What would you do

The same rule applies to this situation as to other relationships. Remember why it ended in the first place and don’t go back. You will only get hurt again.

Get rid..she had two chances and betrayed you..no doubt as others have said she now has a guilty conscience ..well tuff!

It could be she wants to gain even more info of your life to betray you yet again...

If it makes you feel better rather than just ignoring her, then write her a letter telling her how you have felt and that you do not wish to re kindle anything that wasn't there in the first place. don't let her take you for a ride a 3rd time.. Its her ! loss not yours.

Stick with GN and genuine virtual friends (maybe look at any meets in your area) look towards making new friends
Hope you can find some closure

'She sent her husband round' She is a bully trying to guilt trip you into having her back in your life. Tell them both to f**k off............

Why would you even consider it, be kinder to yourself.

No. She needs to be out of your life. To be betrayed twice by the same person is once too many in my book. You can't trust her ever again. Don't even communicate brought a third party.No one needs friends like that.

I agree with your DH and with merlotgran. What she needs to do involves sex and travel!

She doesn't know how to be a friend. She would probably be on best behaviour for a while but you would just be waiting for her to revert to form.
It is a shame because people leave a space even if they have let you down but you have a caring husband who understands the situation. I let a bully back into my life (enablers are just as bad if not worse) and I regretted it. Unless you have good reason to believe that she has changed, you need to protect yourself.

Eleanor Roosevelt said “If someone betrays you once, it’s their fault; if they betray you twice, it’s your fault.” Enough said!

Totally agree with everybody here - 2 chances is one to many, she needs you but you don’t need her.

She is no friend at all she is a nasty piece of work.
I think the reason she is trying to get back into your life is no one else wants her in theirs .
She is false do not risk it she is playing you .
I hope you find a true friend but please don’t bother with her I can see only heartache and more betrayal

She's betrayed you once, you gave her a second chance. She betrayed you again. Why are you even considering this??? Your husband is right!!!

If it were me, I'd send a text back saying I never want to hear from her again, and then block her number.

She must have a need for you now - perhaps something bad has happened in her life. That's her problem. She doesn't deserve you.

Ignore her , she thrives on putting you down and undermining you to cover her own insecurities . Even if she is ill ,you don't need it in your life , she wasn't there for you. You are missing what you wanted it to be , and really never was x.

She feels bad and by getting your forgiveness she can absolve herself.
You deserve better.

I have a friend who got into a similar situation so I know something of what went on, you can't let her back in just try to remember how you felt when you found out specially the second time, you mustn't let yourself go through anything like that again, her turn to feel the pain and she knows why.

*ruthiek" I suspect she gets a power kick from being confided in (being the "special one") and another one from telling others ("I'm the one in the know!) Please don't give her that pleasure again, you deserve better!

Your better off without her. She's only going to cause you heartache and no true friend would have done that to you. I would rather be on my own than have her in my life. You were ill and came through that without her don't give her another chance . Wish you well.

I’d guess she has some kind of drama in her life (diagnosis of illness or family crisis) and wants to offload her issues on someone else - that being you. People like that rarely care about the other person so I’m with your husband on this, ignore / block and enjoy life without her.

I totally agree with you jessycake.

I think what she misses is her sport of making your life miserable. Summon up all your courage and either text or phone her to say you are happy with your life without her and you don't want any further contact then forget her and totally ignore any further contact from her.

If she was analysed it would probably show that deep down she really envies you, as why else would she try to bring you down... twice. However, that is her problem not yours. You are clearly a very sensitive soul which clearly she knows, that’s why she is now trying to tug on your heart strings.
No sort of friendship could blossom now when you would have to think about everything that you said to her, in case she used it against you, again. I agree with all the others, you just do not need that negativity and nastiness in your life ?

Good Grief - don't let this woman within a mile of you! Go make new friends and leave this appalling woman to rot - she doesn't deserve a second thought let alone a third chance! Park her in a box marked PANDORA and never open it again - who needs "friends" like her - Good luck with the rest of your life - find people with similar interests and don't look back

Ruthiek, so much much good advice already posted here. Actions always speak louder than words. Your husband is right and obviously caring and insightful. There are some people you just need to let go. You have already survived a heart attack and cancer, you do not need this toxic person in your life. It's fine to recall the good times you had (or thought you had!) with this person but it's over.

Maybe some hard lessons learnt and an opportunity to reflect on what there was, and perhaps still is, about this person that still appeals to you despite all the betrayals. ?

Go with your DH - on this occasion !!

ruthiek there's some very sound advice on here. I wouldn't disagree with any of it. You deserve better

Have had the same done to me in the past
So now I’m at a age where Iv learnt many a lesson
And one is you don’t need bad friends in your life
They drag you down and make you ill all for them to enjoy the outcome
Do no would be my answer