Never thought this sort of thing would bother me - but grandchild prefers other Nan to me.

Nothing wrong with a bit of bribery Moonlight]

I’m a good few miles away from both sets of GC so I think it’s a given that they will see more of their other grandparents and therefore be closer. But hopefully they will continue to look forward to coming to see us as they get older and see we love them and are fun grandparents to be with.

Kandinski - could you ask your granddaughter what she likes doing at her other grans. You could then see if you could do something similar (or even better).

How are things now, years later? I'm having the same problem

My 4 year old granddaughter prefers her other grandma over me. It really hurt when I had her for the day and she said she wanted to go to her other grandma's house. 🥺
I never thought she would say that! We have a lot of fun together. ???

Children are like that. Our DGS would do a body swerve round me to get to DH. He only had one grandfather, so he was special, Where grandmas were concerned he had a grandma that he saw most days, certainly every week, while I was the surplus grandmother, whom he only saw every month or so. so I didn't really count for much.

He grew out of it. he is nearly 16 and we are looking forward to him coming to stay once he finishes his GCSEs.

Kandinsky. Now she is about 10 how are things?

Oh my gosh I started this thread over 5 years ago! ( didn’t realize I’d been on GN that long )

Yes, things have very much evened out,
I can’t say I notice any obvious favoritism anymore, although 3 more grandchildren have come along since so maybe I’m just too busy
But you know what, even if one grandchild does prefer their other grandmother, I’m fine with that.

But on a separate note, I’ve just been reading back over all the replies, I only recognize one or two names that are still here. But I suppose 5 years is a long time. People come & go.

I think my GD (now 22) has always preferred her other GM
She has now moved in with her. because the Grandad has passed away. They go for walks together. Her GM cooks the right food . I am not health conscious at all. Although I do not begrudge it, I can’t help feeling that when my husband left me for someone else, and I was devastated, no one felt any real sympathy. I was left to get on with it. My GD was very young at the time . Her mother (my daughter) did visit and bring plates of food etc but I don’t remember anyone staying with me and keeping company with me.
Oh well , we can’t force people to care - just got to get on with it . And Ofcourse being left alone through death is far more devastating than being left alone through divorce .

When gd was 3 other grandpa asked her how much she loved granny, gran , each uncle in turn and each time she extended her arms wider and wider and even around to her back when asked about mummy. Then grandpa asked how much did she love him— she put her two little fingers practically together!!
He sulked for the rest of the day! She actually called his bluff at the tender age of 3! So don’t worry about what they say- just be yrself and never be competitive.

Thats great Kandinsky it's always helpful to see "what happened in the end".
It's funny as well to read a post and then realise its your own!!!

Also lots of names which I don't see over the past 5 years or more I have been on Gransnet . But then there are many who read, but only very occasionally pop up. Life is busy.

I did not much like my paternal grandmother and adored my maternal grandmother. Fortunately my paternal grandmother did not like my mother and I was considered to like my mother so the feelinbg was mutual. She made a number of uite cutting and hurtful remarks to me when i was in my mid-teens, that still linger.