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Thanking step son

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prburgess Sun 26-Jan-20 18:47:23

Hi,, I'm new here,
I got married 10 years ago and have two step sons now aged around 30, one of these has now just had a daughter, from the moment I entered their lives they have been brilliant with me and I'm now officially "grumps" to their daughter. Trying to find a card or something to do without being over the top to thank them for letting me in to their lives and to be a step grumps,, any ideas great fully received

JuliaM Mon 27-Jan-20 13:38:41

Whilst paying money into a Grandchilds saving account is a good idea, the banking rules have changed recently, and it's now only the Childs parents who can open the account on their behalf. This is apparently to stop Grandparents from investing large sums of money for themselves, and collecting the higher tax free interest rates, before withdrawing the funds and pocketing a fair amount back for themselves. As l understand it now, most Childrens savings accounts continue without any withdrawals of funds until the child reaches adulthood, then the funds will be paid to them directly, not via a third party.

Neva2bananna Mon 27-Jan-20 16:37:02

When my son was born I bought my father a book from the Cancer Research Shop called The Grandparents Book. It had lots of questions that a child might ask and he wrote his replies. Things like ‘where did you first meet Grandma’ and ‘what was she wearing’ and ‘what did you think’
It’s a lovely book and he filled it in with his usual Yorkshire dry wit! We hear his voice in every page!

You May find something similar on the Internet?
You sound a lovely Grumps - Good Luck, these baby days go so fast!

V3ra Mon 27-Jan-20 17:28:12

JuliaM yes you're right, the account my daughter opened for my granddaughter is the one I contribute to ?

Nanny41 Mon 27-Jan-20 18:03:09

Grumps you sound a lovely person, the new baby is so lucky to have you in her life.Havent any ideas to give you unfortunately,hugs from me.

JaneJANE60 Mon 27-Jan-20 18:19:22

Have a look on Etsy they do loads of lovely personalised cards that are always very reasonably priced and just a little different. I’m sure you will find something that would be appropriate. Good luck

Merryweather Mon 27-Jan-20 19:07:20

I'm not so sure a restaurant voucher is such a good idea to be honest. Most new mums are very reluctant to leave a baby under two with anyone. This goes doubly if she's breastfeeding.
I thought for mom maybe one of those necklaces with 3 interlocking circles that have their names on a circle each.
There's something similar but more manly for dad's.
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Fennel Mon 27-Jan-20 19:24:21

prburgess - what a lovely change from other threads on here about family conflicts.
Certainly send a card, but also offer your practical help if necessary. Be careful about financial offers of help.
What does your wife say about it?
Having been a step grandma, and husband a step grandad for many years.

Cindy8 Tue 28-Jan-20 00:28:22

Hi i would suggest a family photo shoot with there new arrival so they can cherish the memories, as i did this for my daughter and son in law and one of the pictures is hanging over my fireplace to look at everyday.