Any one with a perfect husband?

Mrs P does say I'm not perfect sometimes, but She can't always be right.

I'm sure my DH would agree with BPJ. My best friend is always saying I have the perfect husband - but she doesn't have to live with him! . We went out on Sunday and had to use the satnav for the first time in ages. I set it and thought it was okay until it took us down the road, round the roundabout and back into our drive, where he had a complete meltdown and blamed me for not being able to remember how to set it up! So I told him to b****y well set it up if he was so clever, and he did - and it took us down the road, round the roundabout and back into our drive! We gave up in the end and got the map book out, but it is difficult to give directions if you are barely on speaking terms! He doesn't know the meaning of the word 'apology'.

BPJ are you my bil. His wife knows everything and is never wrong. From baking bread to retiling the roof. She is an expert driver (will admit that she can do parallel parking) but forgets about the TWO dogs (both her husband's) she has run over.

Luckily they live in France so we rarely visit and she has never come to us.

I can so relate to the bit sbout him turning the blame on you!! My dh was an absolute master at doing that. In fact, whenever he dropped something or broke anything, or did anything wrong, i used to say "how on earth did i make that happen?" My sarcasm was wasted on him though, as he usually replied "well, its funny but if you
Had'nt done....../put........./moved........./ changed..........., it would not have happened!" I remember he dropped my mil's very precious china teapot one day whilst i was out and when i came home he said it fell out of the cupboard because i had not put it way properly!!! The fact that it had sat on the same shelf, in the same cupboard, in the same position for over 15 years was of no relevance! They are to be pitied for their insecurity!

Greyduster apology is such a difficult word to pronounce, my OH has difficulty with it as well

Appears that that all have this in them!...mr always right...even when he's wrong....I just let it go over my head now...Not worth the energy...I used to say that if the world blew up it'd be my fault..
but who cares....what are they without us to blame...NOTHING...

I knew I'd married Mr Right but didn't know his first name was Always and after we got married I sold my complete set of Encyclopedias cause he knows blimmin everything ?

I think it must have been your fault somewhere along the line LulkyDully, like mine he has a truly amazing knack of blaming me. I think he would have said I shouldn't have let him borrow the hedge trimmer in the first place

Or he didn't know the wire was there I should have told him.

Or not his fault the wire was there.

Or the hedge was thicker than I'd said

Or the silly person shouldn't have put wire in the hedge - that wasn't you was it

The list goes on
Let us know if you find a solution to cure this.

My DH is a darling but can be prone to switching the blame .. we've now turned this into a joke, fortunately he is able to laugh at himself.

chocolatechomp your post so made me laugh out loud - I spilled my coffee and am just off to change my shirt! .

In the 'Archers' on Beeb4 recently there was a story line about 'coercive control' and it really touched a nerve in the listening public's awareness and elicited a huge response. It takes on many guises and is generally hidden from view to all but the unfortunate recipient. If someone is so perfect then let them get on with it and if the worst comes to the worst the only solution is to maybe walk away.

My mother gave me good advice on my wedding day. She said, "Remember that your husband is always right, even when he's wrong." It has stood me in good stead over the years!

My Dad always said there were two views on everything - his and the wrong one. When he was alive he and my husband did not get on very well. Now, my husband has become my father!
My view is that my Mum's maiden name was Wright, so I'm always half right, even when I'm wrong. It makes for some interesting "discussions."

HildajenniJ I had some similar advice but the older I get, the harder I find it to follow.

Oh dear! I think I'm the perfect one

My DH, as much as I love him has the tendency to be controlling as there is a fine line between 'advising' you to controlling you.
Don't worry, I only let him go so far before I say enough is enough.

When we go shopping he packs the bags at the checkout. The woman on the checkout will say what a good DH he is and all that but his true reason for doing it is because he thinks I can't pack bags properly, don't know how I managed before we met!
He doesn't even like it when the lady on the checkout starts packing bags, he will stop her and say "I'll pack my own bags thank you"

He always makes tea in a teapot but when he's poorly I'll only make the first drink of the day in the teapot for him, the rest of the day it's teabag in a mug.

oh I could go on and on but I can tolerate his bossiness, what I am having trouble with is are his mood swings caused by pain and his forgetfulness where he will almost argue with me over something he says he did or didn't say.

As an good friend of mine keeps saying, "growing old ain't for Sissy's"

Mine is the love of my life, but he isn't perfect - difficult, cantankerous, knows it all etc. He, on the other hand, wouldn't admit it, but he does have the perfect wife!

I'm just in shock he cuts the hedge! My Mr Perfect 'Not' doesn't do a thing in the garden.
Everything he does is right & if he knows he has a failing he just won't do it ( gardening, decorating etc)
Mind you if you want a programme written on HOW to do anything in any electronic format you can think of- he's your man!!

I had a perfect Husband and i divorced him, I don't know if our divorce was perfect but i came out of it quite happy, now i muddle along really well, he is not doing so good.

The question is: only perfect wives are entitled to perfect husbands, so if we want perfect husbands......

Mine's clearly perfect in his eyes, never wrong and never apologises. After nearly 40 years I've learned just to smile sweetly and agree (whilst gritting my teeth) that he knows everything!
It's just not worth arguing IMO, my advice is à la Hildajenni ?

There is NO SUCH THING as a 'Perfect Husband'! They might think there is but we know better. Bless, they do their best on the whole. I would however object to him trying to put the blame on you for his mistakes. Stand your ground I say and put him right in no uncertain terms.

My husband has a tendency to "always be right" and has to be brought to task from time to time. The all time classic was when he pulled out at a junction in front of another vehicle. That was my "fault" - my head was in the way! suffice to say he got put straight on that one!

Despite the evidence being beyond reasonable doubt, my OH is never wrong about anything. I put it down to manly pride and although he is very familiar with this concept, he naturally refuses to believe that it exists. I, of course, know better.

Greyduster - sorry for that ??