Open letter to all Gners

And I don't mean the reporting GNrs there.

Wise words Tegan- same for me too.

Will not ever change name though. Either I can be part of this community as jura- or I can't. End of.

Tegan, stay in the conversation. I am not seeing a witch hunt, far from it, I am seeing the old crowd back and chatting again.

It doesn't go by email addresses. There's something else they can identify you by. IP or something like that.

Yes they can Identify you by Ip address, but that may be more complex than is thought necessary. GNHQ never contacted me to say that I had used the same IP address. Some game site do this, and if you want two or more identities you have to get prior permission, ie 2 siblings playing the same game.

If we didn't have posters like jings, thatbags, kitty, phoenix and pompa, life on GN would be very boring. Soop brings humour and kindness and a nice place to be for those who need support. I love the many things they have posted and mostly in fun I think.

It has turned into a chance to air our annoyances - Granjura at those she thinks PMed her with unfair criticism, and many of us at the growing snowball of preciousness appearing recently on the part of some posters who (as has said before) will walk a mile over broken glass to be offended.

A sense of proportion is a useful asset. The regulars on dedicated political threads frown when a bit of light relief is injn equal right to object when the po-faced try to bowdlerise their thread.

I have not been on here that long. The silly threads really cheer me up, there is a need for them as well as the serious topics and those giving help and advice. It is such a shame that GT's OP was not treated as a humorous lament about bl..dy slugs who happened to have originated from abroad. Get a grip people! How is the battle going GT?

I think it is sad that the welfare of the site, as a business, is put so squarely first in the order of importance.

It is a site that may well be inhabited by older people in, perhaps, a slightly more vulnerable time of their lives. When untold upset can be caused by something as small as an email. Yet it is always made clear that the health of the website/business is more important than any one individual. I can't accept that. I'm not sure how ethical it is.

Money before individuals?

Lost a bit of that post. It should have read "when a bit of light relief is injected into their discussions. Those who post on lighter subjects have an equal right to object when the po-faced try to bowdlerise their thread.

I think that's unfair on HQ jingle. Plenty of vulnerable elderly people have had unpleasant comments aimed at them by posters on gransnet which can be far more hurtful than an email from HQ .

Please do not argue over this, Pax, as we used to say at schools (I never realise it was Latin until about a month ago)

The email I had from GNHQ was in no way threatening or unpleasant, annoying yes, but I am easily annoyed. And subsequent emails were friendly and constructive.

If you mean my "Right. Who's gonna be first to admit to being bald?" which I posted long ago on a hair loss thread, I can only say, for God's sake let it go! You've aimed plenty back at me missis.

Getting off this thread now.

I'm all for pax, with suitable adjustments at HQ to prevent such unnecessary upsettings from happening again

I suppose it takes all sorts, doesn't it. I am quite a cheerful soul (gran of little brain!) but others are much more intense and deep thinking.

We have impish, sad, tired, carefree or troubled members and most of us are probably a mixture but, IMHO, there should be room for all of us - a bit like real life.

And some members should be a lot less flipping judgmental.

There will never be pax on GN. That's why the whole thing is just not worth it.

No jingle; I wasn't referring to that as I don't regard myself as elderly and vulnerable.

Vulnerability comes in many forms. I am very vulnerable with my situation with my H and his illness which is getting more and more difficult. I am in constant pain with my knee. I am going to Manchester eye hospital this afternoon for an appt with yet a third team to assess my atypical AMD and I find it hard to read yet again to read of people living exciting and interesting lives surrounded by their oh so perfect families. What do I do? I suck it up,shrug and envy them their good fortune.
This is a big diversion, sorry, I just had to get it out.

JBF, I must search back for your "Bald "post so that I can take umbrage

ann I am so sorry that you are going through so much trauma at present. I just cannot imagine what your home life is at present as I am very well aware of the situation. That is not supposed to be a contradiction! Loads of

Enough said! kitty has put it in a nutshell.

My grandmother seemed to have an answer for just about everything - when asked if someones unpleasant remark about her had upset her she said that of course their opinion mattered - just not to her! I remember that whenever I read an unpleasant post

this thread Pomps. The first post. The one where I opened my gob and put foot straight in it.

Well said Tegan. I can never understand why people come on to a forum (it's not only GN) to say "I'm going". What do they expect everyone to say; people are generally kind so they will say "oh please don't go". If you feel like a bit of time out just take it and come back when you are feeling better.

It is no good criticising GNHQ, they are doing their job. I was miffed when they commented on my thread title but I went away and thought about it, thought they probably knew more than I did about running a forum of this type, came back and got on with things.

I also think that, of those who are saying GNHQ should have taken no notice of the complainant, there may well be those who have complained about others - as they should do if they think something is wrong - in the past and expected GNHQ to assess their complaint even-handedly just as they appear to have done in this case.

annsixty . Keep feeling free to "get it out".