Wow..seems to be lots of new gransnetters!

New posters welcome .

Attack the post not the poster no longer applies which is a pity.

Staying polite is the secret - and not allowing yourself to be needled into retaliating in kind when someone fails to remember that.

Welcome to all new Gransnetters.
Just like to say that the one thing that drives me mad on here - apart from aggressive people who never give up banging on about their favourite subject and I know that that's never going to change - is threads where a poster asks, for example, "How do I get a stain out of my new blouse?" and after someone has given a reasonable answer the same answer is repeated time and time again by lots of other Gransnetters. I always want to shout "OK we get it!"
OOPS sorry I seem to have gone into a rant!
Once again "Welcome - I hope you enjoy this site as much as I do"

Trouble is there DanniRae that by the time I have managed to type a response to what looks like the last comment, and clicked 'post', about twenty other people have obviously been furiously typing away at the same time with a good method to get rid of bloodstains in the cellar. Yes, I too find aggressive people a bit alarming - after some recent posts I almost wanted to drop out but then thought I should display some backbone and stand up for myself. Politely, of course!

Farview hope things improve soon for you.No need to stay quiet, you were wondering why there were so many posters (new ones). I think many were lurking for a while and have now decided to join in, which is great.

I missed the 'blood stains in the cellar post' Rosina - what were people suggesting? (Just out of interest you understand!) Anyway I take your point BUT sometimes the replies are days apart. I guess that posters don't read all the replies before they answer?

I guess a lot of new members are brought in by the links posted on MN daily emails to the more interesting GN threads. Particularly those on the relationships thread, which might be relevant to DILs.

It’s great to see new names with different points of view. And nobody should be put off by established posters having a go (not on this thread, obviously). Some of the old guard do think they own the board, sadly, and put newbies off. I think we’re all just too polite to them, which gives them the idea that their rudeness is acceptable.

But tell me more about how to get rid of those bloodstains in the cellar....

I think that was Rosina’s little joke Danni
On GN it’s more lipstick on the collar.

I'm enjoying reading from new members or new posters but I too think we are having a spate of spoofs but they seem easily spotted so easy to ignore. They do seem to have a theme and are made purely to annoy or anger people. I'm waiting for the school uniform ones to start , it's a tad early yet!
Welcome to All . I'm still a bit of a new girl but am starting to join in a little more but tend to ride over any nastiness.
Just remember that what you type can be read differently to how you meant it and what you read can be typed in a different way to how some people including you, might read it . In other words if something annoys you try not to type immediately with anger , go away and think about it.
As for threads with many posts with the same instructions of how to get rid of blood from the cellar , to me that just means it must work so I'd be encouraged to try that way , they don't annoy me it just means some people have not read the whole post and are trying to help the OP.

What on earth do you have to do NanKate to get 'busted' from Gransnet??
It's very difficult to know Rosina
Perhaps it's something to do with those bloodstains in the cellar

I may be imagining it (I probably am) but I am finding it strange that new names are posting long and detailed OPs, which sound angry and use language and terms more often found on Mumsnet.

Some posts seemed like complete wind-ups - to get the "old dears" frothing at the mouth.

I accept my view might not be shared and like others, I welcome genuine new posters.

As others have said, I suspect some may be old posters who are back with new names.

You're not wrong, Day6. As I said, posters are coming over from MN, lured in by the links on their own daily emails - a MIL/DIL thread naturally attracts attention. Some genuinely want to add to the conversations going on here, and that's great. It's good to get their side of the story. Most don't stay for long.

But I have also seen the odd post on MN delighting in how the oldies react to being wound up, and some congratulating other MNers on stirring the pot over here. It takes all sorts!

Maybe we should pop over to MN and stir the pot with tales of unfaithful partners, cruel mothers, strange child-rearing habits, boss/employee conflicts etc etc?

I think some old posters are back

Good idea Elegran we could have a competition to find out who will win the coveted Wooden Spoon Award

I still consider myself relatively new and dipped my toe in a few times with some friendly and interesting response. I did however receive a slight rebuke about my name being similar to someone else, and as she had been in the site longer........well! Kind of knocked me down for a while, but then I thought how stupid. Let's get on with life and enjoy, such a trivial matter to get upset about. I shall gain strength from such intelligent, strong people on here who can offer such words of wisdom, hope and love to those who need it with so much understanding and care. Thank you GN.

I can assure you I am genuine,fairly new,have a fair amount to say,but hopefully respectful of others and eager to "join in and fit"....... with all those that have gone before me.

Having been on other forums which I believe I have "outgrown" and am now more than happy with my "new home" amongst people more of my own age.

Thank you all for having me.

Rosina you ask what you have to do to get busted. Well Jinglebells often said some comments that were the complete opposite to others’ comments. Can’t remember any in particular but she did make me laugh regularly. I think she was given warnings by HQ and then one day she was gone. I don’t know what happened but IMO GN has been a poorer place without her.

We had a long thread asking for her return but Zilch. She must have broken one of the GN golden rules.

Love her or hate her she was a character and sadly missed by some of us.

Sorry to be vague but this is all I remember.

For my part I think it's great to see so many more people posting
I'm wondering though about these 'spoof' threads, can't say that I have spotted any really obvious ones......

I've only been on GN for a few months and reading some comments I will have of unintentionally upset some folks.

1) because it's taken me so long to type and by the time I'm ready to post lots of others have made the same/similar point

2) I haven't fully read all the posts before I posted, I'm working on changing that :-)

3) I agree with/support what other people have said (is that so bad ?)

However, I am very interested in tips for getting the blood stains out of the cellar.

Oh and any tips for repairing the patio - you know for after that deed.

Personally I swear by salt allsortsofbags . It works a treat as long as the stain is still wet and sticky.

Once you have let it dry it will become a lot more difficult to remove.

Just use the famous GN "leg-o-lamb" method, there's far less mess.

allsortsofbags

because it's taken me so long to type and by the time I'm ready to post lots of others have made the same/similar point

I’m glad I’m not the only one! I sometimes feel it would be quicker to send my thoughts via carrier pigeon

allsortsofbags
Can't answer your questions - I don't have a cellar, bloody or otherwise and my choice of burial place if I had dispatched anyone in my imaginary cellar would never, ever be under my patio - I couldn't bear to spoil it!
P.S. Love your username wish I had been a little more inventive with mine

I'm on a family Whatsapp site and by the time I've posted a text my adult children have already posted several - they all have Olympic fingers and thumbs! It happens on here sometimes that by the time I've responded to a previous post there are several others in between. I do however try to read all the posts in a thread before I put fingers to keys.

Have any of you gone to reply to another GN member and as you come to write their name you have forgotten it and you have to scroll back to find it?

Also some of the names are not easy to remember especially if they are a combination of names with numbers in them which I should think relate to their year of birth or the number of children they have.

This is just a comment not a criticism of your choice of user name.