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am i getting old!!!

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cornergran Thu 09-Nov-17 20:09:25

I don’t think it’s necessarily about getting older perhaps just being honest about what we do and don’t like to do. So go out at night if you feel like it or stay in if you prefer. Just don’t worry about it, neither is wrong.

Day6 Thu 09-Nov-17 19:39:21

I like getting together with my friends and we still go out once a month for a meal. We have talked about having lunch together now we are all retired. I am in favour!

I have two invitations already for evening gatherings in December but must admit I am not looking forward to them, mainly because of late, I hate driving at night. It's all semi-rural around here. So many roads are unlit so oncoming lights, the glaring LED ones, tend to dazzle so much and blind me in the darkness.

Yes, I have become a stay at home person in the evenings although I find myself driving back home late some evenings after a baby-sitting stint.

And another thing - pub prices for soft drinks! If I am driving I cannot drink, so begrudge the cost of an evening out when I can't even make merry! It seems slightly pointless given I won't enjoy the drive home either.

Galen Thu 09-Nov-17 19:38:07

I don’t go out at all unless I have to. The exception being going on cruises.
I only go out to sit on tribunals or dental appointments otherwise.
I don’t entertain either or see anyone except my cleaner and gardner and my next door neighbor who pops in on Sunday evening for a drink.
When I retire next year I’ll be practically housebound.
Sounds miserable,but I’m ok!
Did enjoy archery but this year arthritis and fatigue have got in the way. Perhaps next year.

Niobe Thu 09-Nov-17 19:37:55

I don't mind being out late on long summer evenings but in the winter I hate to be out after about 6pm.

Jalima1108 Thu 09-Nov-17 19:34:44

DH has just gone out - he has evening meetings a few times a month but I am quite happy to stay in, especially in the winter.

Christinefrance Thu 09-Nov-17 19:26:57

I'm with you coolgran like to socialise over a long lunch with friends then a cosy evening at home - bliss.

Iam64 Thu 09-Nov-17 19:26:01

Trying to avoid going out in the evening has been a feature of my life for about 18 years. I used to love dancing till the early hours but for years now, I've found that a late night means I have less energy to enjoy the following day. I love seeing friends but as others have said, I enjoy long, late lunches and increasingly, love breakfast out get to gethers. Afternoon tea is a joy but having friends round to eat at 8 or going to friends to eat at 8 no longer appeals to me. I make exceptions over the festive period but make sure I have a quiet day (or two) after a jolly evening get together.
yep - I'm getting old and that's so much better than the alternative. I'm embracing this phase of life and relishing Leonard Cohen's line "I ache in the places I used to play". Bless that poet and troubadour.

M0nica Thu 09-Nov-17 19:23:07

DH's operatic group now do their Saturday 'evening' performance on Saturday afternoons as the audience (and some performers!) are getting older and like to be home before dark. Many more tickets have been sold so there are a lot of older active people out there who like to be home for supper.

Coolgran65 Thu 09-Nov-17 18:58:06

I'm the same.

We are a group of about 8 female friends who have known each other for 40 years. How things have changed.
It used to be that we'd meet up and go to a Christmas function, lots of music and dancing. DHs would pick us up in the early hours. Good fun and a few drinks,

Roll the clock forwards.
We are all varied, a few widows, a couple of us remarried, One paralysed in a nursing home. We prefer to now have a nice lunch, which can stretch on quite a bit, but none of us want to be out late late.
Well, there's one who is still a party animal, but for the rest of us It's nice to get home in time for a sit down, and settle down to perhaps a 9 o'clock drama.
How things change.

Maggiemaybe Thu 09-Nov-17 18:51:09

I still like a night out - we go to a weekly pub quiz, and enjoy meals out and any parties that we get asked to. But I must admit I hate the dark, cold nights now and like to snuggle up at home. The last few times we've been to the theatre we've chosen a matinee, and we were at an afternoon showing at the pictures just today. Definitely getting old. grin

Alima Thu 09-Nov-17 18:50:46

Well, we are all getting older which is far better than the alternative. I haven’t enjoyed going out at night for years. Early evening isn’t so bad. Would far rather go out for lunch than dinner, go out for the day than go to an evening “do”. What doesn’t help is that however late I go to bed I always wake up at a ridiculously early time. It has been like this for as long as I can remember so I must be exceedingly old!

Marydoll Thu 09-Nov-17 18:44:59

I'm the same. An ex colleague is having a leaving do tomorrow evening and I have made an excuse not to go, despite the fact my friends are going. I don't know what is wrong, as I used to love a night out.
I'd rather be cosy at home. Perhaps I am getting old!

Fennel Thu 09-Nov-17 18:27:08

We used to go out often in the evening - usually to Bridge Clubs, which we both enjoyed (he's a good player, I liked the socialising.)
But now neither of us like driving in the dark, (especially after the liquid supper provided at french bridge clubs wink)

Jane10 Thu 09-Nov-17 18:22:33

I really hate being out in the evening. I enjoy my time at home with TV, books, GN and various other forums. I struggle to stay awake in the evening if we're on holiday which is a shame for DH. I try to make an effort at those times though. I'm dreading a dinner and dance we have to go to. blush

Eloethan Thu 09-Nov-17 18:19:22

I go out in the evening to choir twice a week and now and again go out for a meal and a drink with a friend in the evening.

I would probably go out more if my husband was keen on doing so, although when winter really sets in it's a bit more of an effort to leave a warm house.

travelsafar Thu 09-Nov-17 17:58:39

I have found recently that i dont enjoy going out in the evening very much now.If i have been out during the morning or afternoon i enjoy my evenigs at home with the tv remote, gransnet and facebook. I am off out to play in a bowls match this evening and really am not looking forward to it. I am fine playing during the afternoon but i really value my evenings at home. Is this a sign of getting old?? It's not just because the dark evenings are here i started to feel this way during the summer. Anyone else feel this way.