Feeling ashamed

Remember it’s not healthy to bottle up our angst ! It’s just that some times it comes out louder than others !

I don’t blame you for losing your cool over this and I wouldn’t give it a second thought. We had a similar incident recently where we had engaged someone to service our gas fire. We agreed a time and date and then wasted the best part of a day waiting for him; and when DH finally got hold of him on the phone he said it was not worth his while coming all the way out to us just for a service. Good of him not to let us know that earlier. We were livid. These people exist to make other people’s lives difficult.

Has made me feel a lot better reading about standing up for yourself. Not a trade person but a situation has arisen where I have been involved for many years as a voluntary helper. Last night a man who has taken over and seems to have a good opinion of himself was extremely rude to me. Normally I would not have said anything but this time I stood up for myself and told him that common courtesy was needed and he went off in a huff. I did feel bad for a while but in the light of day I know I have a lot more of experience than him, and I think I actually quite surprised him. I do think we need to stand up for ourselves sometimes.

Don’t fret about it, OW70. I doubt he has given it a second thought if he is the sort that can be late several times with impunity. You apologised for shouting, you have now ‘confessed’ to all us Gners, so find some peace . After all you were the one who was being let down.

I wouldnt waste anytime feeling guilty Oldwoman70. Your tradesman wasnt behaving well and you told him. Thats fair. OK maybe it was a shame that you shouted, but at least it was an honest response. I have no doubt he has experienced worse. We need to stand up to people when we are older otherwise we risk being walked over. My neighbour who is 90 gets treated really quite badly by some tradespeople who seem to see her as easy game, to the extent that I now offer to go round when anyone is giving her a quote so I can make sure they know I am keeping an eye out.

Good words Grampie but not easy to follow if you don’t know anyone personally and have to go by recommendations
I was fully recommended a tradesman he did a good job but whilst left in charge when I was at work I had a burglary I will never know if he was genuine and it was a coincidence or not

When selecting a tradesperson their character is as important as price.

...seek value instead of false promises.

Anger is a healthy emotion it is the urge to reach out into the world and make things right.............you go girl.

My workman was paid more than a week ago a little in advance and he promised to do the job immediately. He hasn’t turned up nor has he returned my husbands 4 calls to him. I too feel like shouting as I’m so very disappointed. What’s going on when these folks don’t even communicate. I’m getting madder and madder - hold me down.

give yourself a pat on the back OP. Now move on sounds like you made lots of allowances. Hope you get someone who can do a decent job soon. How I wish we could have a proper national database of who to avoid andwho is really professional and capable. Too many out there treating oeople like fools.

Don't fret about it,*Oldwoman70*, you had reached the end of your tether and it sounds as if he warranted a telling off. You've apologised and can do no more, nor should you. Take care. ?

It is so frustrating when treadespeople let you down. We are currently waiting for a man to come and put a new glass front in our new stove, as the last one fell out! He said he would come out with a new one but hasn't - this is the third time he has let us down, never mind the problem with the stove! I feel like shouting at him believe me!!!

I wouldn't worry about it too much, workmen who let you down like that make life very difficult. So you 'blew your top ' and then apologised for it. Bet he didn't apologise for his shoddy treatment of you though. Forget it and him! Have a lovely day!

Yes, let it go. How does it help to keep fretting about it? All anyone can do is apoogise for the way they handled something and then move forward. My guess is you will deal with similar issues differently in the future, so something positive as well.

I once gave a solicitor a thorough dressing down in front of his colleague and afterwards I had a good think about how I might have dealt with the situation differently and came to the conclusion that I would do the same again. There is nothing wrong with showing anger, but I guess your concern is that you shouted at the man. You've apologised for that, which is all you can do, so let it go.

No need to stress over that oldwoman we all get driven to distraction at times, we are human. Sounds like he had it coming anyway.

He must have seriously hacked you off. He has probably behaved like that to others so is used to being shouted at. At least you didn't swear at him too!

We forgive you Oldwoman70 there is only so much we can put with before we explode,maybe your rant at this tradesman will keep him on track for his future customers.