Could I ask a favour?

Hear hear!

Sorry Polly I’m afraid you’ll just have to dream on - this is social media not RL

I agree ! In my view contributors should avoid falling into the trap of using the cloak of anonimity as a cover for bad manners - it lowers the standard of debate.

Welcome to Gransnet, (warts n' all) Polly48

Considering most of us have very little in common with each other, we come from different backgrounds, lifestyles and parts of the world I think we do pretty well.

Obviously some subjects (politics and the royals????) do spark "a bit of heat" and controversy but I would rather have that than a 100 "yes me too" posts. I have had some brilliant help and kind advice over the years from people who I have never met. What could be nicer than that?

You are right - and because the tone of voice is not evident a post can sound very harsh when it might have been intended to be funny. I try to read my posts for spelling errors at least!

I think sometimes it is a case it is not what you say but the way that your read it. Sometimes, as you type you are running the text through your mind in the light, flippant or humorous way you would say it. But once written down it is devoid of these tones and can read very differently.

I confess this has happened to me.

Me too M0nica

I should also check for typos

I’ve just intended to be harsh on another thread - no apologies from me.

but people just let your remarks go over the top of their heads maryeliza

because they are OTT

A bit edgy is good is it not but people do snap at each other a bit.
I haven't been on for all that long either but have noticed it's often the AIBU threads which start snipers off. Avoid those and you could be ok .

Anything to do with politics can encourage foul-mouthed rants from some Grammaretto, which is quite sad.

Jalima Wasn't your last post the kind of remark that you think shouldn't be posted?

No, ilovehcheese I do not.

Some posters take a delight in trying to shock others with their foul language, personal remarks etc, and, if others take umbrage or get upset, it just encourages them.
Letting it go over the top of your head is the best policy.

I was just advising Grammaretto which threads could be best to avoid as well as the AIBU threads.

Jalima I have given up on typos, between being a very poor proof reader and being partially numb in most of my fingers on my right hand, which causes lots of typos, because I cannot feel the pressure I am putting on the keys so either miss letters/spaces or repeat them.

I reckon that as long as my post is intelligible, and broken up by punctation, paragraphs and capitals, in more or less the right places then that is sufficient.

I think some people just enjoy having a safe, anonymous go at others. From all I've ever gathered, they're found on most forums. I often wonder whether they're types who wouldn't dare say boo to a goose in RL.

Well if we are going to have a thread about all the things people shouldn't do on Gn lets include telling other what they shouldn't do.

I find odd the notion that what we write about on here isn't real life. We are all real and what we're writing is real. What we read is real. I don't think social media has a separate existence from the people who engage in it.

I doubt one reading a post would help as the people who are rude are never rude by accident and the people who are unintentionally rude are not known for being rude and therefore less offence is taken.

Nice one Nonnie
Sometimes things go too far but I for one would not like a bland GN where it was all sweetness and light. That is not real life either.

Agree Polly 48, I expected to find a sisterhood here, but haven’t so far, seem to be 2 or 3 top names who have been here for ages and do not want newcomers with different point of view, still, I read in hope there may be a like minded soul one day.

I would never say anything here that I wouldn’t happily say if I met the person, but I tend to stick to giving legal advice!which is my profession.so little chance of causing offence but much of being boring ??‍♀️

Well, gn has male members too so a 'sisterhood' wouldn't be right. Most of us get on fine and I'm not sure which 'top' names you are talking about but join in anyway.

I would not expect to find any sisterhood on Gransnet, although we are always very supportive of members who are struggling with personal crises. We are such a randomly self-selected group, despite most of us being grandparents, I do not think we necessarily have much in common we are so varying in age and lives and experiences.