How come ?

Annie perhaps you could try a snazzy brooch or bright crocheted flower on the side of it.

I had one that sounds similar, it was a loose knit one. I looked a right wally in mine but the DD both liked it and both looked fabulous in it.
They were upset when I threw it out.

The throws etc sound stylish though, must try again.

I suit two styles of hat, big flamboyant feathered 'wedding' creations, and cowboy hats!
Obviously there are precious few occasions to wear enormous 'posh' hats, but I have a few of the cowboy variety.
I have four 'Stetson' hats, one in dark brown, but the other three are black (film baddie hats!).
I started off with cheapy cowboy style hats, but bought a real 'Stetson' in New York in 2008 and have been hooked ever since. The latest is a black 'Hondo Vitafelt', crushable, water resistant and just gorgeous!
Even though technically they're made for men, they suit me, they keep me warm and dry and I love them!
If I put a wooly hat on, I look as though I'm wearing a tea cosy, so cowboy hats are here to stay!

Some great posts - made me laugh out loud, thanks for brightening up a grey day! I look awful in hats both casual and formal, but have been to 2 weddings and worn fascinators, which made me feel nice and wedding-like, felt ok and THINk I looked ok.

Wilma,??. No, its a cold in bed hat! I'd never go out like that!

Hats, all of them, just make me look like a bag lady ? I do wear a woolly hat in the winter when dog walking leaving me with hair plastered flat to my head! Yuk.

Why do I never look as good as the models in the clothing I buy . I know I'm older, fatter, wrinklier etc but still ....... I have a friend who looks wonderful in whatever she wears, a lot of her clothes are quite old sorry classic but she looks so elegant. I swear she could wear a bin bag and look great.

I think the way forward is to wear what you like and don't look in the mirror, it works for me!

I've got stacks of lovely scarves which I've been given but can never make them look good. I've also got several pashminas from Tunisia which I don't have any problem with. I have a few hats in my hatbox and at my granddaughter's wedding last September I wore the one which had had its previous outing at her aunt's wedding almost 25 years ago (I hope she never sees the photos of her aunt's wedding)! Going to the shops in winter I really don't care what I look like and usually wear a woolly hat with ear-flaps.

My first question when invited to a wedding is 'must I wear a hat?' - I always feel so foolish (although I do enjoy trying them on in private).

I can't wear hats I look so silly in them always envied ladies at weddings who could wear lovely hats, think I could get away with a ( not sure about the spelling) fasinater.

Thank you. It was delicious! I'm off now before I get told off for b*******g up the thread!

That to lewlew!

I was browsing the M&S website for a pair of jeans and noticed that the small print said that the model (who looked amazing of course) was 5ft 11ins and a size 8! Who the hell (apart from said model) is anywhere near those dimensions??

Don't retailers think that we as customers need to have an idea in advance what WE are going to look like - not what their product looks like on some skinny 23 year old beanpole.

Sorry, slightly off kilter in that it isn't about a hat...

...or a scarf.

Whew wot!

OK. If we're all saying we look awful in hats, just who are all these women we see at weddings looking wonderful?

Oh it's dresses with me . According to DD I look lovely (chance would be a fine thing) but the lack of confidence I feel when wearing one makes me stand and act all funny .

I think there is a you tube film demonstrating how to wear scarves in different ways.

I found it interesting, but can't remember them without trawling all through and reminding myself.

In the end, too much trouble.

But do have a look. You might get a few tips.

Victoria I posted a link to one at 10.19 today.

It's so funny! Why don't we all post pictures of us looking awful??!!

I have loved reading the posts - I too can't wear a hat without looking ridiculous. I wear a baseball cap in summer as I can put my hair through the back instead of tying it back. I have bought a "beanie" for winter but sure I'll look like Compo (Last of the Summer Wine)

Thanks for the laughs Ladies, good to see we've all got a sense of humour & that there are others who can't wear a hat

I think, from reading this thread, that you can't all look bad in hats ( too many) so perhaps ab and everyone else here all look absolutely fine.It's a theory!

It's a theory..... Bloody iPad.

I walk the dog on the top of the Downs in the middle of winter and don't give a toss what I look like in a hat -I would freeze to death without one

Doesn't do much for ones coiffure though