For couples ... sleep together or sleep apart? ?

How I would love to share my bed with my, then husband, but he has chosen to share his with someone else!

I had one like that too. I used to put a rolled up blanket down the middle of the bed so I didn’t upset him in the middle of the night while I was asleep, ( following the body warmth). Got rid after 25 years of misery.

Together
But the real treat is separate bathrooms

Separate rooms for us thank goodness. None of his 'junk' in my room, and no snoring and shuffling about to put up with. Works perfectly for us!

On my own. It is awful after 45 years.

Separate rooms n beds. Saviour of our marriage due to snoring husband. Certainly does not sign the death knell-far from it! Spark still there, 45 years married so best of both worlds! I also have wakeful bouts every night so I know I won't be disturbing him.

Since my cancer diagnosis separate rooms. We have had our own bathrooms for many years.

We have seperate rooms on separate floors. We both snore and are both light sleepers. If he snores I wake and if I snore he wakes. I sleep better with background noise like the radio on and he sleeps better in pitch black and silence. We are both very happy with the arrangement.

Neither of us can sleep properly if we aren't in the same bed

Both. We both enjoy settling down with our current reads and Classics FM and then sleep well, but then he will snore for England or I have the fidgets of cannot switch my brain off. So out I go. It takes five minutes to make a bed on the sofa, and I am usually asleep quickly. He only noticed my absence in the morning!

Separate beds and separate rooms.

I’m a night owl and like to read into the early hours.
He has to get up early, also he is a terrible snorer.

It suits us just fine.
We always have a little chat beforehand and a kiss goodnight.
We are quite happy with this arrangement.

Always together in the same bed! I don’t know how long we’ll have each other. I want to be as close as possible!!!

I can’t believe that people have a dog - or multiple dogs and cats in bed with them! I’m sorry and I know I’ll be lambasted for this but YUCK!

@kwest - have a look at zip and link single beds or zip and link mattresses. The single divan zip and link beds have clips to join the bases together and the mattresses zip together- use a decent mattress protector to cover the join. Or - zip and link mattresses on a superking bedframe but the frame may still move a bit.

Together in a king-size bed which also accommodates The Boss (our cat). But as others have said, separate bathrooms which is bliss!

Thought we’d always sleep together but now we are better in separate rooms - DH sleeps badly and keeps me awake and when he eventually sleeps he snores loudly which means I’m then tired and grumpy. He does often start off in my bed though it’s important to stay close.

After 34years of happy Marriage, we are now forced to sleep apart in separate rooms due to health reasons. It started a few years ago after he had surgery for kidney stones, and ended up with an external ‘plumbing’ system fitted for many months which sometimes leaked at night and left us both soaking wet if we accidentally nudged the connections in our sleep.
Then l was prescribed a c-pap machine for a long term lung condition which was far from quiet when it was switched on during the night, so at this point we decided that separate rooms would be best, so at least one of us could get a decent nights sleep. Ten years on, and once our daughter left home to go to university, we stared having alterations done to our house to make it possible for me to live entirely on the ground floor, with my own bathroom and bedroom, but retaining our shared lounge and kitchen for use in the day. We also installed a stair lift to give me the option of going upstairs if l so wished to do so. This has worked well for us both as an alternative to moving into sheltered housing. Our daughters and grandchildren live close by, we have all the community resources we need and know well right on our doorstep, we are happy with each other still, even if we no longer share a bed every night, and my husbands ‘external plumbing’ has long gone thanks to our NHS, and the wonderful surgeon who mended him for good!

Tiger tooth sorry it is a big YUCK to you about people sleeping with cats or dogs but each to their own.

I have my dog and she is a large breed she has slept on the bed for 10 years she loves a pillow and in winter time she does like to be under the duvet because I like the window open even in winter. If she was not sleeping on the bed I would not get to sleep.
In the morning at shower time the dog will run through the shower and the water hardly wets her then I have my lovely shower she runs through the shower as I am sure she thinks she is human and has to have her daily shower spray.
Once upon a time I did have a human in the bed he had to put up with the dog as after all she is important. He did not leave because of the dog he got used to her he had to return to different country, he still calls me but I am not leaving the U.K. and anyway would not put my dog in quarantine as she is ten and getting too old for that.

No I can't be doing with animals on the bed either Tigertooth our dogs have their own day bed in my room and the cat sleeps in the barn.

Seperate rooms. We both snore and he has a CEPAT machine all night

i choose to live alone, big comfy bed all for me.

We bought an electric bed that has 2 mattresses as it can go up & down- both the head bit & the legs about knee level. Very comfortable for reading in bed & your best sleeping position. As we have 2 mattresses we can have our own side in the best sleeping position for us both. One of the best buys we have ever made- especially as it was well reduced in the sale!!

farview Tue 24-Dec-19 08:34:01
Separate rooms..because I don't like him...

Separate then you avoid the midnight fumbling.

I have just returned to the marital bedroom after a couple of weeks in the single spare bed because of my coughing and snoring. I really enjoyed having my own space and music on, not through headphones. That room is my little study, so I wouldn’t want him to sleep in there.
The thing is, it is a 3 bedroomed house and he has the other big bedroom for his study( no room for a bed in there ) so I did feel rather relegated.