Old fashioned or fair.

If one person goes out to work to support the family the one left at home should pick up most of the housework, cooking and ironing etc. unless they both choose to pay help to do it. It's not sexist, it is fair.

Letting someone go out to work and come home to a tip and no dinner is inconsiderate and lazy.

IMHO. But I am a judgemental old bat.

It's up to hime to tell her. He obviously lets her get away with it.

I still work full time but DH only works part time - so he does the bulk of the house work. This means that we can both enjoy weekends together without fuss. We agreed this roleshare approach years ago when he gave up work to look after our two DDs.

The home may not be pristine - but it is home

I don't really think it is for us to comment.we don't know the full facts. No one except tje couple concerned can know what is happening. There may be more happening than you are aware.

I agree. Someone else’s business is stressing you out. Keep your nose out and calm down.

Maybe she's writing a book.

Dont even get me started on this.............

My friend turned round to her live in boyfriend 15+ years together, when he moaned about her being lazy said we didn't get together for my cleaning skills and cut him short, she does work part time, we all kept quiet.

'No she's definitely not ill in any way, shape or form. She's simply bone bloody idle.'

That is very judgemental. There are some illnesses that cannot be seen from the outside. When I was a student nurse I went out with a community mental health nurse. He had a patient to visit whose house was, as you would describe it, a tip and that person just sat around doing nothing. But he was not idle, not at all. He was extremely unwell with depression that was so debilitating that he was almost catatonic. This community nurse simply rolled up his sleeves and did the washing up while I had a quick tidy. We were not being judgemental, not at all, because that nurse knew that by doing what little we could would make the patient feel a tiny bit better.

So, how do you know that this young mother does not have similar problems? Maybe taking the children to school is the best that her illness will allow her to do.

Judge not, lest ye too be judged (or something like that!)

That’s not equality, it’s just laziness. How sad for her husband that he has to do it all. Surely that marriage can’t last.

Hm999 ??
I’m afraid having little ones home
all day is a full time job in it own right.. dust will always be there, washing can wait til evening but they stay little for such a short time and Need our time and company. Doing chores together can be fun.. but god forbid the house is a mess! Nobody’s business but yours and your other half... if ppl don’t like it... ask them to help......

Agree with you. I've met people like that and the marriages didn't last forever. If there's children involved he probably wants to keep the marriage intact. I know it's hard but bite your tongue and move on.