This will please many of you

Why don't didn't you just leave shanma to speak for herself?

Well DB because when someone, who yes may not have behaved well, is pilloried and bullied by many others and who I suspect from previous threads is probably vulnerable, I ( and others) felt it was right to offer support. I would call that being kind snd humane and not you know walking by on the other side. You walk where you want.and answer to your own conscience and I'll do the same. OK?

And a bit of judicious stirring was entirely accidental

Rigby46 To answer your question, what I am thinking is that stillalive shanma and Marmark1 ?perhaps AN Other seem to me to all have a similar style of posting and the content of what is being said seems familar.
I am wondering if some of these posters have been on GN before. I don't know what former names to suggest as a number of past posters have had several names.

Can I repeat what I said 24 hours ago? Please can this thread now RIP.

OP flounced. OP left. left, OP didn't.
End of.

Nellie well rightly or wrongly I thought you were including me in your comments snd it really annoyed me. I really hate this 'some posters' rubbish - if you (and others) want to make accusations against certain posters, you should name them rather than throw out some generality that tars many with the same brush. You may not like the stance that I have taken on this thread but that's another issue

Anyway, mum is right and that includes you DB

Don't tell me what to do, you have been the prime mover in flogging this particular dead horse.
The thread had disappeared off the page until it was resurrected this afternoon as far i could see, to add precisely zilch/rien/nada/Nichts to a non-thread.
Only too happy to ?Let It Go?

Thanks to those who have been kind on here. I do appreciate it.

In answer to some of the other's questions. I didn't " Flounce". I didn't type off a quick after midnight rant either. That time of night is normal for my postings. I am normally not to bed until about 12.30.
It was not a rant, it was a measured voicing of my opinions of certain posters on GN. I didn't leave because to be honest I thought I would just get kicked out by the powers that be. A couple of days later on checking my e mail I saw that this was not the case, so came on and had a look.
There are people on here telling me to go, telling me that most of my posts have been " Nasty"?? I have looked back through my posts, I don't know what you have all been reading but I doubt very much you can show me these nasty posts, there are none.

I think that some of the posters, especially those who have been on GN for a long time think that they hold the monopoly, and that if someone...anyone, disagrees then they are, by definition, being nasty.

I was shocked and pretty disgusted to see many posters with whom I have had NO communication jumping in to berate me. Shame on you
shame on all those who act this way.

It has also been suggested that perhaps I come back with a different user name and start again!!, what? a whole different persona, no thank you that is not my style.

For your information, and this is directed to the bullying group on here, of whom there seem to be many. This is not a private club, it is a public forum open to all, and I have as much right to say what I think on here as do any of you. Don't presume to tell me what to say, having read some of the things SOME people have put on this thread none of you has the right to question what I say.

Bye then.

Shanma You are correct in saying that on a public forum you have every right to say what you think – and that includes Gransnet. However, on Gransnet, you may not verbally attack individuals (see Gransnet rules). Equally, other Gransnetters have a right to say what they think, but may not verbally attack individuals. Some on this thread have, clearly, overstepped the mark and this is equally wrong. Others haven't.

I glance through Gransnet only occasionally these days and have seen few, if any of your other posts. From what I learn through reading this thread, I am sorry to learn that you are going through a tough patch in your life and wish you well. Nevertheless, I don't think having a difficult, trying or painful time in anyone's life justifies rudeness, aggression or superciliousness towards others.

Well said Shanma, and welcome back.

I know only to well what its like being berated by the bullies on gransnet and its about time admin sifted them out!

Good post, Absent.

Yes , a good post absent - it's measured and balanced and it would be a good way to close this thread now.

You're very keen on having the last word Rigby .

Telling people to end a thread never works .

That's the trouble with a public forum , you put your thoughts out there and then its out of your control . This thing has legs for as long as people with to discuss/debate/pontificate and neither you , I or anyone else will stop it in its tracks sadly.

I didn't mean it like that - my ego is not dependent upon having the last word. I just thought absent's post said it all. Why so scratchy?

Nelliemoser,what did I do?other than point out that some people here are very nasty to the verge of poisonous,which they are,and the fact that two wrongs don't make a right.
The reason I felt the need to point this out is because I can't stand injustice or hypocrisy.Those self same nasty things will hand out very sympathetic advice on other threads,are they also condescending and patronising?You tell me.

To create a thread, based on personal comments about other members of a forum, is asking for strong ripostes!

It appears to me, that despite any difficult personal circumstances, Shanma is perfectly robust enough to hold his/her own and does not need defending. As I said before the OP appeared to be deliberate stirring.

I understand that some posters 'feel' got at and some even interpret that as bullying. I have not seen what I consider bullying on GN recently. I do see people not able to debate a point and opinions and who resort to personal sniping and 'playground' tit for tat as a mattr of course. I notice some people who always make a negative/aggressive response to certain posters which is fine as long as it is the facts they are challenging and not the individual and their right to state them as part of an adult debate.

Each thread is a separate conversation. There are so many threads that to have read all of each of them would take all day, and even if you managed that marathon, remembering who said what where would take an excellent memory. Speaking about their problems on one thread (and receiving supportive replies) doesn't inform a different set of people in a different conversation in advance that if someone seems to be often posting aggressively, they should be excused because of their circumstances. As I've said before, EVERYONE has problems.

I read several of Shanma's posts on the lines that she could say whatever she wanted to, and she went on to do so. Then she started this thread which carries that theory on. It is not in the least surprising that she got some negative comments (other posters than her wanted to say whatever they wanted to). I've not been reading the latest exchanges, but it would have died down after the first day without further stoking by Rigby46.

Shanma Pathetic comment ..... Been digging deep to scrape the barrel.

What a Day - remember this thread?
Find me one post out of the 32 replies to your OP shanma which has given rise to your criticism of GN members, or "coven" if you prefer or which has prompted you to sound off against individual members such as elegran, kittylester, anya

I once flounced for ten minutes. I had been upset because I went into the "kitchen" and said someone was horrible to me! I soon realised that I didn't want to leave. Why should I when 98 per cent of G N Dr's are lovely!!

I don't think it was that one DaphneB. I think it was the 'Gransnet today....Just my opinion' thread.

(that gave rise to this one, I mean)