Christmas weep

I really get so sad at xmas. But i have family who do their own thing. I am on a second marraige and we sit alone. And my husband had big Cancer op on 1st Sept. I meet my grown up children on a Boxing day plus 1 Grandson. So no fun at xmas.

Well after my weepy Chriistmas eve....have had a wonderful day today.family.love.presents etc..so just now counting my blessings✨ and ((((((hugs)))))) to you all on gransnet.sooo glad I am one of you!!! ?xx

As I have mentioned on other threads my counter part Gran is in hospital in her last hours/days. We have tried successfully to give our two grandsons a lovely Xmas whilst supporting our DS and DinL who has spent half her Xmas siting with her mum and dad in hospital. We are ALL going to the hospital tomorrow if she us still with us to say our final goodbyes to a good, kind woman, who a week ago asked the doctor to make her better as she wasn't ready to go. She is only 70 to young to die. I want to weep with sadness. Tomorrow will be difficult for us all. Please think of us and those of you who believe, a few prayers would be welcome, and those of you who don't please keep our two families in your thoughts.

Hugs to other sad families on GN.

Enjoy the rest of your Xmas folks.

Sitting

Thinking of you and your family NanKate. I lost my sister earlier this year at the age of 70 and so this Christmas makes me feel very emotional and I know her husband, children and grand-children will have had a sad day. ?? to all who are feeling low.

Hugs to all of you who have family living away my son in Oz
Also those we have lost
We do have presious memories that cannot be taken away
This is a emotional time of the year and I do think TV ads do makes us feel a little envious of those large family gathering

NellieMoser........ think I'm guilty of wishing 'Merry' Christmas. Will do my level best to amend that to 'Happy'. You make a good point. Thank you.

What a shame that a simple seasonal good wish has to be picked apart - so we can't all feel merry, or even happy, but surely it's the thought that counts!

(My third Christmas without OH, btw, and I think it's the worst - so I do know of wot I speak! )

Ana xxx

To all of you, kindest thoughts and to * nankate* prayers. They are a great comfort.
My day has been fine, I knew what to expect and it lived up to it.
I have memories of years past but don't try to replicate that, it is a wasted effort.
I bought myself a Radley bag online from John Lewis and I have just opened it in the privacy of my bedroom and it is lovely so I am a happy bunny.
A peaceful night to you all.

that sounds like a very good personal gift to yourself ann. At least the day is almost over now.

What ifs are wasted you have to make the best of what you have.
A peaceful night to you also.

Enjoy your bag Ann - you deserve it! I hope your day was no worse than you hoped!

Ana - a gentle hug.

Kate, I don't pray but will think of you and your family.

Nellie, I hope your Christmas has passed off as happily as you would wish. (((Hug)))

To all of you who are sad.

Ana ? And everyone who has felt sad today. I think merry is just an older word as in "God rest ye...". I'm happy to use either. This has been quite an emotional thread to read but it's been good to see so many positive comments on here.

It is interesting to read posts from English grandparents whose grandkids are in Australia. I am an Australian grandmother whose three grandkids (my only grandkids) will be moving to England at the beginning of March. Yesterday could well have been the last Christmas I will spend with them, and it is a very sad thought that can bring me to tears. But I have two more months to spend with them and will create as many happy memories as I can to see me through.
Mumsy, I feel particularly sad for you as estrangement is worse than mere geographical separation. I was temporarily estranged from my grandkids for two months before Christmas last year (my daughter-in-law is Chinese and from time to time does a passive aggressive thing which may involve not letting me see the kids). I felt as if I had died inside. So my heart goes out to you.

I to have been feeling down this year, having lost my father last March , and last Christmas with him being bed ridden took the pleasure out of Christmas then, living alone as well in my flat in a Anchor home I reflect back quite easy.
Mick

Mick big hug.

Hugs to all of you who have lost loved ones or are estranged from family. My youngest son is in NZ and sent me a message yesterday to say it had been a strange emotional day for him - happy with his two small children yet sad remembering past years and missing everyone here. We did FaceTime last night and saw the little ones which was lovely. I had an accident yesterday and ended up in A&E - I felt quite emotional as my other son and his family had come to us for the day (they live 2 hours away) and we ended up leaving them sat at home on their own. Felt so bad we came away from the hospital before I was seen to be with them.

Hope you are O K today Willow500

Oh Nankate my prayers for you...and wishing peace and love to everyone of you❤

Have just begun catching up with GN while DD1, DD3 and little family are out for a walk.
Hugs to all of you, especially those for whom this time of year is diffiicult. You are in my thoughts.

I know I shouldnt have done but curiosity got the better of me, I just looked at my older grandaughters facebook page and there they all were a happy xmas selfie of my estranged family ?

Well yesterday we sat alone, my 2nd husband and i. He has mouth cancer and not able to eat much. But he has a wonderful spirit. He lives on soft foods so i did not much cooking for myself for xmas. Today i was at my younger daughters and my eldest daughter ,partner and Son and wife all had brunch and exchanged presents.

Thanks Sue and Kitty for your prayers and thoughts respectively. Pretty tough day saying goodbye, but feel pleased we did it.

Good to have GN to express my feelings without burdening the family who are all struggling in their own ways.

This is a useful thread.

Without going in to details, I feel like my family is falling apart ...despite us all being together yesterday ...I thought that things were beginning to improve but yesterday showed that the opposite is the case .....so I seem to be weeping off and on since they went to their respective homes last night! Carols make me worse , remembering happier times, including with those no longer with us!