Get rid of the crazees

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Yes, Annibach. I attended a renound consultant due to hormonal issues I was suffering long before the menopause. I think I’ve actually made too much of this now as my doctor thinks I should be grateful & I dont suffer the dreadful pms I used to get every month. I do feel for women especially in the 50 plus age group who find certain aspects of life difficult at this time when their husbands are fit & healthy. Thankfully in a loving relationship most husbands understand.

Oh dear I don't know what (or who) to believe now.

Recently I searched for posts on something I was interested in buying, and my search found so many old posts from familiar Gransnetters who are no longer with us. Very sad to see all those names now gone (or possibly some changed name).

There seem a lot fewer regular posters now, I think many were driven away by the privacy issues. Gransnet seems to be gradually disappearing. I'm sure there are many lurkers, who regularly read but choose not to post.

When I read a new post with a rather risqué or weird feel, from an unknown poster, I sometimes search to see if they are actually new. If so I would just ignore the post. "They" want to upset us and get attention. Best thing is to totally ignore the post.

I realise this means some new posters with a genuine problem may be ignored. But it's worth the risk in my opinion.

It might help if there was a 'has been a member since' tag attached to the user name.
I have lurked for a couple of years, but just posted in the last day or so. Anyone trying to 'verify' me would struggle because I have not posted, but I HAVE been here for a long time.

There have in the past been many threads regarding female issues, some with pretty personal and intimate content. In particular one that I was very involved in probably a couple of years ago. I don't recall there ever having been any difficulties, only care and support.

What has changed?

What has changed?

A male poster made inappropriate comments, to a female poster, on one of the "intimate" threads Coolgran. It's not acceptable on this forum really is it?

Here’s an idea, if a male poster makes an inappropriate comment we could always just ignore it ( shock, horror!)

Why should inappropriate comments be ignored? If they make the recipient of the comment, and other users of the forum uncomfortable, shouldn't they be stopped from causing further upset? It wouldn't be acceptable in face to face conversations so why accept it here?

Doesn’t this take us back to the days when sexist comments or inappropriate actions were something up with which women and girls had to put?
Ignore?
Tolerate?
Smile indulgently as if they are the height of wit?

One man using g the phrases “sour puss” , “below the belt” and “a good seeing to on your back” are not things I am prepared to accept and I am amazed that anybody should think otherwise in these more enlightened times.

MawBroon I totally agree with you.

I have a good sense of humour, but in this day and age a male posting things that you have reiterated on a mainly female forum is unacceptable.

I think there maybe "something in the air" as Gransnett appears to be full of nastiness today.

I shall stick to "the kitchen" for a few days until things calm down.

It’s not a case of accepting it, it’s a way , in the absence of knowing who they are, of cutting off the attention to them. VERY wrong of you to suggest I might ‘smile indulgently’ I’m surprised at you Maw.

It should be women only.

Totally agree, but I don’t think there’s a way of ensuring that is so.

As I said on another thread earlier today; in all the time that I've been on GN, I have never seen any sexually inappropriate remarks posted by anyone until this weekend. The person who did so, who is a relatively new male poster, has soured what has, until now, been thankfully free of any form of sexual harassment. We've moved on from having to accept that "it's just the way men are".

Why should it be women only? There are very few male posters on this forum but all of them, bar one particular poster, manages to post witty, intelligent, informative posts; even if you don't necessarily agree with their point of view. One bad apple shouldn't mean that the whole barrel has to be thrown out.

I agree with Chewbacca - there is a difference between light hearted banter and inappropriate remarks.

If I think a post is fake, but isn't actually offensive, I ignore it. If I think it is fake but is offensive, I report it, having been told off for troll hunting That's probably the best thing to do, isn't it?

Because, rightly or wrongly, some female posters might be reluctant to ask for help or advice on a health related issue if they know it a mixed gender forum. It has nothing to do with the wit or intelligence of the male posters.

Yes Ourkid, that's the thing to do. And it was done.

But, Nanna58 why do you think that Mawbroon was suggesting that you do that? I read it as a list of some of the "possible" reactions, not ones that were recommended - far from it, the rest of the post shows that.

I think the male GNs would avoid a thread about female health related problems - unless they were medically qualified. In my experience mention "women's problems" and most men run for the hills

Not suggesting you personally, Nanna in fact TBH I didn’t notice who had posted, just the sentiment of the post!

Agree with you absolutely Nanna58 but in fairness to the majority of male posters, they have the decency to either avoid those personal or sensitive threads and move on or not make crude suggestive comments. Although that wasn't the case in this particular instance, I still don't feel it would be fair to exclude all men from the forum; they are not all of the same ilk. Sometimes it's good to hear an opinion from the male perspective.

Chew , I am totally not in the mood for warfare but I feel it should be for women. I really do.

I am also heartily sick of the endless discussion of matters of a sexual nature. We are all women of the world....been there , done that ,got the GC ...why do we need to talk about it?