First dance after your wedding

We didn't have a disco etc after a wedding when I got married in 1965. We had a wedding reception, often called a wedding breakfast., and the bride and groom left for their honeymoon from this. The guests may have stayed on to socialize. But there was no music for dancing. So we had no first dance .

paddyann I was the Catholic in our marriage ,my FIL didn't want us to marry as he thought catholics were evil or scum

<sigh> Yes, awful isn't it?

My parents were prejudiced against everyone. They didn't know any Catholics and wouldn't even meet my in laws, who were lovely and very kind to me.

My parents were not religious and thought I was foolish for going to church, so it wasn't as if they had strong loyalties to any religion.

By the time my elder son was christened in the Catholic church, my Dad was dead but Mum refused to come. No thought for me and husband at all.

If I had my time again I'd defy them and have the wedding we both wanted.

Bradfordlass72
How cruel it would not happen today..
I am the youngest of 12 ..had a hotel wedding my dad said he would pay..he did not like my husband and he left us with the bill ( thankfully we had the money) still together 40 years later ..we had to drag him from the pub to walk me down the aisle..harsh times!!!!!

We had a very small but classy wedding reception at a lovely restaurant, hired for the day (remember Egon Ronay ratings?) We asked a flautist friend to play gentle stuff for us as we ate. (I remember he played Annie's Song, but most of it was background music.) That night the small wedding group (18 of us) ended up at the pub and number one at that time in 1979 was "When you're in love with a beautiful woman" by Dr Hook. My new husband, who'd had a few too many sherries by then, sang it to me, loudly, much to the amusement of the crowd. Not appropriate for newly weds really as it's about not trusting her and other men chasing her!

Bradfordlass I was the Catholic in our marriage ,my FIL didn't want us to marry as he thought catholics were evil or scum depending on his mood.He wanted us to marry in a Church of Scotland we wanted a registry office and my Catholic parents just wanted a church so it was C OF S .I raised my children in C of S to please FIL too ,even though my husband didn't go to church.Many ,many years later the old boy told me he couldn't have asked for a better wife for his son...he even attended my GS's christening in a catholic church....took a wee bit of persuading though .Religion is at the root of so many problems in Scotland ,not as bad as it was but its still here .

I don’t know if anybody I knew did “evening do’s “ in 1970, other than perhaps Scottish Country dancing at a Scottish wedding reception.
We had a buffet lunch, speeches and champagne then tea and cake , after which I changed into my “going away outfit “ including a huge black straw hat! and we set off on our honeymoon.
Do brides have “going away outfits” any more?
(The parents and respective families had dinner together I believe after we had gone )

We got married in the register office, drove back to Mum & Dad’s with the 12 guests, had our tea & then drove to the Lake District for the weekend.

No evening do and certainly no dance at our wedding in 1967. We had a sit down meal and then went back to house to get changed and left for our honeymoon.

When I got married, I went to work the next day, as usual.

On the morning of my wedding, I had been told I was not allowed to wear my white dress and veil, so had to make do with an old and ugly navy Crimplene suit. This was my father's ultimatum for coming to the wedding at all.

I had no flowers, no photos and certainly no happy reception afterwards. My crime was to marry a Catholic against my parents' wishes.

His parents were not so rigid but did not like the fact (any more than we did, especially as I was a regular church-goer) we'd been forced to choose a Registry Office.

The look on my husband's face (he was in his naval uniform) when I arrived in that awful navy suit nearly broke my heart.

It was probably the most miserable day of my life and to make matters worse, my husband and I were wedding photographers, going to other peoples joyful weddings and recording what we had so much wanted for ourselves.

It still hurts, all these years later.

I'll never know how people who are supposed to love you can be so cruelly insistent on hurting.

No dance , a room was booked in the hotel for me to change out of my gown after the reception , we said goodby and thank you to the guests and left .

No dance here either. Buffet reception after the wedding, then quick change, everyone waved us off about 5ish and that was it. Most close friends and family decamped to my parents house in the evening. We hadn't booked anywhere for our honeymoon, and just drove west! Ended up in Minehead where luckily we found a hotel with vacancies - which was a miracle as it was Easter Monday! (No, it wasn't Butlins!)

Married in church in 1977, reception in hotel with a cold buffet, 55 guests. Afterwards in evening everyone decamped to DH's parents' house. Definitely no music or dancing.
We left after I'd changed out of my wedding dress for the next town and a posh hotel.
The next morning we left on honeymoon for an island in the sun - Anglesey.

paddyann you're right about the parents being in charge. Had 70 guests, lovely wedding but didn't have much say in it. At least I chose my music

Sounds a bit more grand than Birmingham Registry Office paddyann

Registry office wedding for us too with a get together at my parents house. Lovely sunny July day in 1970. No dancing.

Same as Grandma70 and MOnica for me too in 1968. No dancing for the pregnant bride - tut tut

We wanted a registry office KatyK my dad said we'd as well buy a dog licence ..he didn't care what denomination of church it was but a church it had to be.We married in Luss ,Loch Lomond and had our reception in anearby village hotel .Parents ruled then inlike brides now who get to have everything their way .We had 100 guests ,mostly family ,aunts cousins etc.Many we haven't set eyes on except at weddings and funerals since

No first dance for us. Married in a Registry Office, reception for about 10 people in my mum's very small front room. No money for a big wedding. I don't think anyone danced. Celebrating 50 years this year.

We didn't have dancing. It was a lovely buffet/afternoon tea job. Then at about five we went off on honeymoon. It was the way it was done in those days.

A clone of Grandma70s, even to the year - except that the hotel was not that grand. As she said, the best fuss free wedding ever.

Without you by Nilsson ?

"Forever in Love" by Kenny G. Instrumental, played on the saxophone. You can find it on YouTube. STUNNING. He wrote it just prior to his own wedding.

We got married in hospital 1 day after massive op, with drip up- can't remember any of it- and certainly not in a state to dance- lol. Nearly 48 years ago, 29th of May 71. 7.5 months in hospital, 4.5 in traction.

You Make Me Feel Brand New - June 1978, and 41 years on every word still rings true.

You light up my life....1979...40/years on and still love to dance