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PECS Sun 03-Feb-19 22:06:24

Celebrities are in the public eye: actors, TV performers, singers, royalty etc. and , like any one they are open for
criticism of their actions, behaviour or even being bad at what they do.

To be critical of someone's appearance or a physical attribute is not OK in my book ..that is just rude. But I do sometimes see or hear people say they dislike someone because of an aspect of their physical being: funny eyes, squeaky voice, bushy eyebrows etc.

Am I too prissy to think like this?

Jalima1108 Mon 04-Feb-19 12:19:16

The minute some names are suggested you think of someone from school and say "Oh no, we can't have that name! They always had a runny nose!"
grin

Lily65 Mon 04-Feb-19 12:21:23

Ha ha Brenda at 72 running the investigations.

I speak of Joanna Lumley, she of the posh voice and nice holidays ( sorry TV programmes)

No I can't get worked up about somebody having a pop at a celeb who puts themselves in the firing line.

Jalima1108 Mon 04-Feb-19 12:28:44

Oh, thanks!

I like JL smile

MacCavity2 Mon 04-Feb-19 13:25:26

Phew thanks PECS thought I was a horrible person until you said our likes and dislikes are irrational. Now I feel better about not liking certain celebrities. Just like I hate spiders.

Nanny41 Mon 04-Feb-19 13:58:00

I love Judi Dench and Helen Mirren, wonderful actresses,and I adore their hairstyles,cant see why anyone could say anything negative about them,what was said?

PECS Mon 04-Feb-19 14:06:21

Trouble with speech Nonnie is different things annoy different people. There is a particular presenter who , imho, cannot pronounce the word 'thousand' correctly. All other words are well enunciated but they say, 'Thahsands' and it really irritatesgringringrin especially as the programme often refers to sums of money!

PECS Mon 04-Feb-19 14:08:28

Haha McCavity it is odd though why, for no apparent reason we 'take against' or ' really like' people we do not even know!

GabriellaG54 Mon 04-Feb-19 15:16:27

I can think of one politician who looks like a man, but isn't.
I hope, by naming no names, that comment is not offensive, in fact, it is probably doing a disservice to the majority of men. hmm

GabriellaG54 Mon 04-Feb-19 15:29:35

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Nonnie Mon 04-Feb-19 15:29:40

PECS only one? I am beginning to think it is some sort of requirement these days, BBC needs to show it is down with the masses, not elitist etc.

Grandma70s Mon 04-Feb-19 15:33:45

Well, I don’t know who you mean, GabriellaG54.

I agree with whoever said Maggie Smith was a favourite. Mine too. I don’t take to Judi Dench in any way.

Kate Middleton - I think she doesn’t have a beautiful face, but her elegance and general style mean it’s not important. She looks wonderful to me.

EllanVannin Mon 04-Feb-19 15:42:08

At 72 I think Brenda Blethyn is absolutely great remembering her lines. How many of us could do what she does ? She certainly has my admiration. I can be like that at times and I'm not even acting hahahaha.

Grandma70s it was me who liked Maggie Smith-----a natural ! Very attractive as " Miss Jean Brodie ".

Kate Middleton has " well-bred " features. Another natural.

GoldenAge Mon 04-Feb-19 15:57:36

Actually personal appearance is extremely important when it comes to celebrities who are role models (whether we like it or not) for younger people, including our grandchildren. So as far as I'm concerned if celebs present themselves (whether fat, thin, tall or short) in inappropriate clothing I think they're fair game for comment. Additionally, I hate it that celebs these days seem to bleach their teeth and basically look quite ridiculous when they open their mouths and there are obviously sets of something in there that are definitely not what they were born with - not to comment on these things sends totally the wrong signals to our younger population - that unless you have sparkly white straight and perfect teeth you're somehow behind the times. Yes, we should comment - appearance is not just about body shape, it's about how you choose to cover it (or not cover it as the case may be).

Annaram1 Mon 04-Feb-19 15:59:19

Hi all, well I have never liked my nose, its a bit large, but not as big as Davina's. My husband actually liked it! His was not small either. Now I am an old lady I don't care two hoots.

Pythagorus Mon 04-Feb-19 16:19:36

It has always seemed ridiculous to me that people are judged on what is after all, an accidental arrangement of features.

Because the media is so critical of human flaws, those seeking a career in the media have their features and indeed bodies, tweaked to make them fit the accepted standard of beauty. Following this, insecure people copy the celebrities and emulate these changes to their own bodies and faces.

Yet, look at this more confident people who have achieved success with a huge nose and less than model looks ..... Barbra Streisand for example.

I would not denigrate people for commenting on ohthers appearances .... it seems to be the way of the world, led by the media. Sticks and stones can break my bones, but words can never hurt me!

Annaram1 Mon 04-Feb-19 16:21:52

Unfortunately Pythagorus words can and do hurt sometimes more than sticks and stones.

MissAdventure Mon 04-Feb-19 16:35:57

Surely then, it would be wise not to seek out a job where you're up for public scrutiny?
I disappear quickly as possible if I think there may be a picture taken, so the thought of being on tv fills me with dread.

DanniRae Mon 04-Feb-19 16:48:58

Surely if we are being rude about someone on tv, for whatever reason, it's ok if we are in our own living rooms? Mind you my daughter tells me off if she hears me saying that I don't like someone on telly because I find their face annoying! Trouble is there are so many who come into that category..........Moi easily irritated, noooooooo!! wink

TerriBull Mon 04-Feb-19 16:52:14

I'm not overly keen on certain women in the public eye who overdo the surgery and end up looking like a Jessica Rabbit caricature and give those who are susceptible to trying to obtain an ideal (not in my book) an unrealistic view of what they think they ought to look like. Katie Price springs to mind I think if she hadn't mucked about with her face and body as much as she has, she'd look okay.

I think some of us will admit to finding voices on certain c'lebs irritating Stacey Dooley won me over on Strictly, but I find her voice very grating. Also Russell Brand, but that's more to do with his grammar, I remember on QT I heard him refer to "them politicians"

Nanny27 Mon 04-Feb-19 17:52:08

Surely the Duchess of Cambridge, whose maiden name was Catherine Middleton, should be addressed by her correct name.

MissAdventure Mon 04-Feb-19 18:16:19

She was Middleton when my mum was alive and we had the conversation.

Lily65 Mon 04-Feb-19 18:17:25

What will happen to us if we do not use the proper name?

Off to The Tower?

Lilyflower Mon 04-Feb-19 20:22:38

Middle class manners have all but disappeared. It used to be the rule that personal comments were vulgar but in these days of broadcasting the thoughts of ninnies to the nation via social media older people have forgotten ‘the code’ and younger persons never taught it.

Not only do those who criticise the looks of others risk appearing like Yahoos but their increasingly vicious comments slide into the realms of bullying and intimidation.

I have read the recent news stories of nasty comments made online about the Duchess of Sussex with great distaste. Being married to an ex editor and publisher I know that many comments would count as libel (were the royal family to sue - which they never do). Even were it not so, the commenters surely say more about themselves and their upbringing than about their victims, with their ascerbic and ill natured posts.

GabriellaG54 Mon 04-Feb-19 20:30:27

Just don't comment on colour.
Anyone who anonymously reports to GNHQ is obviously a KW.

Nannytops Mon 04-Feb-19 22:33:17

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