am i getting old!!!

Another one here, I hate getting changed to go out if I am changing clothes pjs win hands down, my book calls me, my OH often has late shifts at work, if I have the car for the day I have to pick him up using un lit country roads and the dazzle of oncoming headlights are awful, if I need to party 10am is the best time to catch me,prefer my fun in the day....afternoon assignations allowed

Grandma2213 we too never went out much on a night - we were married at 17 with a baby and no money while all our friends were clubbing - I'm not sure if it was the fact we'd never done it but we never really thought about it at the time. We didn't even have a tv to start with - the one we were given blew up. I think back to my parents in their 40's/50's who had a wonderful social life - out dancing, partying and throwing dinner parties but when they got to their mid 60's that all stopped for them too.

Downsized take a cab - it's one less thing to worry about. I can't drive at night now so would do the same. I'm sure it will be hard going on your own but hopefully there will be others there you know which might help a bit.

Since becoming a widow two and a half years ago, I don't care for going out in the evenings either.

I am invited to a very close friend's next week for drinks to celebrate her DH's birthday. I'm already fretting about it but think I will take a cab so I won't have to worry about parking/driving in the dark/having a glass or two. However, the hardest part is going alone. I miss DH so much.

Grandma 2213. I would like the village events too. I love to go out . DP tells people that I would go to the opening of an envelope! He used to like a night out but he is very boring now and just wants to watch TV with a bottle of wine ! I just go without him now .

Fennel I wish I lived in your village! That would suit me down to the ground especially if no driving is involved!

Reading these posts makes me realise that (apart from College/Uni) I was never able to go out much due to lack of cash or being a single parent with no support (no free child care). Maybe that is why I desperately want to get out of the house now. Added to that I do a lot of DGC childcare, including several overnights a week and school runs, clubs, sports etc. (I am free child care!)

I missed the exciting early years that some of you seem to have had. That could explain my flightiness!

I have just driven DGS to the village as he has a weekend job at our local pub. The lights from the rush hour traffic coming the other way on the return journey was not pleasant, neither was trying to turn right into our farm entrance with nobody prepared to give way.

I'm glad I only have to do it once a fortnight when his mum is working late.

Fingers crossed he will pass his driving test soon.

Where we live there are often village do's in the evenings - usually some music, dancing and a catered meal.
I'd love to go to them, but they don't get going until about 9-10pm and go on until the early hours of the next day. Eating about midnight.
I don't know how they do it.

When I was young I used to feel sorry for old people who just stayed in - even at weekends . How boring their lives must be, I would think, how sad that they've got nowhere to go, nothing to do in the evenings. I never for one moment thought I'd ever reach a time when it was actually my choice to stay in, dressed in my slobs, feet up, reading, sewing, watching TV. But I can't think of any better way to spend the evening nowadays. The last time I went out for the evening was to a craft class in June, run by a local fabric shop. And I was home by 10.00 - before most youngsters' evenings have even begun

I'm like JackyB but being glad I went seems to be a less frequent experience these days - I'm glad it's not just me!

Before going out somewhere, I usually think to myself "I wish I hadn't arranged that meal out/bought those tickets" but when I get there I'm usually glad I went.

yes of course u r getting old do u know anyone that isn't....

I’m still out a couple of evenings for meetings/rehearsals and have a run of weekend activities until end November, Xmas Fayre etc. This culminates in 7 straight nights out for panto then a day to clear up. Day’s rest then off to Edinburgh for Xmas meetup! (Forgive me if my head is in the soup ladies!) I also have to factor in a visit south to see FIL and one north to see DS and family otherwise I won’t see littlies until Xmas. January is a lost month for me as I recover from my excesses and hunker down with box sets and Xmas chocs. Am I mad? Very likely, but wouldn’t have it any other way

I do that too Willow. I sometimes agree to go somewhere in an evening and, at the time that I agree to it, I really do want to go. But on the actual day, I just dread it and rack my brains trying to get out of it.

If we go out at night I can't wait to get home.

I've got like this in recent years - I occasionally book things and then when it comes to it I wish I wasn't going especially at night. Far rather sit in here and play solitaire on my iPad in front of the tv!

I've found its easier to go out in rhe evening if we eat out before. I think I'm kidding myself really.

We prefer to have lunch out instead of dinner. We go to an Antiquarian meeting once a month which is held on an evening but that is it for activities after dark.

I would much rather be at home but am quite happy for people to come here. Like Jalima I enjoy cooking something nice and staying at home.

I'm more than happy with my own company and Dog as husband often out in the evening as he has another job but I have a friend like you grandma2213 who hates her day off even and has to have a plan for every evening otherwise she goes mad. I worry if she was unable to get out what she would do then.
I used to be out all the time when young but now I'm more than happy at home in the evening

I think I must be a bit strange. I grab any chance I can of going out, though I don't actually have much of a social life or ever did have come to think of it.

I have one DS who seems to understand this need and I have been on holiday with him and his family a couple of times, where I join in everything and dance till the early hours. Sometimes he invites me for tea and to stay the night and I love it. I never want to go home.

When I am stuck in the house I actually feel physically ill!! I have to go for walks, the gym, swimming, basically anything to get away from home, even an unnecessary trip to Tesco so I can have a chat to the checkout staff!

Maybe I need counselling. I can go in the evenings if they're busy in the day!

I don't much like going out in the evening either. I need 48 hrs notice to psych myself up to it. Hate to have it sprung on me.

Yes, probably a feature of getting older.....but don’t fight it, enjoy it!
The dark colder evenings are just made for staying in, and remember that going out in the evenings had to be done in the past, because we were at work during the day.
The great thing about retirement is that we can do things in the mornings and afternoons now.
There are a few things I do ( evening) WI, another club,or meeting friends, but I wouldn’t want it to be more than once a week, once November is here.

I've never been a fan of going out. Much rather stay in, where it's warm and I can do my own thing, and look like the back end of a bus whilst doing it.

When I was in my teens and twenties a Saturday night in was considered to be a complete failure and a disaster! No date? [ horror!
Now I enjoy cooking something different, having a glass or two of and settling down for the evening.

Oh dear, I never thought I'd say that.

Every October/November I would start to dread the office Christmas party and I would start to mentally formulate my excuses for not attending. But a couple of years ago, I decided not to use the usual "clash of dates with another appointment " or suddenly "stricken with an upset stomach". Now I just say "thank you for inviting me, but no thank you". The thought of traipsing off out, in the dark, when I could be at home in comfort is a no brainer for me. Don't mind the occasional trip to the theatre, but that's pretty rare too these days.