How do you define someone as being posh?

Actually I don’t really care which words are used.
I appreciate correct grammar, good manners and kindness. The rest is unimportant.

Hilmix In Italy, bread is broken and placed on the cloth as the normal procedure - definitely not on plates. Butter is never offered.

This is getting hilarious. What a great thread.

I was told that one must break one's roll with one's fingers and never ever cut it with one's knife.

My posh friends have no qualms in talking about massive farts and such like. I find it really funny, but that's because I'm common

Granny 23 You sound posher than your sister to me, she sounds very Nouveau riche. Money cannot make a person posh it is upbringing and way of life. I came out U in the quiz but in reality am a mixture as I was bought up with feet and arms in all camps. Upper, Middle, Working, and Religious nuts!!

I was brought up to always say thank you for having me when I had been to someone's house and was leaving. I was also taught to never arrive empty-handed. And to write a thank you letter when I had been to stay with someone.

Also that the word 'toilet' was dreadfully common. We always said 'loo'. I have been called 'posh' a few times. And once that I had lovely manners!

I still say "thank you for having me", now you've mentioned it. Does it sound ridiculous nowadays? Should I stop? I feel I must sound a bit silly.

I still say 'thank you for having me' too. Now I'm wondering if it sounds silly at my age.

It does sound a bit childish, doesn't it? I expect people have been sniggering behind our backs all these years!

never say thank you for having me ,usually say "its been great to spend time with you "

I've just thought that 'thank you for having me' sounds common. A posh person would know that its not necessary. Common and childish!

I remember a party we had when I was about 12. I was handing round sherry to people. Dry, obviously.

I took the tray back to the kitchen (ancient, wooden - the tray not the kitchen) where the dogs had been tempted away from the Rayburn by the plates gathering on the table. The dogs (Labradors) were licking the plates clean, as was Major Struthers. I was horrified and ran to tell my mum that Major Struthers was licking the pudding plate - the plate on which the pudding had been served, not just his own pudding plate.

My mother just laughed and said that when you are 80 you can do whatever you like. I felt a bit common then and I bet Major Struthers didn't say 'thank you for having me'. I'm looking forward to when I'm old enough to lick the pudding plates. Not quite there yet, but nice to look forward to.

What a giggle licking the plates. In years gone by ‘ladies’ would pour their tea into their saucer and drink it from there.

What about playing croquet on the lawn ? ?

I find it odd that some of us who did the quiz and were U, started to apologise as if there is something wrong about being posh. We are what we are IMO.

Do you fancy adding a few names to posh people, here are my suggestions?

Penelope Keith
The actor Cumberbatch, what is his first name please ?
Eddy Redmayne

Over to you.

Benedict. That's posh in itself!
Steven Fry
Joanna Lumley (well she sounds posh)

Struggling a bit now...

Re drinking from the saucer, my mum used to do that when her tea had spilled over onto the saucer on the long journey from the kitchen quarters along corridors past the morning room / library / sitting room / drawing room / ballroom (I'm joking) to the day room.

The one 'fat lady' that is still around. I don't know her name.

Jennifer Shrager from the cookery and Marigold travel programs.
Mary Berry

Oh I know who you mean, Clarissa something? Dickson Wright. I just looked it up. Yes, she is posh.

Also, people who do a sort of reverse apology for their views saying 'sorry, I know I'm a snob', are terribly common.

Sitting room for us too!

Hmmm.. for anyone who watches gogglebox (though its probably common to watch it!) I would nominate 2 couples for 'poshness'. Steph and Dom, and Giles and Mary. They're quite different types, though.

My family still says "Thank you for having us" and I find it hard not to take a something as a little gift when I go to someone's home.

I'm definitely not posh because not only do we eat off laptrays, I even lick the plate if we have my favourite meal - and DH has sworn under pain of death to never mention it! And while I'm confessing, I use a tea towel as a napkin because I am terrible at missing my mouth (I blame it on my big boobs!)

For some strange reason it has been assumed more than once that I must be posh as my home town is Ascot .

WilmaKnickersfit you are posh. Read earlier post re licking plates.

Using a teatowel as a napkin also strikes me as a sensible yet mild eccentricity that could well be construed as posh. I hope you tuck it in to your neckline.

Big boobs also posh - see above re Clarissa Dickson Wright. Must be natural though.

MissAdventure
Clarissa died in 2014