What would you give this Grandson at Christmas?

If he doesn't react to your texts, why don't you try ringing him?

It is very sad and bad-mannered not to respond (I've been there!) I'd try one more time - what about cinema vouchers? Also, enclose a self-addressed card to acknowledge receipt. If this doesn't work, just send a card in future.

Completely agree with PECS - a great solution.

I understand you are missing your grandson bluebird and hurt by the lack of contact. If there’s a clear understanding in the family that adults do not receive gifts then no, he shouldn’t receive anything. At 19 he is an adult. A card with an iou for a pizza would fit the bill in my view. I don’t think a Christmas gift would turn the clock back with him. He’s busy, has a girlfriend, time will fly past. Try not to be hurt, it’s a natural progression I think.

Perhaps try card with money and take on board PECS's idea of humorous IOU for pizza date with Grandma. He might respond positively.

If you don't hear much from him next year, just a card next Christmas.

We decided as a family to stop giving Christmas gifts to nephews and nieces once they reach 18. The same rule applies to grandchildren. Your grandson is an adult now, I would stop sending a gift.

A card with an IOU for a pizza date with Grandma! he can take it or leave it then!

A bottle of craft gin, some artisan beer or similar - but he doesn’t deserve it!

I have the right mobile number. I text to ask if he would like to meet up for me to buy him a meal, the answer is yes. As he is busy, has lots of friends and a girlfriend I then ask what evenings are best for him. 3 times now, he does not reply to tell me.

I think you are all right, he is now an adult as he is nearly 20. But a card on it's own isn't going to go down well. Maybe I'll send him over a few cans to soften the blow.

Just a card, I would say.

He is over 18, he is officially an adult. Adult rules apply.

My GC are little, so I can't speak with experience of adult GC, but I've had nieces and nephews who have been the same as your GS.

Could it be that he's changed his mobile number? Perhaps you could ring it, see if he answers. Or, ask your son if the number you've got for your GS is correct.

IF the number is right and he's simply not bothering to reply, I'd be inclined to send him a card (money inside, that's up to you) and then not bother so much after that.

He's has joined the ranks of adults. How time flies!