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So far, so good, but is this something you'd consider?

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Hilltopgran Wed 12-Oct-16 00:20:15

Years ago, it was quite common for people who were living alone with spare bedrooms to offer to house share. My Nan had several other women to share her house, they lived separate lives but it was a way to share the household costs and not feel alone.

So if it works for you, that is a great way to avoid loneliness and share costs.

mrsmopp Tue 11-Oct-16 20:59:05

What would you do, if after a while, you realized it wasn't working out? Can she invite her friends round? What if you found her irritating, noisy, lazy and how would you ask her to leave? She may say she has nowhere to go. You can't just turf her out! What if she became ill and needed looking after?
Do you have a tenancy agreement?
Actually I think it's a great idea.
Having said that, although I have plenty of friends, I would find it difficult sharing a house with any of them.

Nelliemoser Tue 11-Oct-16 19:07:17

Yes with safeguards and proper agreements.
I am sure most people can manage a television in their room.
Many young people seem to manage living in shared houses.

nanaK54 Tue 11-Oct-16 17:27:40

I think it's a great idea- do you have some sort of agreed 'get out' agreement?

merlotgran Tue 11-Oct-16 17:09:28

You hear a lot about young women house sharing so why not older women? It sounds ideal. Glad to hear it's working out for you.

granjura's suggestion of a trial period is a good one.

granjura Tue 11-Oct-16 16:41:18

Definitely- with proper agreements in place, and with a trial period- and providing each can have some privacy and space.

naughtynanny Tue 11-Oct-16 16:35:40

Hi again!
Admittedly, the lady is the sister of an acquaintance,(not really a friend) and I had met her a couple of times before.

I just think that for people who really do feel a bit isolated and low through loneliness, then this could be a good idea. I know you have to take a leap of faith, but with careful thought, and a bit of give and take, it could be better than that continual empty silence.

tanith Tue 11-Oct-16 16:34:55

Sounds a good solution for you, I can imagine sharing with a daughter or sister but not a stranger. Is the lady a friend? and did you rent the house together or is she sharing your home?

rosesarered Tue 11-Oct-16 16:23:38

Sorry, ipad....you are obviously lucky, was what I meant to say.

Charleygirl Tue 11-Oct-16 16:22:50

I think that you have been incredibly lucky and it has worked out brilliantly for you.

Maybe I am selfish but I want the TV to myself each evening and I do not have 2 lounges, just one room which is a lounge as well as dining area.

rosesarered Tue 11-Oct-16 16:22:39

Same as above poster says.You're obviously lucky , and glad it has worked for you, because yes, it's a good idea indeed.Did you already know her?

icanhandthemback Tue 11-Oct-16 16:17:27

What a brilliant idea if you can get the right person. I should imagine it would be a living hell if you got someone who was too clingy or lazy.

naughtynanny Tue 11-Oct-16 16:15:44

Hi Everyone.
I've lived on my own for most of the last 15 years, and to be honest, I haven't liked it much.

Two months ago, I offered a house share, to a lady the same age as me (60 ish) and it's working out better than I imagined it would.

I like cooking, she likes washing up, so that's how it's working out. We eat together, watch a bit of TV, then she'll potter off upstairs and read or 'chat' online, and I'll do my thing. We both work part time, and have different friends and interests.

For anyone who does feel a bit lonely and fed up with their own company this seems an ideal solution, not to mention a little bit of help with the bills. Mature house - sharing!

But how do you feel about it, is it something you'd ever consider, or do you shiver at the thought of it?