouldn't tell me which one either!!

Remember I said I’m still wincing about something I once said to my son and DiL?
I’ve just recalled us being offered a drink in their house. DiL, without thinking, advised, “Oh, Husband, don’t use my best glasses.” She blushed and apologised but I laughed heartily, pointing out it was a wise move as I have form with long-stemmed glasses!
It still makes me chuckle.

My MIL ( who has sadly not been around since 1988) was a terror to buy for, she was rather a large lady, so buying her clothes was out of the question, but if I gave her money to buy what she wanted, I knew it wouldn't be spent on clothes, as she was rather a BINGO fanatic, going every night if she could!!
If you bought her flowers the response was " I'm not ill" if you bought her perfume the response was "do I smell" nothing she was bought was suitable in her eyes. We once bought her a lovely little brass carriage clock, she loved anything brass, the house was full of it, but did she like this clock, no she didn't......it as if everything I bought for her, (husband's in those days left the present buying to wives ! still do some of them I'm sure) she dismissed. I got used to her in the end, but can't for the life of me, all these years later think of one present she was bought, by other 3 DIL's as well as me, that she appreciated. She had 4 sons, perhaps it was because we had stolen them away from her that she behaved this way to us.

My husband's aunt, a good Spanish Catholic, was most surprised when I explained that, although I was brought up in the Cof E, I did in fact know all about the Trinity etc. I got the feeling she thought any non Catholic was a Satanist but was too polite to say