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oldgoose Fri 12-Aug-16 16:28:54

Most people who know me, know this already BUT......I HATE going on holiday. Oh how I wish I was different. There is one place I do enjoy going, but only because I have been there many times and always with close family so as well as it being a lovely village in Devon, all my nearest and dearest are usually there too and so I have good memories and because there are so many of us, we laugh all the time.
Holidays however, really give me the horrors. I wish I looked forward to it all as some people do, counting the days, packing and getting all excited, dreaming of the sea,the sun, the beach. People get all jealous and say 'I wish I was going , put me in your suitcase etc etc' but I just think 'Thank goodness it isn't me'.
I'm not much of a sun worshipper for a start, it makes me feel ill actually, I love my own bed and my own surroundings. I've worked my whole life to make my own home nice to be in and it's the best place in the world for me. I don't enjoy travel. I get sick in a car, on a plane, on a boat, and I've tried everything to prevent it but nothing has worked. I dislike going abroad because of the language barriers, the currency, the food and just about everything else. I dislike being in England because there are very few places you can go, where you can't get back home within hours, so I'd rather go for the day and come home to my own bed. I love looking at other countries on TV, and other places in the UK too, but they are there, I've looked at them, and I can then switch over and watch something else. The money you spend on holiday you could buy the best and most expensive food for yourself, sit in your garden, buy yourself a few treats and still not have to travel anywhere and spend hundreds of pounds.
I sound terrible, but it's true, going on holiday is something I dread and luckily this year I went for a long weekend with the family to our favourite village in Devon, and other half is going to Canada to visit his brother in October and I'm not going. BLISS.

ninathenana Fri 12-Aug-16 17:22:46

Not a lot I can say to that grin
I like to go away for a change of scene and to be waited on. We're all different.

Cherrytree59 Fri 12-Aug-16 17:24:52

oldgoose you sound a very happy lady. smile

Scooter58 Fri 12-Aug-16 17:32:11

I have a friend who is exactly the same,reluctantly she will spend a few nights away if she has too,never ever unpacks,jacket,bag etc sat on top of the bed ready to escape as soon as she can and get back home .

Luckygirl Fri 12-Aug-16 18:01:44

I am a bit like that - but I see it in a positive light - we live somewhere beautiful and I am very content indeed with pottering around here - so all good, I feel.

We go to the St Davids Festival in Pembrokeshire every year - it is my live music fix for the year; and we know and love the beaches.

There are those who love travelling - and that is fine for them.

Sit back and enjoy - no need to comp-are yourself with anyone else. You are you; so do what you like best.

phoenix Fri 12-Aug-16 18:07:50

There are places you can go with no language barriers and "different" food you know!

But if you hate going away, then you hate going away !

We haven't had a holiday since 2005, but definitely not through choice!

Would love a holiday, but no chance.

rosesarered Fri 12-Aug-16 18:09:29

I'm also a bit like that ( nowadays) although I never used to be.The poet Philip Larkin once said that he would really like to visit China.....if he could get there and back again in a day.grin

rosesarered Fri 12-Aug-16 18:12:06

I would prefer all holidays in England, there are so many places in it that I love, and not far to travel, but DH loves going abroad, particularly Switzwerland and Italy.I do enjoy it once there, I must admit.

Luckygirl Fri 12-Aug-16 21:12:36

I do love travel programmes though - armchair travel - just the ticket!

Hilltopgran Fri 12-Aug-16 21:28:04

I am pleased to know I am not the only person happy to be at home. We have only ever had a weeks self catering holiday in GB as all our spare money went into renovating our old cottage, so now I like to enjoy it. I do have to travel abroad in order to visit our grandchildren once or twice a year, but staying with family makes it less
Iike a holiday. I am well known in my family for always returning early from holiday!

Christinefrance Fri 12-Aug-16 21:41:55

You are not alone oldgoose I love being at home with my husband and animals. I like to visit places locally and come back to my own bed. Boring old fart or what.

Synonymous Fri 12-Aug-16 21:42:46

The older I get then the more I feel like you Oldgoose but DH needs a break now and then so we go away for a few days of rest so that he can be waited on. I am always pleased to get home! smile

Casawan Fri 12-Aug-16 22:01:34

Gosh, I thought I was properly odd, so good to know I'm not the only one who doesn't enjoy holidays. All that packing, hanging about in airports, driving on the other side of the road, getting too hot, and just longing to go home after the first couple of days. It is such a waste of money to me. Same in the UK, just substitute long drive, and wet weather. My ideal holiday Would be just one week when I don't have the g'dtrs ( though I love them to distraction), no daily visits to my frail mother, no shopping and no waiting in for deliveries. All those lovely hours, just for me. There should, of course, be perfect weather, warm and dry, but not hot, along with a fridge full of M&S food ( which I can't normally afford), at least half a dozen good novels, my iPad a and one or two good programmes on TV. Oh, and prosecco.

millymouge Fri 12-Aug-16 22:19:17

I am like you OLDGOOSE I am quite happy to stay at home. We went abroad for years but I was always so glad to get home. However, we were finding it was costing us an enormous amount to kennel our dogs, so I was able to use that as an excuse for us to stay at home and go out for days. However DH (bless him) insists we have a few days away otherwise he says I don't get a rest. We are going to a recommended dog friendly cottage for a week but I shall be looking forward to getting back home. We have all we need here, beautiful countryside and places to visit and take our dogs walking. Have meals out and come back to sleep in our own bed. I like my home, days out are really enough for me.

Pollengran Fri 12-Aug-16 22:23:26

I like to stay at home too. I love my home, and memories of long journeys, organising the whole family, washing etc belongs in the past. Give me a week on my own at home with my garden, my three little cats and Netflix any time sunshine.

lefthanded Sat 13-Aug-16 09:49:11

You need a caravan, oldgoose. All the advantages of your own bed and your own things around you, but you can take it wherever you want.

We get away in our caravan at least a dozen times each year. A weekend in Weston-super-Mare or a month in Switzerland, or whetever else we fancy. Good campsites start at around £12 per unit-night (as long as you avoid the July/August silly season) and there are plenty of them.

Luckygirl Sat 13-Aug-16 09:55:11

I agree about the caravan - we had one when the children were little and those were the holidays that I always enjoyed the most. No real packing/unpacking - just stick everything in the van and away you go. And you could turn round and go home whenever you fancied or if the weather was rubbish.

We virtually never had holidays where you were waited on - only self-catering. So....a bit like being at home but without your familiar bits around you - e.g. in the kitchen. or sometimes the equipment in the self-catering place was so far superior to ours that we looked askance at our own home when we got back!

We would not now stay in a hotel or a B&B (where you are adrift all day) as we both have health problems and my OH does not eat normally nor function normally for a large chunk of the day - we need our own space.