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greeneyes57 Sat 06-Apr-19 22:47:30

Hi all. I have a friend much younger than myself who has a 10 yr old child. When I see her she often tells me how tough it is financially and that there are times when she feeds her child but goes without,of course my heart goes out to her so I invite them both to eat at my place for either lunch or dinner. She has also borrowed money. The other day I was at her place and saw she bought 2 bottles of 1 litre whiskey. $100 Australian. I mentioned to her that "I'm confused that you say you cant buy food or pay bills ,but buy alcohol." She wasn't happy and felt I was judging her. Should I have said nothing.???

Gonegirl Sun 07-Apr-19 10:53:38

That was definitely a "little thing".

Gonegirl Sun 07-Apr-19 10:53:14

Sorry from me too. grin I thought you were getting at me for a thread I started yesterday (about discussion of the day)

Gonegirl Sun 07-Apr-19 10:52:19

There are "little things" and little" things. The innocent totally harmless little things, quite out in the open, inviting others to join in, and then there's the sly digs.

Different in my opinion if not in yours.

maryeliza54 Sun 07-Apr-19 10:50:41

Sorry Gone I misread your post - you’re agreeing with me but have now outed my suspicions. I’m off as hell will rain down now

Chewbacca Sun 07-Apr-19 10:49:27

sigh

Gonegirl Sun 07-Apr-19 10:49:12

Getting back to the OP, I might have innocently asked if she liked whisky.

maryeliza54 Sun 07-Apr-19 10:48:43

The little things comment refers to both sides of the equation methink. Anyway my work on this thread is done - let’s see what the day might bring?

Gonegirl Sun 07-Apr-19 10:47:33

It's this "are you new? Welcome etc". Not really welcoming at all. Two faced actually.

Gonegirl Sun 07-Apr-19 10:46:11

Yes there is Maryeliza and it's silly. (little things...)

maryeliza54 Sun 07-Apr-19 10:44:25

Why shouldn’t I mention something I’ve noticed and ask if anyone else has noticed it? I’m not naming any names am I? ( they know who they are) . Just a bit of fun. Get off your high horses

Chewbacca Sun 07-Apr-19 10:41:12

Then what's the point of stirring it up Maryeliza? It doesn't make any sense.

maryeliza54 Sun 07-Apr-19 10:39:35

I’m amused by it Elegran . It was quite clever to start with but it’s getting a bit obvious now. However, it doesn’t harm the OP so it’s not again guidelines.

Chewbacca Sun 07-Apr-19 10:39:19

Quiet Elegran. A bit of mischief making going on I think. Wondering why. hmm

Elegran Sun 07-Apr-19 10:37:03

If it is something you don't like, MaryEliza, that you are posting coded messages about, why not let GN know?

maryeliza54 Sun 07-Apr-19 10:36:33

PM me if you really want to know - I can’t do an open post

Carolina55 Sun 07-Apr-19 10:34:42

I do the cryptic crossword in the daily mail (occasionally finish it as well!) but these clues have gone right over my head! Can someone educate me please?

FarNorth Sun 07-Apr-19 10:33:03

Btw, does she pay back the money she borrows?

FarNorth Sun 07-Apr-19 10:31:02

Google tells me that 100 Australian dollars is about £55. So, quite expensive.
Do alcoholics normally buy expensive drink? Or go for getting the most for their money?
Possibly the woman just has her priorities wrong.
I agree with those saying to continue being a friend, and inviting her and her child for a meal if you like to do that, but cut back on giving her money.

maryeliza54 Sun 07-Apr-19 10:26:59

Not just me then. Next time it happens I’ll post a wink on the thread it happens on

ffinnochio Sun 07-Apr-19 10:01:08

M54. Yep, I’ve certainly noticed it.

Chewbacca Sun 07-Apr-19 09:59:45

Coded messages? Eh? confused

EllanVannin Sun 07-Apr-19 09:57:40

SueH49, compare the population volume between Australia and UK.
Even when I was in Oz in 1990, a long time ago, there appeared to be a lot of " drinkers " back then. Hot sunny weather, a laid-back life and hard-partying, something I didn't see when I was there in 1982 so things HAVE changed over the years. This was in Sydney.

maryeliza54 Sun 07-Apr-19 09:48:03

They know who they are (if they are that is)

maryeliza54 Sun 07-Apr-19 09:46:57

No EV that’s not what I’m talking about at all - not the OP at all or the type of OP but a certain type of response to it which is imo a coded message to others in the loop.

SueH49 Sun 07-Apr-19 09:44:05

EllanVannin, I don't think people in Australia have any more of a drink problem than those in any other country. Of course we have our fair share of those that do but so does the UK. Your comment is both unnecessary and unhelpful IMO.