Irrational thinking

I'm a window opener too, husband isn't. For various reasons I am sleeping in a separate bedroom at the moment. Husband has the main bedroom, all windows shut, blinds across and curtains drawn too! They stay like that all day even though it is much cooler today. In my room the blinds and curtains are open and the windows open too!
This has been an ongoing battle for a number of years, how he sleeps in such a hot, stuffy room I'll never know. He does say it's better for his hay fever but is out in his workshop now with door wide open and sits in the conservatory with......yes! ....doors wide open! ?

More than one member seems to have taken this thread as an open invitation to criticise Diddy1's relationship with her husband.
Whether or not OP does need some support in asserting herself, who are we to say or judge

My husband´s star sign is Virgo, which means pernickety, fussy about detail and so on. He, too, has a theory about not opening windows in summer, so as not to let the hot air in. I grew up in Scotland and don´t know anything about hot weather, I just love to have the windows open. I go around opening them as fast as he is closing them. We have been doing this for 35 years.

I will be interested in the reply from the manufacterer about your house .
Do you have neighbours with similar houses? If so have you looked to see if they open their windows?

It's not the fact that you have air-conditioning that is stopping you opening the windows, it's the fact that you allow your husband to tell you what to do!

callgirl1 - buy window and door fly screens - Dunelm Mills - they do work

During the hot weather I have had the door wide open but to prevent flies coming in I hang a long net curtain over the door and peg it to the door frame. If the odd one manages to sneak through I zap it with a little fly spray, no problem. The only thing I won't do is leave windows open at night, not only for security reasons but also moths and spiders.

fly screens are the answer! Wasps the size of jumbo jets are buzzing round outside and they can't get in. Mice can't either

I too love having my windows open, I have had at least 6 large wasps come in this year, solution - can of Raid (other brands are available) on hand. No wasp escapes my home alive if it dares to come in.

I also hate large flies, they too die.

The other day I could hear angry buzzing in my hallway, in my bamboo blind was a very busy spider & one very angry wasp, the spider won

grannypiper I can't speak for callgirl but as I feel as she does about wasps, I can give you my view. Like her, I would love to fling open all my windows but daren't because wasps are generally flitting about. Car windows are closed when car is stationary. In work, it is understood that I will deal with spiders but if a wasp appears I will leave the room.

Outside is better because it is more open; I avoid places wasps are likely to be found and wouldn't dream of going to picnics or barbecues or even, sadly, of sitting in the sun reading a book.

I think the real problem with a wasp indoors is when you don't know where it is. Even if you see it fly in, it can 'vanish' in moments and I truly feel ill if I know there is one in the house somewhere that I can't find - I certainly would not sleep.

Note that I am not allergic to wasp stings and that none of this applies to bees - however foolish it seems to others, I truly suffer from Spheksophobia

I would have the doors open then.........if you have one of those air pump things that heat or cool maybe that is the reason? there is nothing nicer than fresh though, unless, new husbands are available.

DH suffers from true hay fever and from March to September he goes through hell - every time neighbours strim lawns, the pollen is unbearable. I'm a fresh air fiend, but he's more or less bed bound - gets up in mid-late afternoon - so I throw open downstairs windows first thing and close them around lunch time. When he gets up, I open the bedroom and landing windows till I go to bed. That seems to work for us as well as can be expected.

Diddy1 - I love your comment "I do this when DH is not at home" ! I bet we could start a new thread on things we do when DH is not at home! I put washing machine on highest spin cycle ( DH believes it is not necessary??? Don't ask me why!)

I think windows are there to give light into your home and are also and escape route in case of fire etc. PLus they provide a view and you can see what is going on outside or identify danger and intruders before you open the door.

Does this mean you have to keep your doors closed except when you are going through them. I would find that difficult as I always keep the back door open in all sorts of weather. Not when the central heating is on as I get reprimanded!

Recycled air is the price you pay for lower heating bills.

But now your heating would normally be off?

As to control of the windows being open or closed, is this the price you pay for making your husband do the dusting?

Hondagirl, I think you have it, yes thats what happens, it is a low energy house, too well insulated to be honest, it came as a "flat pack",we have very low energy bills, but I still wish I could open a window now and again. (I do this when DH is not at home)

callgirl how do you manage when you have to go out ? i only because i am a window and door opener, the first think i do in the morning is open the door to let some air in, DH has a hissy fit as he says it allows the flies to come in but as well live beside the sheep and cows we have plenty of flies outside which never seem to bother him when he spends hours in his shed with the door wide open !

I think the OP may have a 'green' or low energy house which is extremely well insulated and whereby all the incidental heat in the house is recycled via a heat exchanger thereby reducing the electric/gas bill.

I saw something similar on a programme called My Flat Pack Home.

I`d love to open windows, but daren`t, as I`m terrified of wasps. I opened the back door about a foot the other day, for 10 minutes, and a gigantic wasp came in, so windows and doors are to remain closed.

Hello again, I have just written to the building firm about the windows, as soon as I receive a reply I will explain what happens, and hopefully can open a window or two before I expire!

I can empathise with your comment about obeying a control freak. I know from experience that it's easier to let them have their own way and sadly (in my experience) safer.

Thank you for all your answers, they make me feel much better.The recycled air, I dont really understand, we live in Sweden and this apparantly lets the air in through a filter, then lets it out into the house again, complicated to explain because I dont really understand how it works, it is NOT Air Conditioning, so opening windows doesnt affect things, I am going to write to the company who built the house, and ask if windows can be opened! I might as well act as a fool. Watch this space!
Obeying a "control freak" is sometimes easier!

I would have told him (ever so nicely) where to go

Who does the dusting in your house?
If, as I suspect it is you, then why is the dust a problem for your husband?

I hope it's not recycled air, that's what you have on aircraft and the reason you feel crap after a long flight. Very bad for your health.