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Were you a clumsy or a dainty little girl?

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vampirequeen Sun 07-Jan-18 10:22:04

I think I was one of the clumsiest children in all history. If there was something to trip over, fall in, knock into then I did it. I was always covered in bruises and scuffs.

Three incidents come to mind. My poor granddad had been in a gas attack during WWI. This left him with a weak chest and horrific, painful leg ulcers. I tried to be careful around him but somehow the more I tried the worse it became. I constantly bumped into and fell over his legs. The poor man must have live in dread when I visited.

My Great Auntie Lillian also lived at my grandma's. She was always short with me and one day I told Grandma that I thought she didn't like me. Grandma said that she was just a miserable old woman and that I should be nice to her so why didn't I take up her morning cup of tea which she always had in bed. This seemed like a good idea so very carefully I carried the cup of tea upstairs feeling very proud that I didn't spill a drop into the saucer. I got to her room. Grandma said I'd made and carried the tea. Aunty Lillian smiled but looked a bit nervous. As I carefully carried it across the room I tripped on the bedside rug and the boiling hot tea landed in Auntie Lillian's lap. [embarrassed]

Grandma has an old fashioned square dining table that she covered with a heavy green cloth that hung down over the edges. It made a wonderful den and I often played under it. One meal time I was playing. Grandad and Aunty Lillian sat down to eat and then realised I was there. Grandad told me to come out but as I moved to crawl out I raised myself too high and hit the table from underneath. Grandad and Aunty Lillian ended up with their dinners in their laps.

No wonder Grandad and Aunty Lillian seemed to be always shouting at me. I think that's why Grandma liked me because it meant she could shout at them. Grandma didn't like Grandad or Aunty Lillian grin

Jalima1108 Sun 07-Jan-18 20:12:07

I was never smacked or really told off, DM would just sigh and get out the Dettol.

Jalima1108 Sun 07-Jan-18 20:12:50

Yes, from cutting my head open to breaking ankles, been there, done that
I do try to be careful.

MamaCaz Sun 07-Jan-18 20:20:51

I think I was accident prone rather than clumsy, and thinking back, all the accidents I remember took place out of doors and were just part of the rough and tumble of a normal, active childhood. Actually, it's a miracle we survived, thinking of some of the things we got up to!

paddyann Sun 07-Jan-18 20:27:09

I was bookish from an early age ,would only go out to play if forced and would try to sneak a book out with me ,find a wall to lean against and read until I got called in for dinner .I never broke a bone until my 50's when I tripped over someones feet in my own living room and broke my wrist .

GrandmaMoira Sun 07-Jan-18 20:32:14

I had forgotten the term fairy elephant - my mother used to call me that. She even took me to the GP about my clumsiness, which made me worse. I was quiet, girly, bookish. I was definitely not tomboyish or sporty so never had bruises/injuries from rough play but think I was probably nervous and shy. I can't remember what I did that was clumsy, apart from lack of co-ordination in sport, just know that I was always called clumsy.

Menopaws Sun 07-Jan-18 20:42:38

I was a tomboy so always up trees, on the roof etc but not necessarily accident prone. My daughter runs up and down stairs like an elephant however

etheltbags1 Sun 07-Jan-18 21:23:00

Just a few years ago my ex boss called me a fat fairy. I've been clumsy all my life.

watermeadow Mon 08-Jan-18 13:08:57

No no, you’re not clumsy, you have dyspraxia! If you were labelled stupid because reading was difficult then probably dyslexic. If socially awkward you could have Asperger’s.
Nowadays every other child has a condition to explain their difficulties and that’s good, because help is available.
Many parents hesitate to get their children statemented but it opens doors to help, support and benefits.

watermeadow Mon 08-Jan-18 13:11:12

PS. I was hopeless at games and couldn’t throw or catch but was 13 before someone said that was because I only have sight in one eye.

Jalima1108 Mon 08-Jan-18 13:14:07

I was bookish from an early age ,would only go out to play if forced
Yes, me too, but I was forced out 'into the fresh air' so perhaps I wouldn't have grazed my knees so often if I'd been left indoors with my book!
Although it was my ambition to climb the lamp -post up the road, like the boys. Never managed that though.

gillybob Mon 08-Jan-18 13:26:35

My mum always dressed me up like a silly, baby fairy (even when my friends were wearing dungarees). She believed that little girls should be seen and not heard and should be clean, dainty and pretty at all times. How wrong could anyone be? I was plain and sullen to the point of ugly and no manner of frilly frock was going to change that. I suppose it's why I feel really self conscious when I wear a dress these days.

Deedaa Mon 08-Jan-18 14:54:33

I was a typical clumsy, scruffy little boy with scabby knees - except that I was a girl. Quite a shock when the hormones kicked in at 12!

JackyB Mon 08-Jan-18 15:02:47

I wasn't clumsy, as such, but very ungainly. My sister did ballet and when I recently asked my DM why I didn't get sent to ballet, she said "You didn't want to". Since when was that a criterion for parents not to get rid of their kids for an hour or so a week? I wish they had made me go.

I have bad posture and a frightful gait, but I was amazed when I first saw a video of myself at how feminine my hands and hand movements looked.

Now, if you want clumsy, let me offer my DS1 - he is always dropping things and losing things.