Dealing with my Husband's death

Sincerely sorry for your loss, grannyJillyT.

So sorry for your loss. My heartfelt condolences x

So sorry for your loss

Dear Grannyjilly my sincerest sympathy. I can only say that in the six weeks since my darling paw (DH) slipped away, I have felt depths of emotion I did not know I had. Grief, loneliness, hurt, anger at the unfairness of it all, guilt (did I say I love you enough?) resentment of other healthy couples, the list goes on.
People ask how you are and there is no adequate answer.
You are understandably still in shock and your emotions will be very raw. Wiser heads than I have helped to guide me but even after 6 weeks it is early days for me, so for you after just 4 days the pain is hard to imagine.
Do accept any and all offers of help, especially with the “business”side of registering the death, arranging the funeral etc. And take your time wherever possible, apart from getting the death certificate (and get at least 5, you will need to send them all over the place) there is no urgency with the other things. Involve your family if they are near or a good friend. I found everybody very helpful and kind and it helped me to arrange a funeral which involved all the family and reflected Paw’s life and faith. That gave me something to focus on.
But yes, the feeling alone and stunned, the sleepless nights, the fear of going out, the tears which wash over you, possibly even panic attacks.
I do feel for you.
Feel free to PM me if you wish but there are quite a few of us who have recently suffered bereavements on GN and I think everybody is different and every reaction is the right one for them

Maw I often think of you. What a kind, helpful and thoughtful post you have written to grannygilly.

Apologies for misspelling, grannyjillyT

I can only imagine how you are feeling right now grannyjilly. The shock is still raw, so just do what feels right for you. There will be things to do that will help the hours pass at this difficult time. Is there a family member that could stay with you for a few days? Just having another person there might help. There's no need to talk if you don't want to. One day at a time.

I can’t imagine how devestated you feel. I do hope you find some comfort. I am sorry.

I have only just caught up with GN and just wanted to offer my condolences on your sad loss.

Talk to us if it helps. You must be very confused.

I'm so sorry. There's nothing really helpful I can say, but everyone who reads your post will be with you and supporting you.. you will find strength.

My deepest condolences to you, grannyJillyT

Thinking of you. Take one day at a time.x

Sincerest condolences, and I only wish I knew what to say to ease your pain, but there are no magic words to end your suffering. This is the thing we all dread, losing our life partner, and every couple knows that some day, one will be left to cope with bereavement.
Take one day at a time, be kind to yourself, accept all offers of support from friends and family. They say time heals all wounds and it will get easier, though it's hard to believe that now. Talk to other widows as they will understand what you are going through, and they will assure you that there is light at the end of the tunnel, but it will take time. God bless you.

So very sorry for your loss, deepest condolences.

JillyT, such a shock for you. My condolences

granjilly sending condolences. I am another who is recently bereaved and echo others words. Take up offers of help and be kind to yourself.

GrannyJilly I can’t imagine your pain. Please accept my condolences and continue to come on here.?

GrannyJillyT, so sorry to read about your heartbreaking loss. You are right to come here to talk about it and hope you can draw some comfort from that, especially from those who have been through similar experiences. Just come here to post whenever you feel the need, there are some good people on GN who empathise with you at this difficult time. Look after yourself

Am so very sorry to read of your loss,sending hugs and love to you,hope that you do PM Mawwhen you need to share your deepest thoughts and feelings. God bless x

I'm very sorry for your loss.

So sorry for your loss, GrannyJillyT You must be quite devastated. Do keep posting as there are many on here who can offer support and friendship.

thinking of you and please keep posting, it doesn't matter what it;s about, just let it flow....

So sorry for your loss.

So sorry for your loss.What a shock for you grannyjilly.Deepest condolences

GrannyJillyT, I just want to echo what the others have said, and also to ask you that you keep posting on here. However small your comment may be, it’s still communicating and can surely help you a bit. ?