I am so proud to be able to say that I am not, and never have been, on Facebook. I feel it is washing one’s dirty linen in public and is another thing which detracts from human to human communication. Okay, it’s useful for organisations like the police, as they can track down people who are claiming disability benefits for, let’s say, a bad back and, again as an example, jumping into swimming pools on foreign holidays that they can afford and we can’t. I also think it is to blame for the modern times ‘keeping up with the Joneses’, than many young people seem to be playing up to.
Enough said.
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Is Facebook missing me?
(40 Posts)This links back to a fairly recent thread when we shared what was 'in' and 'out' for us in recent times. I noticed that many people said Facebook' was 'out' for them and this has been the case for me for a little while now.
Over the past 6 months, I have posted less and less - very rarely initiated posts anyway, rather I just commented on others, and not at all for several weeks now - I just got bored with it. The only reason I now go on it is if someone has sent me a message as I have not signed up to receiving these on my phone. But I am receiving daily 'prompt' FB messages along the lines of ' We are missing you ...' and 'A lot has happened ..'
I am loathe to completely close my account because there are some people that I do keep in contact with on FB, albeit very sporadically, but my interest has definitely waned.
I do have a couple of close friends / family members who seem bemused and somehow ' hurt' that I have elected not to use FB any more - as if it is a personal slight, which is ridiculous to my mind, but there is a definite sense of FB 'reality' as opposed to actual reality and I just can't be doing with it any longer. Anyone else feel the same?
I've never used Facebook and never will. Seems to me that a lot of nastiness can stem from it. If used properly, I'm sure it has its use, but I've managed without it so far.
I love FB, it keeps me in touch with family and friends everywhere, especially in the UK. I feel updated with things when I visit the UK.
Cant stand some citations people write, someone I know starts every morning with "hello sunbeams everywhere" I think a lot of people may not feel like sunbeams.
Fully agree with comment about Fb pages replacing websites. Amounts to excluding people, which can't be the intention. Don't understand why they do it.
I have FB to keep in touch with friends & family. DD & I use messenger frequently as phoning her is difficult DGS1 is 7 & DGS2 is almost 5 months. We do phone sometimes & I see them frequently.
I don't post loads but am on local groups so I get to know what's happening in & around Town.
My settings are quite secure, I do review them frequently.
I'm not on Twitter or Snapchat or Whasapp?????? & it will stay that way.
Tanith
I neither have FB .Skype or Twitter. I keep in touch with my family the other side of the world through Webcam
emails and phone
Friends look at me with their
how on earth do you manage without out FB expressions.
Nicely thank you
Have never had one and don't intend to.
I love Facebook, I keep in touch with friends and family on a casual basis. I also use facebook messenger to chat to people privately, including a GN friend who lives abroad and a cousin who lives in NZ. We use messenger video calls too, much better than Skype!
I must say that I've seen more nastiness on GN than on Fbook.
I use mine mainly to keep in touch with family and friends, I have family in Spain and it helps me keep in touch with them. I do belong to a few groups i.e places I lived in growing up, genealogy, the group for the breed of cat I own, crochet, that's about it.
I have a rare condition and my youngest grandchild has another. The FB groups for sufferers have been a lifeline. GPs can rarely help with rare diseases and in the groups we learn from each other.
I also enjoy our neighbourhood groups. We get early warnings of road closures, scammers in the area, burglars about, planning applications and so on and it's invaluable. We can buy and sell on there too.
I'm not on my daughter-in-law's FB but one of my daughters sends me any pics she posts of the children. So though much of the FB stuff is irritating/disturbing, I wouldn't want to lose it.
I worry about the damage it does e.g. bullying and showing off BUT I have few friends and family listed and use it to communicate and share photos with very close people some of whom I can't see often as they live in other countries and or they are very elderly. It's lovely for that.
Never used Facebook, never wanted to. Was once invited but refused, whereupon I was blanked by someone I had been corresponding with on forums - disappointing.
Recently was irritated to find that the local Labour party only seems to have a Facebook contact!
I use FB a lot, though I rarely post, just respond to others. I like seeing what friends and family are doing and seeing photos. I'm on several local groups so keep up with local happenings and interest/hobby groups as well as groups for my OU studies. I don't think you have to be involved in gossip but it links with so much else.
I love FB. I can keep up with far flung family members and friends and occasionally ask for support. I hate to say it but I find that people are much less critical on there than they are on here, probably because I know them all personally on FB and here people are anonymous!
Tanith, I agree ! My son, daughter in law and grandchildren live in the USA and I am delighted when I see a video or picture of them on Facebook posted by an aunt, friend or parents of my daughter in law. I also post pictures of places I visit, English countryside etc for them to see. I only have close friends and family on Facebook and it works well for me. That and Skype enable me to be part of their lives ( a bit anyway ).
I use FB regularly. With relatives so far apart (most of DH’s overseas) it’s a lovely to keep up-to-date with what’s going on, especially photos of events missed and photos of our new grandchild.
I also follow interest groups. I love it!
My DD encouraged me to have a Facebook account, mainly for keeping up with the doings of the grandchildren. Since then I have found some old school friends, joined a crochet group, and a local photography group. I use the messenger app too. It's a great way to keep in touch with far flung family as my cousins live in New Zealand and South Africa.
Never felt the urge to go on FB- seen and heard too many bad experiences from friends and family and like others on here keep in contact via whatsapp. Having said all that I am on instagram which I access daily 
I have only a handful of Facebook "friends" and prefer to use it for local history/news/genealogy etc. I keep up with my DD's photos on there, although we correspond regularly via email and phone, but otherwise I find myself responding to posts less and less and am pretty much bored with the whole thing.
maryhoffman - t'was tongue in cheek. I know the 'machine' rolls on. I used to value FB as the main way to stay in touch with my children when they were at uni and just beyond. These days we have a Watts App family group so my needs have changed. I just find it odd that some friends seem to mind. Each to their own.
I use daily, mainly to keep in touch with family abroad, but I’m in a couple of private support groups which are a godsend.
It is a communication tool not a life-substitute or parallel dimension. Those who fill it with cross do not trouble me because I delete them - my page is a mix of old friends, activism, work, and fun, with different privacy settings for each usage. Just be ruthless - if it is dull, cull...
I look at it every day- maybe post once a fortnight or so if something interesting happens or I go somewhere I want to recommend.
My main bugbear are the number of ads. that pop up.
I check Facebook every day. I always get a little lift if any of the family has posted pictures. I rarely post anything myself but do comment quite a lot. It's a bit of fun, but it's up to you whether you want to be there or not.
I've been culling mine for a while ,I have a few political groups and I use it to msg my daughter usually after midnight when she has trouble sleeping,we have a good old blether without disturbing anyone else.I got fed up with a lot of nonsense on it,the happy birthdays to mums in heaven,the endless pictures of peoples food,every picture being labelled STUNNING ,when it clearly isn't.So the folk who put on endless shots of hills and rivers have gone too.Maybe I'm getting grumpy ...maybe they just need to grow up....lol
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