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The house is sold and I'm having a wobble

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Pigglywiggly Mon 21-Nov-16 10:50:59

We are nowhere near completion but the buyers' (very rude) surveyor came last week and now I am torn about whether I want to move at all.
We have been here 32 years and logic tells us we will never live anywhere as long in the future. We thought we would be here forever.
Our new place is much better suited to our needs, not far away so we will see the same people. I just felt very possessive when this complete stranger stomped all over my home.
I hope the surveyor we have hired to go to the new place is nicer.
Anyone care to reassure me that moving from a much loved home can be OK?

petra Wed 23-Nov-16 14:13:08

If solicitors and estate agents weren't at the top of my hit list, I would move more often.
I've been in this bungalow 2 years, the flat before this, 6 years, the previous one 5 years etc etc. We love a new project.

mrsmopp Thu 24-Nov-16 09:23:55

Our house is really too big for us now and logic tells me it's time to declutter and downsize, but my problem is that despite continually searching online I haven't found anything I want to move into.
We have lovely spacious rooms, a good set of shops close by (essential as I don't drive) our GP and dentist 5 minutes walk away and excellent public transport. We face south so all the rooms are filled with sunlight, and we have good neighbours too.
I search but find nothing - one lovely bungalow was not near a bus route or shops; I think we will be here till doomsday, but I do keep looking, maybe one day I will look and think, "that's the one, I've found it..."

Soniah Thu 24-Nov-16 10:19:35

I lived in the same village for 31 years in 2 different houses and moved 170 miles to a more modern, easier to look after house in the smallest town in Wales with a smaller garden so more suitable for us as we get older. The bonus is our son and grandchildren are only 25mins away, the sea just 15mins, Snowdon 45mins and it has been like an eighteen month holiday so far. There is so much to discover, we have friends to stay, we have joined lots of groups in the town and made new friends. I had a bit of a wobble a couple of weeks after we moved as I missed my friends dropping in but now we are both so glad we moved and, I hate to say this, we rarely think of our old house and life there, though we loved it at the time and were very involved in village life. I think when the time to move on comes the brain adjusts.

Niobe Thu 24-Nov-16 11:59:06

A year ago we sold our home of 31 years and moved from Scotland to Redbridge, London. The house was on the market for 3 months and we were eager to sell but I was still gutted rather than elated when we got the offer. We are really glad we made the move as the weather is so much better and our son and his wife are only 15 mins away rather than 400 miles away. It has ,and still is, a bit of an adventure!

Bebe47 Thu 24-Nov-16 13:56:52

I agree with everything that's been said. Just go for it - you wont regret it. Think of all the negatives about the place and the reasons why you wanted to leave if in the firstplace . . Memories should be about the people not about bricks and mortar.
Exciting times - we moved up to the Lake District from the Midlands after 32 years in the same house bringing up the boys . If is so beautiful and quieter up here and we have a modern wArm home easily mai rained home now, instead of the draughty and chilly place we had before. Go for it - exciting times - let us know his you get on. ?

Legs55 Thu 24-Nov-16 16:02:29

So many positive messages - as I posted above I've had experience of moving to new areas, takes courage particularly on your own as I had to after DH died. My experience has been positive, love my new home, not perfect yet but "work in progress" as is the garden.

I am naturally friendly although I can be a little shy with new groups of people. Be open to meeting new people, try joining in with activities & explore. Those of you planning to move within the same area don't have to worry about that.

It's natural to feel apprehensive even fearful when facing a move but look forward - it's an experience, stressful but worth it in the end flowers

Doreen5 Thu 24-Nov-16 16:29:10

Moved after 38 years in the same house - never regretted it!

Pigglywiggly Fri 25-Nov-16 06:54:51

Thank you all for your encouragement smile