Things that break your heart......

From about now until December 14th is over......

I lost my sister to cancer this year. Christmas cards are moving me to tears as so many friends are putting lovely messages in saying they will be thinking of us all this Christmas. I don't feel very Christmassy yet but both she and I have grandchildren and it's hard to stay sad when I've been invited to see school nativity plays etc. But that's another thing that moves me to tears!

Am welling up just reading all these posts, what a softy! I cry at the Christmas adverts, Strictly when the dances are beautiful, choirs singing, our DGD1 empathy and concern over my DHs health, people being kind, people being unkind - well you name it! Am in the WI but can't sing Jerusalem for the life of me with a lump! I just love the expression your eyes are too close to your heart, never heard it put like that before. I'll have lunch with you Ruby, would love to see a flash mob, might even want to join in ?

Lucky thanks for that, I would love to see a flash mob.
I cry at anything these days and I appreciate things more too since I got older.
Often I just feel overwhelmed with love for my family, and that makes me weepy! No hope for me

Day6 your stairy about your little grndaughter brought a lump to my throat though. Its usually chiren which make me dewy eyed (i never sob) ike seeing my little grandsonslook of wonder When seeing father christmas.

Thank you Disgruntled and Grannee

cry at lots of things! Buckets when reading Me Before You! Music often makes me cry. Remember going with my own kids singing carols round the streets near their school and crying when I heard those childish voices and saw those innocent little faces. They are all grown up now!
Posts on GN often make me cry and of course the news - such sad things these days that we can do nothing about.
And as for the OP - as a past sufferer of depression I can appreciate the tremendous effort it took to write that letter - but it is a good sign that things are improving.

DD has just miscarried her baby so its a sad day

so sorry grannypiper.

I'm so sorry grannypiper that is very sad.

A mum in the queue in front of me in the cafe today. Adult daughter was obviously quite mentally challenged. Mum calmed her by drawing her close, cradling her head, and calling her "my little dearie". So sad. So beautiful.

Sorry, grannypiper, that is sad. Two of my daughters have had miscarriages, one 3, but they both have 2 beautiful children now - there is hope.

The thing that has upset me most in the last couple of weeks is the story of the premature baby left to die on her own inthe sluice room. The thought that anyone could just dump a living baby - even if she wasn't viable is absolutely heart wrenching.

So many things big and small make me cry. Yes Deedaa, that was way beyond sad.
But that flash mob video was brilliant Lucky - have now added seeing a flash mob to my bucket list, whether I'm lunching or not.

So sorry to hear that Grannypiper. We have experienced 3 miscarriages and 3 failed IVF in the last few years from DD1, DD2 and DDil. So distressing for them and sad also for us as Grans/Grandads. The what might have been.

I never cry anyway, it doesn't alter anything.

You're absolutely right Shanma - crying doesn't alter anything. C.S. Lewis famously said: 'Crying is all right in its way while it lasts. But you have to stop sooner or later, and then you still have to decide what to do.'

For me it's often a response to sorrow and frustration and it's a healthy one I think. (Has a quick look on google.) Yes, crying is actually good for you according to various researchers.

My mother says she only ever remembers me crying once as a child - I used to bottle up a lot of hurt and pain. Now I am comfortable expressing those sorts of emotions - I've been doing a lot of crying recently and even though it doesn't actually change things I feel it's an appropriate response to my circumstances.

thank you all for your kind words. It has left me with a heavy heart but a sigh of relief as my DD came very close to losing her life during her last pregnancy due to pre-eclampsia and our DGD had to be brought into the world 7 weeks early. My DD is upset but my SIL is in bits, he knows that they wont ever have a baby together (they have a child each from past relationships). I am 400 miles away and feel helpless.But onwards and upwards and i am blessed with 2 beautiful, healthy DGC so cant complain. Thank you everyone

I think crying is good ga and I disagree with C S Lewis. I think crying helps clear emotions out of the way and enables one to decide what to do.

I'm sure you are being a huge help and I hope you are looking after yourself too.

Very sad for your DD,SIL and you grannypiper . I have no words, but I can remember the feeling and I just wish you all the love and support a family can give.

That made me have a tear or two Db, it always does!

Thank you DaphneBroon for your post

Lovely sentiment Daphne, so sorry for all the families experiencing problems at the moment.

So many sad stories here, and I do think it is good to cry if we remember someone and are just sad for the fact that they are no longer with us to enjoy Christmas or any other special occasion. A few tears will often make us feel a little better and do no one any harm.
I am often moved to tears when I think of our son - he is still with us, but sometimes, when I am in a sombre mood I just wonder what would he say if he could talk - would he really say "I love you Mum"? because that is what I would like to hear.

Grannypiper so sorry (((hugs)))