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morethan2 Fri 16-Dec-16 07:12:03

Recently my husband and I (sounds rather royal doesn't it but I can't think of another phrase) were comparing our 1950's childhoods. We were doing it with great nostalgia, not in a 'I was poorer than you way' These were some of the things we remembered that you wouldn't expect today. We both remembered being hit by teachers. Him with a leather strapshockme with a ruler. Me:-1 accompanying my dad to a disused railway line to dig up the old wood for a fire.2 old itchy army coats for bedding.3 thinking Thursdays were wonderful because our mum told us we had a special tea of jam and bread. Then the treat of having to walk about 8 miles to see my dad at work on Friday and him passing his wage packet through the fence and getting the bus home and getting one bar of chocolate between us. I now realise that the money had run out on Wednesday. Him 1, walking the streets with his dad and picking up cigarette buts and putting them in a tin. 2 waiting in a queue for soup and rissoles from the nuns (he's Irish) We both remember being cold but it not bothering us too much. We both said we never felt poor because everyone we knew lived similar lives. Our poor poor parents how worrying it must have been bringing up a family in such poverty. I hope some of you will share some of your experiences with me. We can get all nostalgic together, or not oh now I remember having to wash your hair over the kitchen sink using a jug and not so warm water. [ shudder emotion]

NotTooOld Tue 03-Jan-17 21:59:21

Born at the end of the war, I can relate to most of the above. One of my earlier memories is of my Dad buying a last so he could mend our shoes. He applied rubber soles and heels and sometimes (to our delight) he put blakies (I wonder if you can still buy those?) in our heels. We liked that because then we could tap dance. Each Summer Dad would cut the toes out of our last year's sandals with a Stanley knife and we wore those out of school, conserving the new ones for school and 'best'. Mum made all our clothes and Grandma knitted us jumpers and cardigans. We played out all the time with our friends and had a lot of freedom. I feel sorry for my DGC who are taken everywhere by car and go on 'play dates'. I was lucky enough to have very loving parents and I still miss them both.

Jaxie Wed 04-Jan-17 10:06:26

I thought I might have prompted some unsympathetic comments for introducing the topic of STs ( as they used to be asked for in a 1950's pharmacy). Instead a lovely bunch of symbolic flowers. I should like to know even more about how women managed their periods in the past. What about those crotchless knickers the Victorians wore? Those long thick layers of skirts.....

Jalima Wed 04-Jan-17 10:10:18

The STs were horrible anyway in the 1950s and early 60s with the belts and hooks. They had to be burnt, luckily DF often had a bonfire going in the garden.

Elegran Wed 04-Jan-17 10:35:49

Interesting subject - not to be discussed in public then, of course.

I found a few enlightening tidbits
www.mum.org/whatwore.htm
susannaives.com/wordpress/2015/09/tidbits-on-mid-victorian-era-menstrual-hygiene/
georgianlondon.com/post/49464043356/on-flowers-a-short-but-frank-post-on-how-18th
www.gregjenner.com/history-periods/
little-details.livejournal.com/2445819.html

and more . . . .

AlieOxon Wed 04-Jan-17 10:40:19

I remember being at my grandparents' and very embarrassed to tell my gran I had a problem - she gave me an old sheet and some safety pins......
As soon as I got to uni (1958) I sent for a Tampax sample and got a whole box - never looked back!

AlieOxon Wed 04-Jan-17 10:42:10

Elegran I can't get into any of those links?

AlieOxon Wed 04-Jan-17 10:44:26

Except the last.

Elegran Wed 04-Jan-17 11:07:07

I don't know why that is, Alie. Try Googling victorian women periods and maybe you will get into them from the list that comes up. All very interesting, and there were many more that i didn't follow.

Elegran Wed 04-Jan-17 11:09:50

Some of them didn't blue. I'll try again. how is this?
www.mum.org/whatwore.htm
susannaives.com/wordpress/2015/09/tidbits-on-mid-victorian-era-menstrual-hygiene/
georgianlondon.com/post/49464043356/on-flowers-a-short-but-frank-post-on-how-18th
www.gregjenner.com/history-periods/
little-details.livejournal.com/2445819.html

goldengirl Wed 04-Jan-17 12:00:07

My mum was a dancer and used tampons! She was born in 1920.

AlieOxon Wed 04-Jan-17 13:09:58

Elegran My Firefox is stopping me from getting in. says not secure site....bother.

Elegran Wed 04-Jan-17 14:04:11

My Firefox doesn't mind. Does yours do that to all of them? To them when you find them on Google?

AlieOxon Wed 04-Jan-17 15:50:57

Have to try that. I have found some via google.

annodomini Wed 04-Jan-17 16:16:12

When I was a teenager, a neighbour asked me to go to the chemist and get her a box of Tampax. I was sooooo embarrassed blush! How times have changed. My GD, aged 14 quite openly mentions periods and protection in front of her father and brother and anyone else who happens to be there.

Elrel Wed 04-Jan-17 22:38:36

I remember them on the top shelf in the corner grocery shop in the '50s, wrapped in plain brown paper.

Grandma2213 Thu 05-Jan-17 01:05:41

Elrel I have the same Santa in a chimney and green bristle Christmas tree in my cake decorating box though I have not made a Christmas cake in 40 years as nobody in my family likes them! I wonder if they were bought in Woolworths - most of my things were!

pollyperkins Thu 05-Jan-17 16:49:21

I was convinced that periods were a female secret that no men knew about as it was never mentioned in mixed company. I was terribly embarrassed about buying S Ts as they were called, especially if the chemist was male, and begged my mum to get them for me. They were horrible things too. How glad i am that that is all behind me!

pollyperkins Thu 05-Jan-17 16:50:09

And my Mum told me not to go swimming or even wash my hair when I had a period!

NotTooOld Thu 05-Jan-17 17:11:31

pollyperkins, you made me laugh when you wrote 'How glad I am that that is all behind me!' Sorry - just my silly sense of humour.

KatyK Thu 05-Jan-17 17:27:42

My DH once bought his mother a packet of sanitary towels for her birthday. He had no idea what they were but had seen her buying them in Woolworths so he knew she liked them smile

pollyperkins Thu 05-Jan-17 17:43:56

Not too old grin

Ana Thu 05-Jan-17 17:58:08

pollyperkins, but you just couldn't go swimming when you had a period wearing a sanitary towel! shock

The other things older women said were just daft though, such as the hair-washing.

whitewave Thu 05-Jan-17 18:01:52

polly I believed the same!!! But honestly given the lack of information I bet there were some men who were ignorant of such things.

Grandma2213 Fri 06-Jan-17 00:58:10

STs and Sanitary belts - yuk! No wonder our periods were known as 'the curse'!

On a lighter note. Imagine the hilarity when we had a new Science teacher at our school. His name was Doctor White!

Bellanonna Fri 06-Jan-17 01:11:40

Oh I remember those. And Southalls Santowels.