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Are you allowed to divorce your son? :-)

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polyester57 Fri 24-Mar-17 09:50:03

I´m always surprised to hear how much store people set by getting a mother´s day card/gift. As a family, we don´t do mother´s days, father´s days or valentine days. And yes, I too think they are rip offs invented with the precise purpose of getting people to spend money on trinkets at commercially-low times of the year. I assume/know that my children love me every day of the year and there are many different ways of showing it. I assume yggdrasil, that your son called to ask how you were and to wish you a happy mother´s day in person, even if this took only a few minutes, I find it lovely. As for not getting a printed card through the post, I wouldn´t give it a second thought. As for wanting to "divorce" your son because he is too much like your ex-husband? Once upon a time you picked the man to father your children and you were aware of what the laws of genetics were. No, in my world, you cannot divorce your children.

Maggiemaybe Fri 24-Mar-17 09:37:56

I have a friend whose son gave her a bet on the Grand National for Mother's Day. Mon Mome, because he thought it meant My Mum. It came in at 100 to 1! wine

Maggiemaybe Fri 24-Mar-17 09:32:02

On the basis of the :-) in the title, I think the OP means this to be a light hearted thread.

My DS has always been a grump about media sponsored love fests as well, but has always come up with a gift, usually still in the brown paper bag, and a card, because I've made it clear that the consequences of not doing so wouldn't be pretty grin

He was taken aback one year, as was I, when the sentimental card with the 29p sticker still on it and the Jamie Oliver collection "Best Mum" mug in a battered and torn box brought a tear to my eye. He'd bought the mug on his way over, from the clearance bin at Sainsburys.

He is improving with age and the influence of his lovely wife smile

Grannyknot Fri 24-Mar-17 09:18:43

Oops ignore second "some years ago" in the final para.

Grannyknot Fri 24-Mar-17 09:17:44

If that was my son, I would laugh it off... it's not that serious! Not worth all the hoo-ha.

I always feel a bit sorry for the men I see in the supermarket buying flowers or pink-hearted cards dripping with glitter (usually just before closing time on the day before mother's day/valentine's day the event) having succumbed to the pressures of commerce, when clearly it is not the sort of thing they would usually do.

For my birthday some years ago my son wrote on a piece of coloured cardboard some years ago when he was in the depths of a mental breakdown, his handwriting is all wonky on it. He wrote "I love you Mom". That's the one I've kept.

Izabella Fri 24-Mar-17 09:10:49

It's quite permissable to love someone and not like them. Don't feel bad about your feelings. His loss. You won't be there for him forever.

jacksmum Fri 24-Mar-17 09:06:05

Sorry to hear your son is so uncaring, dont really know what else to say,other than hope you have a nice day on sunday , and hope your son will realize what a horrible thing he has done by phoning you with this conversation.xx

gillybob Fri 24-Mar-17 08:47:03

How old is your son yggdrasil ?

Sounds a very childish thing to do/say.

yggdrasil Fri 24-Mar-17 08:44:16

On the grounds that he is turning into his father who I divorced 15 years ago. I got a phone call last night, to say he wasn't getting me anything for Mother's Day because it was a rip-off. I said, what not even a card? He sort of ummed, and said the phone call was to say happy mothers day. The whole call lasted about 2 mins. And that was Thursday, not even Sunday!